To be irrationally annoyed by people with lots of DCs

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I know IABU really.

And that it's irrational, mostly groundless and a bit unfair.

But it really annoys me!

Any other irrational annoyances out there? I have tonnes more

Um, nope.

I had to have another baby just to keep the older ones busy.

Argumentative arseholes who pick a fight for no good reason

See I want to add "people who give rational examples when the question was irrational ones". But that would be hypocritical

Plus, you know, benefits. Fancied a bit of a pay rise.

Better six well behaved, hardworking and successful siblings than one egocentric, spoiled singleton.

Whut?

Since when are those the options one must have? nice little covert dig with throwing out the image of the only child who must be so spoilt what about the well behaved hardworking 2 kids? The useless bunch of 4? The excellent only child?

Why set up a non existent artificial duality or of what could be a million possibilities to shore up your choice to have 6 kids as the better of two options when those aren't the two options at all?

1 of 5 here, YANBU! I also have an irrational hatred of larger families. I think it's my own experience playing a part but I can' help thinking "you selfish fucking twats. Think of your kids, and stop giving in to the broodiness".

Ooh yes BMW drivers for sure!

My ex had a BMW company car that I would borrow sometimes. I always wanted to put a sign in the window that said "Sorry! I'm a Honda driver in BMW"

Oh I have so many!

• Large families (think of the planet people of the generations your creating will have no hope)
• Tories and Brexit voters (topical)
• People that don't vote at all are worse actually (topical again)
• people that don't know how to reply all in an email
• people that reply all when they really shouldn't have!
• oh and people that reply all when they have clearly been bcc'd!!!
• people that don't know how to use the tube and stand in the doorway / wrong side of escalators etc
• slow walkers and people that suddenly stop in the middle of Oxford street!
• tardiness
• people that love their dogs way too much
• the smell of dogs
• dogs
• pets in general
• people that complain about the naming of the drinks sizes in Starbucks
• and people that go to Starbucks and ask for 'just a coffee'
• the MN trans bashing. (Seriously we should protect the vulnerable)
• everyone on that thread last night kicking off about use of disabled loos when clearly that's where the baby changing is 90% of the time so therefore of course it's fine
• actually most threads (including this one) where people use a small few examples to make large sweeping points when clearly the OP/PP would use common sense and don't need to be told about this one specific scenario that would cause offense
• the phrase 'this too will pass'
• the way that you can never empty a hole punch without getting all the little bits of paper everywhere
• when people add a word that is already within an acronym. E.g 'ATM machine' 'PIN number'

I could go on and on...

edited by MNHQ - we felt one of these points was ageist, which we don't allow.

I'm the eldest of five and we have 5. I'm not offended when people say that they wouldn't want lots of children. I can understand that. I also appreciate the environmental argument. But what I can't stand is when people say that they couldn't possibly be getting the attention they deserve etc.

What you mean is that YOU couldn't possibly give multiple children the attention they deserve. I manage it just fine thank you! I home Ed, and spend more quality time with my children than many parents do. And their not hard work, they are a pleasure to be around.

I don't judge parents who see their children for an hour a day between nursery pick up and bedtime. I wouldn't want to do it, but I understand why they might need to or choose to.I don't see how it's something to be annoyed about. Do you judge those parents for not giving their children enough attention?

I am incredibly proud of my family.

What does annoy me though is unruly children. Children who run around restaurants, climb memorials, don't sit quietly in the cinema, ride their scooters at people on the pavement, chase birds, push in front of other children at the park... I could go on and on.

Arghh! They're I do know the difference, honestly! Just dodgy editing of my post.

Why is it a burden on the state? I work full time and I breed higher rate tax payers who will and are funding the care of the old and paying for the UK's benefits bill. I work full time as a single mother of 5 and pay an awful lot of tax. I don't think the argument that large families are a drain on the state holds. I don't get child benefit. I don't get tax credits. I get very little indeed.

Oh a couple more.

• Typos (mine that is, I can spell just can't seem to type and proof read)
• when people post on AIBU and it's clearly to vent or for support and just get completely torn apart!

I breed higher rate tax payers

😂

I have 6, ttc 7th and I ideally would now like enough to spell out "silly and irrational" across their tiny chests in tshirts.

I'm not going to try and quote numbers but I think very few of us actually pay our way. By the time five children have been put through school, used the NHS etc it's highly unlikely that your tax contribution has actually covered your costs. As I understand it only a small % of the very highest earners are net contributors during a lifetime.

Umpteenth I think the point is not whether these are the only two options it rather the irritating/infuriating false assumption of the narrow minded that more than two children means the tax payer is supporting a feckless lifestyle of constant and uncontrollable reproduction for some perverse selfish reason. It's pure bigotry.

There is probably more state funding to single mothers with one or two children.

There are definitely disproportionately more children using CAMHS from small single parent families than from stable larger families.
There are more children taken into care from smaller single parent families than from stable larger families.
Does that mean all single parents are doing a bad job? Of course, not. People are quick to judge about things they have absolutely no idea about. I can't think of one of my friends with larger families who isn't an excellent mother in a stable marriage with very happy and high achieving children.

Thing is OP, if you don't know why it irritates you, why would anyone on here know (or care).

Sometimes there's a lot to be said for just not posting every trivial thought that enters your head. Isn't that what FB is for?

It doesn't annoy me, but I do question the parents' sanity - as I have only one child, and at 18-months-old she is more than enough for me. Most days I'm on my knees begging to have my tubes tied - but everyone is different so live and let live I say! 😜

All things being equal, can you in your heart of hearts say that you can give your 6 dc the same amount of individual one on one time that I do to my 2 children?

2 things:

1: I'm one of 4 and had a sad (not unhappy, not neglected, but that's the word that comes to mind when I think about it) childhood. I feel like every big family of my acquaintance has at least one member who is hugely troubled and it affects all the others. I am very happy to have 1 child now. But this is just my experience - I wouldn't ever presume to judge anyone else.

2: Joggers on pavements are the WORST. I hate the way they're 'in the zone' so they don't get out of the way, also they are going far too fast while not looking around. They always have headphones in and they are just the most selfish road users of all round here. Also I think that by running through eg London in rush hour they are murdering their lungs. So they are stupid as well as annoying.

Women who dont wear make up annoy me!

Well how much time are you giving to your two children? And how much of that time is quality time that is providing a positive psychological foundation for the future?

Am I going to be crowned mum of the year any time soon? No, I'm not. I'm a better parent now I have 6 than when I had 2 though. Some parents of two will be doing a better job than me, some of them doing a worse job than me.

On balance, I genuinely believe that my family is better for being a big family and that I am a better parent for it. You can be cynical, it makes no difference to me at all