To wonder if the choice of names is ill judged?

[BoysofMelody]

A very close friend of ours has just had a baby and whilst they have two very lovely first names,the initials spell a well known contraction of two very rude words, along the lines of Fiona Ursula Smith (FU Smith)or Bethany Jane Jones (BJ Jones) but even ruder!

A mutual friend was aghast and thought it will make the child the subject of teasing and was all set to raise it with our friend tactfully, but the baby has already registered with the unfortunate combo of initials.

I'm a bit on the fence, when told the first names, the rude initials were the first things that leapt into my head, but I guess if the kid is embarrassed by it, they can simply avoid using their middle name, but the mutual friend is adamant they'll have the piss ripped out of them at school, citing someone in their year at school whose initials were W.C. Taylor and they have been known by all and sundry as Shithouse Taylor for the best part of 30 years.

So you think this newly named infant will run into trouble in later life?

What's ruder than Fuck You?

I have a friend with the initials BJ, it's never been a problem for them.

What's ruder than Fuck You?

MF.

Quite possibly. It doesnt take much for kids to be cruel. You said the initials were the first thing to come to mind when you were told the name so if its that obvious I'd imagine the parents were aware of the initials before naming the child & still went ahead. I suppose its their choice at the end of the day but how unfortunate for the poor child.

Celia Ursula Naomi Taylor?

Oh - I always think of 'fuck you' as an insult. Motherfucker is practically a term of endearment

Celia Ursula Naomi Taylor?

Not quite that bad

My initials spell out something a bit rude. No one but me has ever noticed it. really wouldn't worry about it unless the child's initials spell Fuck or Cunt.

MF? As in motherfucker? I doubt most people will notice

I think BJ and FU are worse and even then, meh.

On the plus side it could be a 'boy named Sue' type scenario and they'll become tough and self reliant as a result of the teasing.

Plus, we'll get to see if nomative determinism actually works!

I've never been called by, or addressed by, my first and middle initials and surname, e.g EJ Jones. First name, middle initial, surname? Sure. But not how you're suggesting.

I went to school with a Benjamin who went by BJ. It probably got a few sniggers, but it never caused enough of an issue for him to go by Ben.

Unless the full initials spell out something like fuck, cunt, poo or wee, I don't think it's anything to worry about.

Maybe they could call him Oedipus instead?
He was some motherfucker.

DH was amazing at coming ùp with rude/possibly horrible nick names from the different names we I threw into the mix; future guilt stopped me pressing for one of them

My initials at birth were SLAG.

The child's initials are MF?

No one will even notice.

You're overthinking this.

I would have noticed FU or BJ but not MF. Particularly paired with a surname. I might notice MFI though.

MF is fine.

Ha ha just read the "terror attack is imminent thread" and was but this has perked me up no end!! Thanks mumsnet, I think Celia Ursula Naomi Taylor may have to be my next user name

I would only worry a bit if it was my first and last name (I.e Bob Jones) as when do we get called by or write down our first, middle and last names?! Hardly ever!

Honestly I think getting motherfucker from MF is a bit of a stretch...

Honestly I think getting motherfucker from MF is a bit of a stretch...

Really? There's a very well Prince song called Sexy MF

Um 😐 hi 👋

My initials are MF, I just realised. It's a very common name so I was alway m(name) Last name which is cumbersome. For a while I was meemfeee (like MF sounds)

No one ever called me motherfucker. Well they did but nothing to do with my initials.

You are totally over thinking this. Really - and I see filth and innuendo in everything...

noni that's reassuring that it took you til adulthood to make the connection!

I grew up with the initials MF - first and last, no middle name and not one person in just under 30 years has ever mentioned this. Your way over thinking it. Poor parents have given their daughter a name they love and all her friends can think about is her first and middle initials spelling MF. Big deal