Parents staying with kids at university

[daffodil10]

My daughter is only 14 so it'll be a few years till she starts university. A colleague mentioned to me that it's quite common for parents to stay with their kids at uni for the first week. When I went to uni my parents drove from Scotland to the midlands dropped me off and drove back again. I couldn't afford the train fare so it was xmas before I saw them again. I can't believe parents stay - let them go!

Actual Tom Hiddleston petal ??! faints

I work in a university and this is completely unheard of.

Nope never heard of it.

Yes @bosswitch . He was very nice

Surely this cannot be a big issue. If someone were to be accompanied by their parents (read: probably mum) for a few days, and agree to it, certainly it couldn't do any harm. I have never heard of it happening in IRL, though. Juggling all sorts of responsibilities, being lonely and in a new place faraway from home might be a daunting task. For those who manage alone, great, for those who feel they need some support, equally great.

130 odd posts all confirming that no one actually does this. . No judgey pants required here

(Except one person who's child was having MH issues and parents lived overseas so perfectly understandable!)

In the interests of full disclosure i should point out that ds1 is going to university a 30 minute drive away...so its all very well me saying 'no I wouldn't' i dont need to...i just need to drive fast

Well colour me jealous petal! Glad to hear he was nice, he always comes across as a nice guy in interviews/press stuff.

If someone were to be accompanied by their parents (read: probably mum) for a few days, and agree to it, certainly it couldn't do any harm.

Well, apart from the fact that while everyone else was getting on with it, they were being chaperoned - and that everyone else would remember. Forever. At reunions decades later people would be saying "do you remember that bloke whose mum stayed in his room for four days..."

@peachypip my friend didn't have mh issues

@PetalMettle

Fair enough 😌. 130 odd posters saying this never happens bar one person who's kid had MH issues and one other person

I think I remember Bristol having a talk for parents at one stage - it might have been on dropping off day just for an hour and then I left.

Oh I certainly wouldn't say usual, just wanting to flag it does happen!

Wtf? I'd have been mortified if my parents had even offered to stay with me!

Just dropped them off ( 3 boys at uni in 90's and early 00's) , helped to carry the stuff in from the car, did a food shop with them and left them to settle in.
I do recall with youngest son that another mum was sorting out her sons room, putting his stuff away, organising his food cupboards etc and thought it was a bit odd really.