DH taking piss out of my arm bands

[NurseScorne]

Went swimming with DH this morning and he was constantly ripping the piss out of my arm bands. I've told him before about this and how it puts me off going swimming at all. AIBU to refuse to go with him in future? He says I'M embarrassing HIM

Your husband (and people on this thread) are being mean. You should secretly get swimming lessons like Julia Roberts in Sleeping with the Enemy. (Then you can escape and start a new life somewhere else without him).
Seriously, learn to swim but get a professional teacher, your husband is being a dick.

There are some really bitchy replies here. I don't know if this OP is real or not, but if she is, she's going to feel just great now, isn't she?
OP I agree with the comments about getting a proper instructor. I also learnt as an adult and I'm not the greatest or fastest in the world, but I feel safe when taking the DC swimming.

I honestly dont get why people are saying the husband is being mean. Someone further up said use a noodle and then strangle her husband with it - that's mean.

Tbh if I went swimming and seen my husband strut out of the changing rooms wearing arm bands I would laugh too. You don't normally see adults wearing them.

It obviously isn't working your husband teaching you, look into finding an instructor. Maybe watch a few YouTube videos too help putting your mind at ease. It's never too late to learn

KungFu because laughing at her when she is out of her comfort zone and trying to learn something new is mean. He is supposed to be supportive and teaching her. That's mean.

I taught my DH to swim. It took a day. We booked a spa day. Used the spa in the morning so we were nice and relaxed then went in the very quiet outside pool. My DH couldn't even put his face in the water or lift his feet off the floor to begin with and by the end he was swimming (not the best technique) 10 + metres. You need to ditch the arm bands and get a supportive friend. Take yourself off to a quiet pool and just go for it.

I'd laugh if it was my DH too Kungfu, I'd he'd laugh at me. We like having a laugh

Good for you OP for learning to swim. Good luck.

Hi OP-am sorry people are being so mean. It would be a great idea to get some proper lessons. I mean this in a nice way as a serious swimmer -even though you think that the arm bands are helping they are almost certainly doing more harm yhan good. They will slow your progress and damage your technique. But taking the Mike and undermining your confidence is more damaging than floatation devices! It is very natural to feel nervous. Good luck in learning-am sure it will be worth the effort.

Armbands are the most effective buoyancy aid for adults, I found (learned to swim in my 30s after school sadists put me off). It's a shame they're so bright. You can inflate one section and monitor your own improvement.

Noodles are always trying to escape and floats are pointless because you can't use your arms.

Sounds like DH is not helping really because laughing at non-swimmers is shitty behaviour.

What the actual fuck is up with this thread?! It's not okay to mock the OP.

OP, YANBU to expect your own damned husband to be supportive. It's pretty mean for anyone to jeer at you for using a floatation aid.

Do you have any nice friends who could teach you instead of your husband? I know others have suggested a proper teacher and that would be good too if you could find a kind one who would be patient with your anxiety.

I promise you swimming, or just doggy paddle and keeping yourself afloat isn't hard once you figure out that people are quite naturally floaty. I wish I could help you. If you're in Oxfordshire I'll go to the pool with you and I promise I won't mock your armbands. Hell, I wouldn't mind a go of them myself!

I'd snigger if I saw an adult in the pool wearing arm bands to be honest.

Apart from that, they're not going to help. Learning to swim as a beginner is as much about getting a sense of how to make yourself buoyant as anything. Wearing arm bands will get you used to having your arms as your most buoyant part of your body, whereas it's actually your chest and you need to learn to balance on that area.

Photo or it didn't happen.

I think it's great you want to learn to swim a skill an adult. I would sacknoff DH and go have some 1-on-1 lessons tho.

captain I got the impression of he's laughed in disbelief and part being embarrassed. It's a natural reaction for some. I don't see that as being mean, I see it mean for somebody suggesting strangling your husband. I said up above if my husband strutted towards the pool with armbands I would laugh out of shock, and part wtf are you doing - thinking he was trying too embarrass me. I highly doubt he's spent the whole time in the pool pointing and doing a Nelson from the Simpsons laugh.

Some extremely unpleasant posts on here. All of the disbelief and comments about the OP being ridiculous and feeling sorry for her H - really?

I think it's admirable that someone who cannot swim is now trying to learn. If the armbands make her feel happier and more confident in learning then why should it bother anyone else? If her H is so aghast and embarrassed at the prospect of being judged by other people in the pool, then my response would be that the other people need to get a fucking grip and find something else to get worked up about, and that he is clearly not the right person to teach her how to swim.

I find it pretty sad that he's clearly more bothered about the opinion of a load of strangers, than helping his wife. Good luck with the swimming OP - but my advice would be to find a proper teacher.

Although i can't say i've ever seen adult armbands, if this is real some of these comments are disgusting :( good for you OP but definitely look into 1-1 lessons with a teacher

Well done for trying to learn. Book proper lessons without armbands and admit to yourself an adult in armbands is quite an amusing sight. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or isn't proud of you just gentle teasing.

I was taught to float first before any swimming strokes.
Once you know that by holding a lung full of air you naturally stay on the surface, you have the confidence to know you as safe and can learn to swim without any aids.

noone is criticizing op for learning to swim

I'd have a little giggle tbh but not to your face.
Well done for learning OP, I'd get proffesional lessons though.

I got the impression of he's laughed in disbelief

Bollocks, you obviously haven't read the OP properly.'constantly ripping the piss' and 'I've told him before...' ... he knew it upset the OP and carried on. I'd be embarrassed to be seen with a DH behaving like such a dick.

You simply don't 'rip the piss' out of someone who's trying to learn a new skill if you're a decent human being with a shred of empathy.

noone is criticizing op for learning to swim

No, but there are plenty of people being critical of the swimming aid that she's decided to use. I'm still baffled by why people would find it so embarrassing/ridiculous/blah blah blah that an adult is using arm-bands whilst learning to swim. Why is what it looks like so important? Have we suddenly wandered into an episode of Keeping Up Appearances?

Children should not use armbands to learn to swim, they get in the way.
Complete and utter nonsense. But agree adults dont need them. Our teachers use arm discs for children and floats and woggles for adults

sorry not just disc for children, but floats and woggles as well.

The idiots people expressing incredulity might have had the wit to do a quick google thus finding that yes, they're a real thing.

theswimmingshop.com/beco-armbands-for-adults-orange.html

Loads more swim aids if the OP fancies something else
theswimmingshop.com/beco-armbands-for-adults-orange.html

Lots of adults can't swim so well done for giving it a go, but you need a proper teacher.

My DH once tried to teach me to snowboard. I swear to goodness I'm surprised we didn't get divorced. I will never step foot on a ski slope again.

If he's laughing at you he's not the right person to teach you.

Good luck!