To think that children should west school uniform for their First Holy Communion

[MyheartbelongstoG]

Instead of parents having to fork out a small fortune for one day.

If it was really about the sacrament of God there is no need for all the frills and unnecessary expense.

I appreciate if some people feel like they are locked in some kind of holy communion standoff and pressured by everyone else's increasingly spendy take on it

It can be hard to be the one who says, meh, I'll do it my way cheers

However, non Catholics getting aerated, really, why? like what actually is it to you what people choose to spend time or money on?

I guess if being pissed off at the antics of others makes you happy, at least you'll never lack for fodder 😂

Strikh

the first one you posted... That's what the children wore for the few communions I've attended (Not in the UK, btw). (I wasn't raised Catholic, where I live Holy Communions are pretty much excluisvely Catholic...)

But the girls usually did have some sort of flower crown or something similar. It actually looks rather adorable imo. But it seems as if there is more room for individuality in the UK, which does seem like a rather lovely thing, doesn't it?

It can be hard to be the one who says, meh, I'll do it my way cheers

I think it's actually really nice that in the UK people have the opportunity to do that :)

First time I saw a limo was yesterday and they were from the travelling community.

Cricket- the kids in the robes look great.

This would be perfect.

I had the full child bride look complete with veil and big flowers .

My nephew was done recently and looked like a 50s gangster with slick hair and a fat tie! He was obsessed with how he looked on the day bless him.

When I was young my mum went over the top for my first communion. Massive dress, gloves, bag, veil, parasol, cape; and then a huge party at a local function suite. Don't know if she was trying to or make up for her having a much smaller communion when she wasn't young. We were really religious so I guess it was a huge deal to her. But looking back it must have been horrible for kids who's parents just didn't go "all out"for the day. I loved being a mini bride , but yeah, a school day uniform is much fairer

I went to one in Scotland where the boys wore kilts and that was lovely.

It doesn't matter what they wear from religious pov. But then why do people put babies in christening gown? They could just wear a babygro.

Myheart

Maybe. But Idk, a certain amount of individuality is a really nice thing as well (imo).

Although, I imagine it really does decrease the amount of fuss for the parents.
And no child will feel left because the parents couldn't afford a big dress/new suit. Which is also an advantage.

But they all look so darn priestly!

Why does it need to be 'fair' though. You might go all out for a FHC but have a small budget for Christmas. You wouldn't suggest someone limits their personal Christmas budget to make it 'fair"' on poorer families would you? So

there's always room for individuality everywhere, but maybe less pressure than some of the places described here

I think there's a difference between a pretty dress and an over-the-top mini-prom feast. I know that some priests strongly remind parents to keep things fairly simple, but it's just an advice.

Cricket, when you have three communions one after the other you can definitely see the advantages of a robe.

Individuality is great yes, that's what shoes are for ;) only messibg , I'm not that bad!

Donut, its a religious day, not a day for showing off.

The whole point of school uniform is so that all kids look the same and you can't tell by looking at them which ones have money bla bla.

Strike

I don't disagree :) and yes, a nice summer dress isn't the same as a princess "wedding gown".

Myheart
Well, yes. You could use the same robe for each child (if they're about the same size) ;)

Yes, it's a religious day, but so is a wedding. Should all brides wear a uniform of black tshirt and jeans so other people don't feel upset they can't afford such a nice dress?

Do we have identikit funerals where no one is allowed flowers or a nicer meal afterwards?

Why should FHC be different?

Cos they're kids donut and don't fully understand what's going on.

Donut

Was that a question for me? Because I wrote that having a "uniform" may keep people from feeling left out?

I personally think it honestly depends. But if it's something done by a school...? Why not. I mean, unless the children don't wear school uniforms either? I think it might make sense to have a uniform robe. But we're not even Catholic, so...

Btw, I don't think weddings or funerals are comparable. It's usually the funeral of one single person (and the wedding of two people), not of a whole class/group.

I think weddings are an even bigger waste of money!

I got married in Jamaica in 2003, 2 weeks in a five star hotel. 1800 pound for the lot.

myheart but neither would a bridesmaid or a baby at Baptism? Why should children all be forced to wear the same thing for a day where some of their parents decide to make it a bigger deal, then 6 months down the line see children in their class getting iPhones for Christmas when they have a £50 budget?

I don't think they should wear school uniform as it has nothing to do with school and school uniform for a child is everyday clothing and not special. I'd have hated to have to wear school uniform outside of the school context for any reason as a child.

I'd be in favour of just wearing smart/party clothes - dressing nicely for a special occasion, which it is, but not going OTT. If you want to emphasise equality and the religious aspect over the social, identical white robes are the way to go - they're still special clothes, but there's no parental competition over it.

I'm from an Irish Catholic background and had the white wedding-style dress, veil and gloves - no make-up, fake tan or limo, though! I was still very much a child at that age and just liked wearing what I saw as a pretty dress.

I agree robes are the way to go.

Makes so much sense.

My Confirmaton (CoE) was in 1956 and I was fed up as I had an oatmeal tweed skirt and a white twinset! It was in February half term. I was warm and miserable and my friends were frozen and happy in their posh white frocks, mainly velvet or satin. We all had veils supplied by the church and carried white prayer books gifted by the church.

The grey, my mum wore a blue dress for hers. Her two sisters brought her and my mum told me she begged them not to bring her.

My FHC dress was extremely similar to my grandmothers wedding dress and then was very similar to my wedding dress many years later. It was a big part of the tradition of the day for my catholic family. It wasn't about competing with other people it was just deeply meaningful to my family. Looking back it seems quite silly how OTT it was (I no longer consider myself catholic + now attend a cofe church) but you can't deny that tradition and the pomp and ceremony is a huge part of the Catholic Church! I wouldn't have actually changed it for anything