To think that children should west school uniform for their First Holy Communion

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Instead of parents having to fork out a small fortune for one day.

If it was really about the sacrament of God there is no need for all the frills and unnecessary expense.

uncontrolled those monsoon type dresses seem popular for weddings. And I don't see the point of your second question. It's totally different when the child themselves is receiving the sacrament.

At a wedding, the child is a guest at a party, which is much less complicated.

That's a bit different UncontrolledImmigrant, it's not the child who's getting married so it doesn't matter how much they understand about marriage!

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I agree with you, simply because dressing up little girls like brides is deeply unsettling.

A child at a wedding is completely different and they don't need to understand what marriage is all about.

My Ds is making his communion this year, and the priest has V specific requirements. There are to be no gloves, bags, veils etc for girls, and the boys can wear either their school uniform, a kilt, or (!) A white suit.
Where the fuck would I get a white suit for a child? he'd be refusing to wear it anyway even if I could find one

A white suit!! Oh dear God no

Doesn't have to be expensive at all. In our church it's usually the Irish or e.g. eastern Europeans who go all out. Not that I'm dissing that at all as the girls look absolutely adorable.

The rest of us just grab a cheapo outfit from e.g. M&S or Monsoon or eBay.

And there are always friends whose daughters did it a year or two before who are happy to lend the dress so I think this is a pretty pointless post, tbh.

The whole thing is wrong.

Dressing up little girls to be Brides when they are far too young to understand what it is they are doing. But hey! It's a nice party and they look pretty. Ugh

When I made my communion the only thing that made it interesting was the lovely dress, veil and lacey gloves I wore. (Oh and the party afterwards). Actually my favourite thing was my lace gloves, I wore them all the time after that during my Madonna phase. I thought I was the bees knees.

Making kids wear their uniform would make the whole day really boring, (even more than it already is). I wasn't bothered about god only the dress.

What? A white suit?

I quite like the "no veil" rule. But a white suit is simply ridiculous imo.

amazon probably TwoBeamsi,m sure i saw a white suit when i was looking for ds suit last yr?

My nieces dress was bought in a sale, she got nice new white sandals (which were then worn all summer) and a pretty white hairband, she had no bag and my SIL did her hair. Really didn't cost that much in total. It's like most occasions you can do it sensibly on a budget or you can push the boat out & spend a fortune.

I'm glad her school allowed dresses. School uniform wouldn't have been the same

It's not every church in Ireland though. At churches near us most people get a dress from Debenhams, m and s or similar. It's thought of as a bit 'common' (sorry but I can't think of another description right now), to have anything too fancy. Definitely no nails or tan, limos etc!

There are parties, it would be either a bouncy castle in the back garden or a meal out with relatives.

Anything too ott would be considered tacky.

Not pointless at all.

Parenting- I agree, the kids haven't a clue really. Its the veil that puts me off mostly I think as it makes them look like a bride.

I guess it is a bit odd as a tradition, to dress them like brides. I only have a DS so he wore a grey suit ( which he then wore to be page boy 2 months later).

Colleagues at work remarked on the bride thing when I showed them the photos. I like the bridesmaid y ones, but not gloves or parasols or overly flouncy ones.

I am in Ireland. It's my dd's FHC soon. She is wearing a dress that has being worn twice before, I got her new shoes and a cardigan. She has no gloves, no tiara, no veil, no limousine, we are actually walking to the church. We are coming home after for a bite to eat with our extended family and her godparents. I have spent approximately €50 on her. I am wearing a dress that I have had for a couple of years, dd1 got a new dress from penneys that cost me €12. Dh is wearing his suit. Food is costing me approximately €70 and I am cooking it myself.
Absolutely no need for a fuss.
We will have a lovely day and I am really looking forward to it as is dd. I am getting her a nice cake made though, that is the only thing she asked for. 😂

I think OP, that if children didn't wear a special dress then their families would have to face the fact that what they are organising for their children to do is far from being something most 7 year olds would get excited about, be interested in, or understand. So you need the dress/party to brush that unfortunate truth under the carpet.

This thread is like the perfect storm of mumsnet

things foreign people do
Religion
'Being common'

Throw in breastfeeding and we're away

Dress £15 off eBay. Apparently it was posh. No veil but a fancy bobble thing from Claire's.
I agree that school uniform would be better. More meaningful and , with the whole pseudo bride thing, less creepy.
But dd enjoyed the dress up.

and parking Uncontrolled.

Where do the limos and guests park when they come to the communion? Not across someone's driveway or in a P&C space?!

But surely that's ok on such a special day!

I have never seen a "mini bride" at a first communion, in all the ones I've attended, my kids' included, the children were wearing something like this:
no make-up, hair, bags or limo!

I have also seen a few casual affairs. (photos as close as I could find on google)

Frankly, I thought the whole mini-bride events were a gypsy thing, as seen on "My big gypsy wedding", I didn't even realise it was a thing.

uncontrolled..... not to mention the money as a gift debacle

And I suppose we shouldn't even get started on why my DD has to wear a dress or why my DS who identifies as a DD has to wear a suit?

Limos? Who has limos? A Polish friend told me that there the godparents are expected to cough up big style. And not just on the day, but on the anniversary of the day.
I'm seeing my elderly auntie who is also my godmother in a few weeks' time. Maybe I should claim back payment!
But seriously, I think a bit of a dress up is ok but not crazy expensive stuff. I'm not much of a Catholic but I think God needs to be in there somewhere.