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Original poster

To think DF needs to stop going on dates for free food?

125 replies

SayHelloDoris · 20/05/2017 11:07

Bit of background info...

Friend is newly single by about 4 weeks. Recently she's starting going on dates to have dinners. She set up an online dating profile, is completely truthful with photos and descriptions etc.

She always meets with the ones offering dinner. She's also very good at sussing if they're going to pay, and will find this out quite accurately in a discrete/non direct way.

I originally thought it was a fab idea Grin Until I realised these men might be quite saddened to realise she doesn't want to see them again - She is beautiful and holds great conversations. Who wouldn't want to see her again?!

As by to say she isn't being fair? She knows I'm posting on Mumsnet and thinks over ladies will back her up Grin

OP posts:
Supersoaryflappypigeon · 20/05/2017 11:08

Confused what a strange thing to do. So she's just taking advantage of men looking for a relationship? She sounds lovely Hmm

Dianneabbottsmathsteacher · 20/05/2017 11:09

Her choice if a bit odd. Is she unable to buy and cook her own food? Does she want a relationship with a man or just with the meal?

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 20/05/2017 11:09

I'm too poor to buy proper food at the moment so can see the appeal.

I wouldn't actually do it though...

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 20/05/2017 11:10

If I wasn't fat, fifty, greying and wrinkled I'd try that myself lol

worridmum · 20/05/2017 11:10

She is not a nice person tbh taking advantage like that sooner it becomes the normal for 50/50 the costs the better

Marmalade85 · 20/05/2017 11:11

Pathetic behaviour. My sister does the same and uses Plenty of Fish as a substitute for RightMove

Original poster
SayHelloDoris · 20/05/2017 11:11

She has a fair income but likes being wined and dined without forking out for anything.

She says she does often enjoy these men and their company but isn't looking for a relationship as of yet

OP posts:
Squeegle · 20/05/2017 11:11

Why is it a fab idea? Is she on her uppers? She is just scrounging off other people! What an odd idea.

witchofzog · 20/05/2017 11:12

Cant she afford her own bloody dinners? I would rather eat a jacket spud in front of the telly than a posh meal with someone I have no intention of seeing again. Its just weird and grabby and not a nice way to behave

Squeegle · 20/05/2017 11:12

Totally selfish. Why doesn't she just pay half and then enjoy their company fairly

PuppyMonkey · 20/05/2017 11:15

Eew having to sit with some potentially boring fart for several hours just to get free food? No thanks. Confused

ilovesooty · 20/05/2017 11:15

Scrounger and leech. Why shouldn't she pay her share? More fool the men involved for allowing themselves to be fleeced though.

Original poster
SayHelloDoris · 20/05/2017 11:16

Puppy Who is sitting at dinner for 7 hours? Shock

OP posts:
worridmum · 20/05/2017 11:16

Basically your friend is a low level gold digger or leech if she has 0 interest in having a relationship not at all desirable traits

Original poster
SayHelloDoris · 20/05/2017 11:18

Well, she does see it as them getting experience of getting out there any meeting new women, she even sees it as a confidence boost for them so they have some dates under their belt before meeting a potential sincere date

OP posts:
gamerchick · 20/05/2017 11:18

Scrounger and a user then?

Dianneabbottsmathsteacher · 20/05/2017 11:19

Is your friend you op?

PuppyMonkey · 20/05/2017 11:21

I said several not seven Grin

Lord I hope she doesn't have to stay for seven hours a time.

LineysRun · 20/05/2017 11:22

several, OP. You're sitting there for several hours.

Original poster
SayHelloDoris · 20/05/2017 11:22

Dianne I'm married with DD on the way, definitely not me.

DH finds it really unfair and feels sorry for the poor blokes.

But surely they should expect these type of women by using these apps?

OP posts:
BorisTrumpsHair · 20/05/2017 11:22

I had a friend who would only date beautiful women and got himself into credit card debt wineing and dining first dates.

He was always crushed and bitter when they didn't have sex with him afterwards.

I was always very open with my view that he had a very shallow and sexist approach to dating and he got what he deserved.

Whathaveilost · 20/05/2017 11:22

Your friend is cheap.

witchofzog · 20/05/2017 11:22

How on earth can she judge what their confidence or experience levels are? Confused Many men on there dating sites are serial daters who have had more dates than she has had hot dinners (or maybe not more dinners actually but you know what I mean Grin). She is deluding herself if she thinks she is doing them a favour. She now sounds arrogant in top of everything else

Dianneabbottsmathsteacher · 20/05/2017 11:24

Well let her get on with it then Doris they are all adults

witchofzog · 20/05/2017 11:26

And op that comment about the type of women men expect to meet on these sites really makes me cross. Many many normal lovely women are on there sites because they don't go to pubs or clubs anymore, don't work with lots of men and many of their friends are partnered up so the opportunities just are not there. Don't judge other women by your friends grubby standards

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