Dsc, new baby and maintenance

[Gildolann]

NC for this just in case!
DH has 2 dc, dss 15 and dsd 12. He currently pays cm to his ex wife.
I am 26 weeks pregnant and DH has been made redundant, so we have decided that I will go back to work full time and DH will be a SAHD, all going well with the birth, my post natal health etc etc.
DH ex wife has gone absolutely mental when she found this out, texting DH that i will still have to give her money every month. Saying her dc are more important than our unborn dc and how I will probably miscarriage again anyway and now I don't want to give her anything. I was going to continue the maintainance arrangement as normal but she has fucked that.

Hey dad, congrats on the baby! Can't wait to meet him/her!

Glad you're happy. Was needing to talk to you. I am going to give up work to look after the baby. What do you think?

I think that's great. But what does it mean for us?

Well, I'll have to stop maintenance 'cos legally I don't have to pay when I'm not working. My wife would pay, but in trying to protect you, your mum said something rude to her so now she won't. Sorry.

So mum has to support us all alone? How is that fair?

The Law says it's fair. I want to bring this child up,properly. You will have to go without, I guess.

What the hell does overtime have to do with it Andrew

I was making the point that it's not the absolute and unlimited obligation of an NRP to maximise his earnings and therefore his CM. If he chooses to return to his studies with a view to increasing his earning potential a few years later - when his CM obligations may be over - that's lawful too, and if may reduce his obligation to the Big Zero.

Nah. If he wants to just fuck his kids off and take no further financial responsibility, he can legally do so.

It might be lawful. Doesn't make it moral.

I was making the point that it's not the absolute and unlimited obligation of an NRP to maximise his earnings and therefore his CM.

You didnt need to make that point because this is not about overtime
Its about him choosing not to work and the OP supporting his choice not to provide for his children financially.

Agreed kitty 2 interchangeable gfs at that.

Yup!

I don't think the op is coming back.