To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

[creamycrackers]

Same here WH&T my boy isn't very good at hiding his feelings either I'm guessing he did the same when party and play date invites stopped by the time he was 6.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

I didn't say anything to her no, I actually just left the room.

[libbyliz83]

Mine once had a friend round like that. I'd checked with the mum first and cooked what she said she'd eat. When I called them down to tea and said what it was she looked at it, said "no I don't think I'm going to like that. What else you got?" and opened the fridge!! I've never been so speechless.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Haha Libby.

[DoloresTheRunawayTrain]

My DS had a friend round once who poured juice over everyone's tea and shut DS2s hand in the gate. He was told he hadn't been very polite. His mother was told about his antics and her response to just say "oh yeah he does that a lot". He didn't get a second invite.

[drinkingtea]

If you have another kid like that over say something for goodness sake!

A friend of one of my kids seemed to believe we found his pita behaviour amusing - I suspect someone somewhere had laughed and said "typical P" or "he's such a boy" or something. I told him that if he continued that specific behaviour he wouldn't be welcome again, and he turned it off like a tap ...

Sometimes you just have to say, some kids get carried away and genuinely don't realise...

If you've told them and they still continue, they go home early and don't come back.

[ShieldMaidenMamma]

Lol expat, read your comment 3 times trying to figure out how it was relevant :)

[WankersHacksandThieves]

I once had one poor sod that was so polite he got left at the table

I had a gaggle of small boys round, I put the food down on the table and left them to it. I could hear plenty of loud hilarity etc, I then heard them all head out into the garden.....well I say all but a short while later I realised I could hear one small voice from the dining room saying "please may I get down now?" Christ knows how long the poor little sod was sitting there politely asking while the rest of them were out rampaging.. He is still a lovely lad :o

[SaorAlbaGuBrath]

Wankers your boy sounds amazing
OP I'd have said something, in fact I have in similar circumstances when DS1s "friend" was doing the same thing while eating the lunch he'd requested. I told him he didn't have to like it, but he did have to remember his manners or get down from the table so as not to spoil everyone else's meal. This is the same little shit wee boy who's mum thinks he can do no wrong and when she was challenged about him telling DS1 last week that because my mum has cancer she will "die screaming in agony and will be like a zombie" responded with "oh no xxxx would never say anything like that!" I give up.

[LurpakIstheOnlyButter]

expat

I actually know what you are talking about out of context.....its the red tent isn't it?

[DailyMailReadersAreThick]

SaorAlbaGuBrath I'm sorry you had to hear that.

[DissonantInterval]

I'd not invite her round again but calling her an annoying little brat is a bit mean. She's just a 9 year old girl who hasn't got great social skills at the moment.

[OnTheRise]

I had one kid round here once who shoved my son over onto the floor (they were about 7 then) and when I told him not to do that again, he said he could do what he liked because he was our guest. I told him that he had to behave nicely or he would have to go home, and suggested they did some colouring at the table (where I could keep an eye on him while I made their dinner). He proceeded to say that he was going to take all the colouring stuff home with him and we had to let him because he was our guest, so I stopped cooking dinner, put him in the car and took him home.

His mother was astonished that he'd been brought home for such behaviour. "But he's a boy!" she said, when I told her about the shoving. And, "You have to be nice to guests!"

I didn't invite either of them back.

[WankersHacksandThieves]

Reading all this, I have to say I have been amazingly fortunate over the years. I've only ever had one issue and that was with an uninvited guest at my DSs birthday party.

[Boredwithmyname]

I've found most youngish children do respond to being told that's not the way to behave, but I did give up on one. By the time we'd walked home from school he'd spat in the street, almost got run over (I didn't push him, honest) and grabbed my tits (he was about six). He then tried to take our dining room table apart, wandered around the house touching EVERYTHING and threw food around. Unfortunately I'd already offered to take him out to a children's show the following week (I'd been fooled by the fact that his mum was lovely) so I went ahead with that outing during which he constantly demanded to visit a toy shop and, the last straw, poured salt into my tea. He got crossed off the invite list.

[Imaginosity]

I wouldn't have served a child visiting my house a dinner that they wouldn't enjoy. If they didn't want it I just give an alternative like toast. Not ideal that she's being so blunt but she's just a child and I'm sure she'll turn out nice enough in the end. If it annoys you just don't have her around again but don't make too big an issue out of it. I have a child with autism so I think I have more tolerance and understanding for not so ideal behaviour from children. We help them in a nice way to learn the right way to behave - don't write them off as just being horrible. Your tone sounds quite harsh about a child - you don't come across well yourself.

[Fragglez]

I'm kind of surprised that the focus here is on dinner?

I mean, yes, she was very rude, when i was her age my parents had made it perfectly clear that while i could say i didn't like things at home - at someone elses house i had to eat what i was given and say thank you.

But picking up the baby?! No way. That would have got a stern telling not to, and doing it again would have meant a trip home. How dangerous!

[Floggingmolly]

If a visiting 9 year old kept picking up my newborn I'd have her sitting bound and gagged in the corner till pickup time.
No, not really... but I'd have driven her home the second time she did it, that is completely outrageous behaviour.
I'd be furious at the yuck noises at the table too. Mum obviously knows full well what she's like if she had to warn her in advance to mind her manners!
On the reverse side; if I'd been the one to get a call about my own kids misbehaviour I'd have been round there like a shot; mortified.

[Craigie]

She sound like a brat. If it was me, I would have told her off for being rude about your food, and told her she had to eat it after she'd picked the peas out. Some kids just aren't taught good manners. My kids have got a couple of friends who have horrible table manners, but I'm perfectly comfortable telling them how they have to behave in my house i.e. don't chew with your mouth flapping open, don't gulp your drink, use your cutlery not your fingers. I would also have been very firm about not touching or picking up the baby.

[Trifleorbust]

Why are you not worried, OP? I think you sound like a bit of a cow here, if I'm honest. Yes, she was naughty but she isn't a fucker.

[Motoko]

I used to be a childminder, as well as having 3 kids of my own. I never had a problem telling visiting children not to do stuff.

You told her not to pick the baby up and yet kept doing it. I'd have told her that if she did it again, I'd have to call her mum and she would go home early and wouldn't be allowed round again.

She'd have been told not to go in my bedroom at the start of the playdate.
The food, I'd have said that her mum said she would eat it, but if she didn't want it, to just leave it, but it's bad manners to make noises like that when someone has taken the trouble to cook food for them.

Children do need to be told some ground rules when they first come round, as they may be used to different rules (or none at all) at their own homes.

Don't invite her again.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Roll on pick up time, and never invite her again.

[SummerMummy88]

I hate rude kids, she sounds like my niece goes around thinking the world revolves around her. I do think sherpards pie is a rather strange choice for a group of kids having tea at a friends house but that's just my opinion, I would just do a buffet type salad tea do they can pick and choose what they fancy.