my friend is selling the clothes I gave her for free

[tinnylittlethings]

I have a friend who's daughter is a year younger than mine. My daughter is 7 years old. She worked at the nursery where my daughter went. I remember her making nice compliments about my daughter's clothes . She was a single mother at the time and working part time. She asked me if I could sell my daughter's clothes to her once she's out grown of them. I said of course and I had started to give all my daughter's clothes ( good condition ones ) to her for her daughter. I didn't want anything for them. Couple of times she brought me bunch of flowers as a way of saying thank you. I felt good about helping a friend. Clothes were all good and all from Next . Since my daughter had started to school we rarely saw each other. But I still continued to do my good deed until this year. ( I haven't sorted my daughter's clothes yet for this year. ) I recently met up with her for coffe after a long time . (Out of blue she asked me to meet up with her ) . I paid for my own coffe. She has a good job and earning well now. I don't know if IABU but I kinda expected her to pay it for me after what I did for her many years. We are also friends on facebook. I saw she was selling all the clothes I gave for her daughter on one of Facebook selling page last night. She is selling them as bulk ; 2-3 years etc .. and each bin bag is £15. She put " all from Next " on her advert. I didn't feel good about it at all. I know they are her daughter's now but she could give them away for free to someone ?! AIBU to think like this ?? I can't stop thinking about it.

Astro55 ;
Thank you . I don't expect people to agree with me hence the original thread. But unfortunately some people haven't read anything I write but still writing ... And some are just here to insult... Thank you for helping me here .

Ahh, so only people who agree with you are allowed to reply. I see now. funny that you are now saying, she said she would give them to a charity. I just don't believe you.

Why don't you say...ooh I saw you were selling the clothes I gave you but I have another friend who could make use of them so is it ok if I pass them on?

I never said or meant that ! I posted here to ask for opinions ! I thank everyone who replied and said their views etc.. But insulting ? So immature and rude ! If you bothered reading my earlier posts then you would have already know . Yes, she did tell me few times in the past that she would do the same when her daughter grows out of them. I was happy to hear it. I rewrote that for you again .. Anyway, I don't care if you don't believe me or not. I have received really good YABU and YANBU replies so far .

Thanks to everyone who spent time to share your opinions. Much appreciated.
I can see why some of you says YABU and why others says YANBU.

Well, as I stated earlier; this certain friend will not receive anything from me from now on. I have decided to donate all clothes to the women refugee branch near us. That's the best outcome of this thread and I am feeling happy . Thank you all again!!

Poisongirl81 ; I thought about that but no need . I will tell her that I am going to donate them to the women refugee. That's what I will do . Thank you for the reply .

Op yanbu

I wouldn't sell on something I didn't pay for originally. The baby items I was gifted/had passed on I put on free cycle. I see it as paying the kindness forward, and right or wrongly I wouldn't feel happy selling on something I was gifted. It would have been polite for her to ask you first at the very least.

Morally, YANBU.
But YABU to expect your gesture to be met with conditions (which you didn't point out to her).

You did it out of kindness, remember? Do you think that now she's back on her feet, it feels like she has no time for you? Do you feel used? Do you think it's more about this, rather than the coffee, rather than the clothes?

In her defence, she did offer to buy the clothes, although I'm not sure I would have felt comfortable selling clothes to a good friend.

I gave an animal cage away to an acquaintance & saw that he had sold it on FB for £40. I just thought, good for him. Because if I had been arsed, I could have got the same amount.

I expected her to give them away for free to the charity or someone in need. That's what she said she would do
Why have you only just mentioned that now 100 or so posts into the thread??

Also don't forget, if she still owes you for the clothes then you still owe her for the flowers.

Sorry correction you mentioned that your friend said she was going to start giving the clothes away but nothing about the exact terms.

So what if she gets £15 a bag for sorting them and getting them clean and ready for their next owner.

Do you really begrudge the woman a few extra pounds??

I forgot to mention few things on my original post. I did say I am on lot of medications and can't concentrate however I did mentioned about that on my previous posts not just "now". I am not begrudge this person at all. I am feeling more disappointed . Anyway, like I said this won't be happening again . Thank you for your posts.

I did feel like ' stupid ' when I saw her post lol. Felt more confused and mixed feelings actually. That's why I made this thread to see what everyone else thinks. Thank you for your post .

Bloody hell how do you keep track of which clothes were given by friend A/B/C, which were bought as gifts by family, which ones you bought new, which ones you bought second hand etc etc?
Utterly ridiculous. If you had given me your second hand clothes under the condition I must pass them on fit free, I'd have handed them straight back to you. Who has time for the faff??

Honestly this lady doesn't have the same ways of doing stuff as you.

As you are not well and find it hard to concentrate, just let this one go because it really doesn't deserve your time and effort.

Just don't give her any more clothes.