To be frustrated by people who won't talk about last night in London?

[MistySparrow]

I seem to be surrounded by a group of people who don't want to talk about what happened last night.

They seem very happy to post lovely social media pictures of parties, events, pictures of children beaming. Even those that don't seem unwilling to talk about this 'dark' subject (may be a product of where we live).

Am I some kind of weirdo or do these conversations need to take place?

Where do you live? What do you want to say?

It's very unlikely they don't care, but really, what is there to say?

I think it's a bit off to try to force people into conversations they're not interested in.

How do you know they won't talk about it? Maybe they just don't want to post on social media.

I've not posted a single thing about any terrorist attack. It doesn't mean I don't care.

Different people react to situations in different ways.

They are not wrong to not want to talk. You are not wrong to want to talk.

Can you get away and see (or call) someone who you know will talk with you the way you want?

I think sometimes, especially on social media, we talk too much about things like this and it fuels the fire.

Why should they? Either they were involved and are dealing with it and have chosen to talk to the media or their friends and family, or they don't want to talk about it at all.

And they may not wish to have their horrendous experience vicariously exploited on social media by vultures.

Why do these conversations need to take place when you decide? It's not for you to decide how other people process these things.

What's there to say? Isn't it awful? Yes. What can we do? Individually very little. Are you fearful? Yes.

I think most of us feel the same. What else can we say? Life goes on

I don’t want to talk about it either. I am horrified by it but i don’t want to discuss it with anyone. My DD1 lives in London. I really can’t dwell on it or i will make myself unwell.

I think in these situations you need to ask the following questions: does it really need to be said?
Does it really need to be said by you?
Does it really need to be said by you at this time?

What are you hoping to gain from these conversations? Unless you are all part of a task force with the job of combatting home grown extremism then this is not an important conversation they need to have with you today.

It is awful, but talking about it won't change it or make any difference.

What do you want people to say?

YABVVVVVVVU

P.s. Can't remember who I'm quoting(think Jon Ronson?)

I can't talk about it without crying, so I don't.

The conversations don't 'need' to take place unless people want them to. Personally, I can't talk about it. I can't put up an image on social media, light a candle, pray for anything, damn anyone. No energy, just sadness.

If you really feel the need to talk about it find someone like-minded. You can't force people to talk about it just because you want to. Why shouldn't they post pictures of "parties and beaming children"?

I'd rather people didn't mention it than post an "its all about meeeeeee" status when it really really isn't.

I agree that you need to ask yourself why you think people should talk about it do you have extreme views on the subject ? Maybe people don't agree with your views and don't want to get into an argument about it.

I find it very triggering and upsetting I have stayed off Facebook all day where people know me because I can't be doing with all the hand wringing and pointless we pray for in our thoughts bollix.

On here I can cope, just about, because I'm anonymous but you are being completely unreasonable to think you should have the right to over ride my decision which I have made as a mature adult of sound mind. That's a consent violation if you try to make me talk about something I don't want to - especially over something as vacuous and ineffective as bloody Facebook posts.

I don't want to talk about it. I want to see kittens and fluff. And you have no right to make me

We really are all different in our responses. We aren't far from London. I watched the news till 2am whilst my husband said at around 10.45pm "here we go again, i'm off to bed love." Whose right or wrong? I know he thinks it's awful but he doesn't want to discuss. I'm not on Facebook so not seeing anything on there.

Thanks, IABU it seems.

Do I know you? I've been posting lovely happy pictures all weekend. Certainly I've talked about the incident with my nearest and dearest but I don't need to emblazon my condemnation across Facebook.

Most of the posts regarding the matter are from the usual people on my friends list who are all me me me me.

They have posted self serving rubbish about how they feel about it and how it affected them when they are in the south of France and dont even live in London over here.

Just because you dont want to talk about it doesnt mean you dont care.

The best way to deal with terrorism is to keep going as normal: give them the message we are not afraid!

This was posted at London Bridge station today. Quite.

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