To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

I once had a nice boy around as a playdate for my ds7. He came from a lovely family where the mum is obsessed with enjoy organic food. My budget doesn't stretch that far as I'm a single Mum and I had gone for what I thought was a children's favourite: birds eye fish fingers, chips and peas. He enquired fairly politely as to whether the fish fingers were home made - I lied through my teeth and said yes!! I also embellished slightly and mentioned I had also grown the potatoes I had cut up for chips and the peas were from next doors garden!!

Someone asked up post if she was an only child.. that would account for the hyperness with the others and wanting to hold baby etc.. didn't mean to cause offence! My partner is an only child.

Up thread not up post

sidelining the unfair stereotyping of being an only child amongst others

Gosh I've got off easy from some of these horror stories And the mother of an only child! double shock horror [wing]

What does come across in this to me is why the host parent allows such bad behaviour - not only that but to allow it to escalate? If a child was on a play date with mine then too right they'd be called out on their bad behaviour - and making 'ewww' noises, picking up a newborn not once but twice without permission apart from the rest would have me ringing that kid's parent to collect 10 mins ago!

Yes she is an only child,no pets which may account for a few things..

this is where your true judgypants show. Get over yourself OP

Apology accepted. For the record though, we really are not all the same - I wasn't hyper as a child, nor would I have been interested in a baby :)

Yes she is an only child,no pets which may account for a few things..

I was completely and utterly behind you, even agreeing this child sounded like a brat, until this point.

Away with the stupid stereotypes please!

My DD (now 21) is an only child and she NEVER behaved like that and had excellent table manners at that age.

Thanks..and I'm not being judgey Sty, it was just a thought really but I see I'm probably wrong anyway.

5.. I didn't mean the rudeness I meant the hyperness and over excitedness but like I said maybe I'm wrong.

this wouldn't be a MN thread without a few pearl clutchers telling us this is a child and thou shalt not say anything awful about children.

In MN world human beings who are younger than 17 years and 364 days old are angelic flawless beings and we should Be Nice no matter how vile they are. Anyone over that age - the rules are the total opposite. If an adult had behaved like this there'd be 50 posters telling the OP to call the police

not probably Lola, you are totally wrong. But I appreciate the apology.

I was the youngest of 3 sisters and an absolute spoilt, horrible child looking back

Having two sisters they soon put me straight

I'm afraid I would have given her a bit of a bollocking for acting like that.

Or at least a stern ticking off. Although I am a cuddly mum the majority of the time I cannot abide children being rude to me in my own home.

I am a bit of a meanie.

ffs op was answeering anotherposter who asked her if she was an only child

talk about jump on someoene

LolaTheDarkdestroyer Tue 16-May-17 22:35:46
Someone asked up post if she was an only child.. that would account for the hyperness with the others and wanting to hold baby etc.. didn't mean to cause offence! My partner is an only child.

[GabsAlot Tue 16-May-17 23:11:41
ffs op was answeering anotherposter who asked her if she was an only child

talk about jump on someoene]

Talk about get your facts straight before looking a fool? Maybe? [cringesmiley]

hangs head in shame at bold fail (not as much as some gabalot wink )

Nobody expects... the spinach layer....

I would be really embarrassed if a child annoyed me to the point I felt the need to contact the mom
Seriously?
So a child misbehaves and is rude, but better not tell the parents

ImALurkerNotAFighter
Apart from the spinach layer, that sounds nice!!
I put peas in mine too!
I sometimes top it off with cheese

I kind of see both sides, but I still firmly agree with those saying the child was bad mannered and should not be invited again.

Yes, she is a child, and she needs to be taught how to behave. But it's not OP's job to teach her, it's her mother's job. And how can her mother possibly know that this needs teaching, if OP and other playdate-hosters don't speak up?

No, it's probably not on to call a child names. But how many of us have come here to vent before? Personally, I'd much rather OP comes on here and lets off a bit of steam by writing the names down, rather than saying them to the child's mother - or to the child herself. I'm not so sanctimonious as to police her thoughts!

1. I friggin' love Shepherd's Pie, and if it had been served to me at a playdate I would have wolfed the plate and asked (politely) for seconds. I am aware this is besides the point and unhelpful to boot.

1. My mother used to make a similar egg and bacon pie with peas, carrots, tomato, onion, etc. She used to call it "Egg and Bacon Pie with Stowaways". For some reason, it was much more palatable to my younger sister and I to eat "stowaways" than it was to eat vegetables. Parents have been getting veg into their children this way since time immemorial. It may not be EVERYONE'S cup of tea, but I say, who cares how you get it done, as long as you're getting it done?

1. Back to the topic at hand. While I agree that she is a child, and that she needs to be taught how to behave, I have a very hard time believing that at nine years old she is unaware of how rude she is being. Nine is very much old enough to know better - even if it hasn't been modeled at home, it's old enough to try to mimic the behavior of your hosts.

1. I also agree with those saying that what was served is a complete red herring. OP was never upset that the child didn't like her Shepherd's Pie. OP was upset that the child opted to make revolting noises and obnoxious comments instead of doing the polite thing and saying "no thank you". Agreed that no one has once said the child should be forced to eat it. Agree wholeheartedly that the issue at hand here is that the child needs to understand that it is not acceptable to make the sick noises and the rude comments.

I am not sure why I started numbering my points halfway through.

Well said faint

Child was badly behaved and incredibly rude.
Yes, it's not ideal to be calling kids names, but sometimes kids act like brats.
The child is 9 years old, not 2, and is perfectly capable of not being obnoxiously rude. Why the child would say a toddler is done eating so they can play and keep picking a baby uo is beyond me.
Her mother needs to be told.

Fishfingers and oven chips. They all eat that.. Do they? I already said my dd doesn't eat chips, won't touch potato. And she refuses to eat fishfingers. And good for you faithin that you'd wolf down shepherds pie. You're not 9, are you? The child's behaviour was atrocious, yes. But we cannot assume children will eat stuff just because we like it or decree all children like certain foods. I think the food eating is a red herring as some children just are fussy and those, who are lucky not to have fussy eaters just don't get it. I'm starting to find this thread more and more distasteful as people muscle with their comments on a 9 yr old little, prepubescent child, who sadly hasn't been taught better. It isn't her fault her parenting is shit. Whatever happened to it take a village mentality?

This thread is really unkind. Tolerance and compassion go a long way. I would be really embarrassed if a child annoyed me to the point I felt the need to 1. Contact her mum. 2. Laugh about her online. 3. Refer to her in such a mean way.

I agree.

Things which wouldn't bother me: high pitched laughing, sliding down the stairs, going into a bedroom. Kids get excited, and lots of parents don't worry about walking around in boxers so the little girl might not think anything of that.

Picking up the baby: I would have carefully explained why you never pick up a baby without asking and knowing how to pick up safely. I would have helped her to hold the baby right, and then explained in a friendly way when it was time to give the baby back.

She was rude about the food, and I would have told her that it isn't ok to criticise other people's cooking. Parents of fussy eaters often say: "She eats everything" or "Oh don't worry if she doesn't eat". I find both of these comments very unhelpful. I have had so many kids over to play that I would always ask a child if she likes the look of what I am serving, and then offer an alternative like toast, fruit, plain pasta with butter or cheese, etc.

it isn't her fault her parenting is shit.
No. But it also doesn't excuse her behaviour.
Life isn't going to say "oh your parents let you behave how you like so don't worry our rules and expectations will be different for you".

The food issue isn't thr issue. It's the rude comments, telling adults thr toddler is finished because they want to play with them, repeatedly getting the baby etc. That's not ok. And yes, it can take a village which is why the OP needs to tell the mother exactly what's gone on and in future of the child is like that again tell her that "we are polite and follow instructions or you go home"