To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

[CherryChasingDotMuncher]

Oh god sounds awful, how completely rude! My 4yo wouldn't say "yuck" at someone else's food nonexcuse for a 9yo

[booellesmum]

Once had one of DD'S friends sit down for dinner and throw the chips over her shoulder that she didn't want to eat. She was made to retrieve them.
Another friend left the table during pudding and I later found a splodge of brown on DD'S bed - she had gone upstairs with a mouthful of chocolate ice cream and spat it out on DD'S bed.
The vast majority of the kids we've invited round have been lovely though!

[Garlicansapphire]

I had one kid round who deliberatley wee-ed on a bed as part of a game and the mother said 'oh no I'm so sorry, we have waterproof mattress protectors on our beds.' 'We dont need them - till now' I replied.

The same kid helped herself to strawberries in a bowl on the side waiting for tea, and at a party, as a joke grabbed loads of sandwiches and threw them in the air. Her brother was no better. Both kids caused no end of problems with the other children in their classes at school.

Had another girl round who just picked up my computer and started using it without asking.

My DCs did not behave like this at other peoples houses. But we none of us would eat tuna curry! I thought you kept food simple for playdates!

[AyUpMiDuck]

I quite agree with Spybot and DrinkingTea - Sounds like she has never been corrected and given the basic rules of how to behave.
I happily reprimand rude children if they ignore the first polite request or raised eyebrow.

[DearMrDilkington]

Well...she's going to be a pleasant teenager in a few years time, isn't she..

[Aeroflotgirl]

Thanks goodness my daughter has ASD and in special school, we have largely avoided playdates, I am , at the behaviour of these kids. My daughter would not do most of that behaviour, but she will say yuck if she does not like a food, as she has sensory processing disorder with her Autism, and some tastes, textures and smells make her feel sick.

[MycatsaPirate]

If these kids are behaving so badly at other people's houses, what the fuck are they like at home??

Both my girls have, over the years, been a pita at home but never at someone else's house. Every time they were collected or brought back I've been told they have been good as gold. Same at school. They just save any back chat or sass for me.

I have always set ground rules when dcs had friends over though. Made it clear that if they get something out, they put it away, no drinks up stairs, no food upstairs unless agreed with me first, no shoes on in the house and if they want anything from the kitchen just ask.

And I always check with parents about food first. Nothing worse than making a dinner for the child to refuse to eat it but that's not happened.

I wouldn't have anyone back who behaved like this. To me, having a friend over for my dc means I get peace for a couple of hours rather than having to supervise someone elses unruly child.

[SaorAlbaGuBrath]

@DailyMailReadersAreThick thank you

[Mrsmadevans]

Never invite awful brat again!

Boak @ tuna fish curry

and which thread is the Jacob one (sorry op)?

[SaorAlbaGuBrath]

Aye to be fair tuna fish curry sounds rotten!

[MaisyPops]

Both my girls have, over the years, been a pita at home but never at someone else's house. Every time they were collected or brought back I've been told they have been good as gold. Same at school. They just save any back chat or sass for me.

Sounds like most kids. I teach a colleagues child and she'll say "how's he getting on" and I say lovely things and she replies "he was a pita last night and this morning. Clearly mams in his bad books".

First rule of being a kid isn't it? Save angst for your parents.

[BrexitSucks]

You put peas in shepherd's pie??

[tobee]

Now I'm obviously weird and thinking "hmmm tuna fish curry, wonder what that's like?" I'm always up for a food challenge.

[MycatsaPirate]

maisy True. I know so many parents who read their childs report and think 'helpful? kind? polite? Is this MY child??' :o

But when a child behaves like that out of the house it makes you wonder what, if any rules, are in place at home and what their behaviour must be like at home.

[Ipigglemustdie]

To be fair I don't think she wbu with the peas though. They are euwww

[SoulAccount]

Tuna Curry sounds like something students make when they have spent all their money on vodka shots.

Revolting.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

I didn't make the Shepard pie oh did. And he puts the veg with it. I had already meal planned for the week so that was dinner for today..and I had double checked with her mum... I normally cop out and just do fish fingers for play dates so thought this would be a change.

[honeylulu]

OMG I think you are amazing OP for hosting playdates while you have a newborn. I hate playdates- I literally count the minutes until little "Johnny" or whoever can go home!!! And they are all bloody fussy eaters or maybe my cooking is shit I don't bother with anything other than oven pizza now.

[Floggingmolly]

What's up with peas? Peas, carrots and onions go in a shepherds pie.
That's official.

[llangennith]

Don't have her over again, ever!
I would've told her:
"It's actually bad manners to make rude remarks or noises about a meal that someone has made for you. Leave the bits you don't like and please keep your opinions about the meal to yourself."
She may well have then cottoned on to the fact that you're the boss in your house and not her.
What do other parents think of her?

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

I'd have probably had to pick the cheese off the pizza if I'm honest.

[honeylulu]

Oh and we always have peas (and carrots) in our shepherds pie, and cabbage on the side slathered in Worcestershire sauce. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong lol.

[Lovemusic33]

A have a fussy eater who has Aspergers, it has taken me a long time to train her not to moan about other people's food, food used to make her so anxious that she would cry and gag if someone dished up something she didn't like ( which was almost anything ). I have taught her to say 'no thank you , I don't like xyz ' but once we were at relatives and they tried to put food on her plate and she said 'I don't want any, I have nice food at home' ( I was mortified ).

Last year I took dd and her friend out to Pizza Hut and the cinema, her friend was really rude, said the food was rubbish, begged me for money for sweets after refusing to eat the pizza that he wanted, then he spoke all the way through the film and told me I was rude for not asking him what sweets he liked before buying them. I was pleased to take him home and we have never asked him to come out again.

[llangennith]

Some of the posters on this thread sound like adult versions of the brat.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Shepard's pie is great, I make it for the kids. At school they would have to eat their dinner up or they go hungry. Your not running a restaurant op.