To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

[Railgunner1]

ImALurker, whatever that is, and nice as it sounds, it isn't Shepherd's Pie! And many kids would be taken aback by an unexpected spinach layer.
No kids here but I've nearly puked once when the dinner hostess presented her special lasagne... Topped with COTTAGE CHEESE

[youarenotkiddingme]

I also read expats post 3 times trying to work out how she knew the children involved and thinking she'd had a personality transplant in naming them!

The child was rude with all the ewwww etc.

But this is why play date food is chips, meat something or pizza and salad they help them selves too!

[dataandspot]

I think expat meant to post on my thread on telly addicts. Ironically it's about Kate plus 8 and how rude her children are to her!

[Squishedstrawberry4]

I once had an 12 year old put her fingers in her her mouth and make a being sick movement. She didn't think I was looking. She was eating a mild chilli with lots of bits and bobs. I was speechless! The other kids woofed the food down. Friends and family. I had assumed that the girl ate a mixture food at home. Now I just send her home before we eat as meals are planned/set for the entire fortnight and non of my family likes convenience food. She still has a rude side to her now aged 16. I wonder how nice/kind/considerate she really is!

[Squishedstrawberry4]

It's ok to dislike something. Not ok to be rude.

[Graceflorrick]

You sound really mean OP.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Oh well grace, I'll send her to you next time.

[Squishedstrawberry4]

No OP just sounds like she's intolerant of a rude child

[AlexaAmbidextra]

Graceflorrick. Are you one of 'those' mothers whose little angel can do no wrong?

[AppleOfMyEye10]

She sounds like a rubbish little shit. What a rude child. I would have got her up from the table and made her wait by the front door while I called her parents to fetch her. And then I would have told her parents about their horrid child and she's not welcome back here.

[Graceflorrick]

The child is 9, not 19! This thread is really unkind. Tolerance and compassion go a long way. I would be really embarrassed if a child annoyed me to the point I felt the need to 1. Contact her mum. 2. Laugh about her online. 3. Refer to her in such a mean way.

At least you feel completely vindicated because everyone seems to agree with you on here. I hope this post has made you feel good about yourself!

[Graceflorrick]

Alex, that's right. I think my DC is wonderful, I also adore all of her little friends and their mums. That obviously makes me a terrible person!

[DissonantInterval]

Grace I agree with you. Behaviour leaves much to be desired but calling a child a fucker, a brat etc is not on. Yes, she should be better mannered but she isn't and that's probably not her fault.

[WhooooAmI24601]

At 9 I would expect a child to be able to behave well enough at a table to warrant a second invitation to play. I'd also quite like to know if my DC were being so thoughtless and unkind at someone else's house.

YANBU to just let their friendship go; she sounds like a difficult guest to please.

[BrexitSucks]

I'm not harping on about the food, but I never heard of lots of veg in the shepherd's pie before this thread. Maybe because I'm forrin.

Could be the other parent is thinking you're a wuss and could have put foot down sooner to deal with a merely over-excited child. I'm just saying there's maybe lots of miscommuncation. yanbu, of course, to not invite again if you don't think you'll like having the child back.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

She sounds like a rubbish little shit.

. Words fail me. This is a child.

[caitlinohara]

I love the phrase 'unexpected spinach layer'. Immense.

[TinselTwins]

is the child the eldest or an only child?

I ask because DD1's friend who were sibling-broody but didn't have any younger children (or pets, same theory applies) would ignore what she wanted to do and play with DD2 instead of DD1 when DD2 was little. A little sibling was a novelty to them

Eventually I ended up arranging for DD2 to be picked up late from nursery on the days DD1 was having friends over who weren't blaze about DD2 (NOT an issue with her friends who had smaller siblings at home) so that DD1 got some good quality "big girl" playdate time.

[CherryChasingDotMuncher]

Peas absolutely belong in shepherds pie.

My mum once made a chicken tikka shepherds pie, so instead of mince and gravy you have tikka masala sauce and chicken, mushrooms and onions, it's AMAZING!

[purplecollar]

How can she eat everything if she's a "fussy fucker"? Shepherds Pie is the work of the devil for a fussy eater. They don't like food touching. I thought everybody knew that.

Fishfingers and oven chips. They all eat that.

[GeorgeTheHamster]

I think the problem is that parents expect children to behave on play dates but won't tell them how to do it. I'd have told her to stop saying yuk and all the rest of it. They get a bit over excited and silly. Then if they aren't stopped it just kind of spirals. You can't give up on them if you haven't tried to tell them what the rules are. But sure, if you have and they are still rude, don't have them over again.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Yes she is an only child,no pets which may account for a few things..

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

But things like waltzing into a shut bedroom and sitting on the bed while partner was in his boxers getting dressed?

[purplecollar]

Yes she is an only child,no pets which may account for a few things..

Oh dear god. I suppose you think yours go round to others homes and behave perfectly? I know a couple of mums like that. One of their dc says please and thank you, can use a knife and fork perfectly, then tips an entire bowl of spaghetti over somebody else's head. Or perhaps the one who gets mattresses off the bed to surf down the stairs (beautiful manners though). Get real. They're all awful when away from home. You're deluded if you think yours are any different. I've yet to have a perfectly behaved 9 year old round.

[yellowfrog]

OP I was right with you and thinking YANBU, until Yes she is an only child - we're not all rude monsters you know, so sod off with your stereotyping