Being made to feel disabled.

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Basic background I was driving up to four different cars a week. I moved to my dh birth country with 4 ds. My dh and I chose an automatic car together. My in law said my ds we needed an automatic as I have MS. My dh says I am over reacting to a throw away comment. I am left feeling heart broken and feel all trust has gone in 25 year marriage and afraid of future if I need assistance.

feeling heart broken and feel all trust has gone in 25 year marriage

Really? Get a grip

Saying your DH has MS as well was something that might have been useful to know earlier on

It's VinisGroot's husband who has MS, not OP's.

I know, I know. Reading this thread is like wading through treacle.

Oops, sorry-I hadn't realised that wasn't the OP's comment about her husband having MS. Usually quotes from other people are in bold.

I'm still confused though!

I am left feeling heart broken and feel all trust has gone in 25 year marriage and afraid of future if I need assistance.
This seems like an extreme over-reaction to something that probably was just a throwaway remark. I do understand why it could have upset you so I think you need to explain that to your DH.

colalight MS is not automatically a disability. It would be for many but it is not automatically. It totally depends on how it is affecting you.
And if you are going to get picky about poor choice of working, it's "wheelchair user", not "wheelchair bound"