"I suppose the point i was trying to make is that when my father was killed in an accident, when my 2year old brother died, when my 3 year old sister lingered and died with leukemia, the grief, the emotional and financial costs were the same. We had, and expected, no help. People, young and old die every day and every one is a tragedy."
I'm really sorry for your loss.
Of course you are right. None of these families would think that their pain is somehow worse than the pain of someone whose child dies on the road.
As members of the public though we have a greater interest in and desire to help people bereaved because of murder. I don't know if that is right or wrong, I suspect there is no need to challenge it right now.
I don't think every death is a tragedy though. Roger Moore's death at 89 after a happy and fulfilling life is not a tragedy, it is as things ought to be for everyone.