Working dads...poor things!

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I work a full time job... high profile. Loads of stress....from home. Remotely.
Today I:
Woke at 6. Read work e-mails. Made his lordship his offer at 7. Dressed our little girl, got ready ...gave her breakfast. Took her to nursery. Worked full day ( in between did 4 loads of washing). Spent 'lunch hour' packing boxes for our upcoming house move... on conference calls for 5 hours. Pickup little munchkin. Cook dinner. Feed munchkin.
Him: works a day. Walks in the door. Plonks on couch. Switches on TV.
Says he is too tired to bath munchkin while I need to read urgent mails....
Ah! Poor thing.

I wish HimIndoors would take that kind of responsibility for my lack luster personal hygiene!

;)

Make his lordship his offers at 7?

Maybe he's an actual lord?

#notallpeersarelikethat

Not sure the sweeping generalisation in the OP is helpful. Many men are like that - but lots are not!

However, the thing that strikes me on threads like this is how sometimes the woman is then blamed for being treated like crap. It's all 'Why do you let him?' I don't get how, when people around you are being arseholes (whether it's husband, other family or anyone else), some MNetters' first thought is that it's your fault for inviting that treatment. I think everyone has the responsibility to think about others and to not be an arsehole. If I behave like a dick towards my husband, is it suddenly his fault for 'putting up with it'? It's a weird attitude.

Completely agree, however it is the op who is here and is asking for advice. I know how I think her oh should behave but ultimately I can only advise her on what I think she should do.

Just wanted to say it is possible to have a demanding and high stress job you can do from home that would still allow you to get laundry on. I have one!

That said, if I'm able to do several loads of laundry it's not one of my highest stress days and five hours of conference calls makes you busy but isn't in my experience particularly stressfull (unless you're leading for all five hours I suppose, but that seems unlikely).

And obviously in the situation described, if I had urgent work to do DH would have looked after the kids.