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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu to not go back to this job and expect to be paid at the end of the month still

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Sadlady1980 · 07/05/2017 20:52

I started work last Monday, in a crèche in a leisure centre
Worked well as my mother in law lives next door so can do my school run and I'm back shortly after and so on
First job since having DD so thought maybe a good stepping stone to get a better job in a year or two.
Anyway, the job isn't working with the children at all, I'm a complete skivvy.
Cleaning toilets, washing up, making tea with the occasional nappy change thrown in but that's all.
The girls are all late teens / early twenties and seem to have taken a disliking to me for no apparent reason.
I'm in my 30s married, boring and a frump really so am no threat to all these young pretty girls. I work hard and don't mind doing the things they don't like doing so I'm really upset to why they don't talk to me, answer me with one word answers and generally just ignore me.
When I walk into the staff room it goes completely quiet and some snigger.
If I just can't face it again tomorrow will I get paid for this week I have worked?
I wouldn't mind but it's been a dreadful week, and a bloody hard 30 hours of work so would actually be annoyed to not be paid for how miserable they've all made me but during the six month probation it says I must give a weeks notice / they must give a weeks notice so this is what's worrying me
Thanks for any help Guys!

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NapQueen · 07/05/2017 20:54

If you refuse to return you will be in breach of your contract and as such can be denied the wage.

hula008 · 07/05/2017 20:57

They can't keep your money from you for the hours you've worked, but you will have broken your contract with them. I suggest you hand in your notice tomorrow and work the week.

I wonder if you could have a chat with your manager/boss/employer etc to see if there's anything they can do to help first. It sounds like a convenient job that you could do while looking for something else.

LIZS · 07/05/2017 21:01

You've done a week! Just ignore the tittle tattle and accept you will have to do the basics to start with. As others go off on holiday or move on I would expect there will be opportunities to have more direct contact. Do you have a dbs etc? If you don't return you won't be paid nor get a reference.

HermioneJeanGranger · 07/05/2017 21:02

They'll pay you for the hour you've worked (assuming they have your bank information) but if you walk out and don't work your notice, you won't get anything more than that.

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Sadlady1980 · 07/05/2017 21:02

I know I would be in breach but what does this actually mean in real terms?
It's £8 an hour so a grand total of £240 - they're not going to go to court over that are they??

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TreeTop7 · 07/05/2017 21:03

If you are sure that it definitely won't work out then hand in your notice tomorrow and politely ask if you can leave immediately and just be paid for the previous week given that you're so miserable there. They won't want a subdued and resentful person there, they'd probably let you go (assuming they have the correct staff ratios without you).

Don't just vanish. You'd be in breach.

If they make you work it, stand up to those little madams!

ZilphasHatpin · 07/05/2017 21:06

If you refuse to return you will be in breach of your contract and as such can be denied the wage.

How do you know what was in OP's contract?

OP as far as I know if you have worked there less than a month you don't have to give any notice. If more than 1 month then you have to give 1 weeks notice. Unless there is something else specified in your contract.

Solongtoshort · 07/05/2017 21:10

Go back, it sounds horrid but fake it till you make it.

To me it sounds like this would be a good fit for your life, then is week if you still feel like this speak to the manager.

Ignore them, it takes time to settle in and remember in a few years time when your old ( l mean 80's) you won't remember these people.

NapQueen · 07/05/2017 21:11

Zilphas because she said in her OP that she has to give a weeks notice.

toomanyloos · 07/05/2017 21:14

Without seeing your contract it is impossible to really say, but if you walk out without giving the necessary notice they may be within their rights to persue you for the costs of getting someone in to cover for you. That would probably exceed the wages you are owed.

Funnyfarmer · 07/05/2017 21:15

They cant withold money you have already worked. Under no circumstances.
I feel so bad for you being pushed out of a job by bullies. I really want to encourage you to stand up to them. But it sounds like you don't really think it's worth hassle?
But can I just say. What if this was your dc in your shoes? What would you be telling them to do?
Bullies make me so fucking angry.

user1493022461 · 07/05/2017 21:16

Get a hold of yourself, grow up and go to work, fgs. You sound like a truculent teenager.

ZilphasHatpin · 07/05/2017 21:17

Ah sorry napqueen I missed that

ZilphasHatpin · 07/05/2017 21:19

OP do you actually care if these people like you/are nice to you? It's a job, it pays the bills. I'd try and stick it out until you have something else to go to.

Delatron · 07/05/2017 21:19

Speak to your manager. Have you a clear job description? If it is not the job you accepted then you need to tell them. Don't be bullied!
Who is telling you what to do on a day to day basis? Do these girls have authority over you?

PunjanaTea · 07/05/2017 21:20

It's been a week. At the very least give a weeks notice tomorrow and work that out, but really I would give it more time.

BigChocFrenzy · 07/05/2017 21:23

As the newbie, of course you are doing the scut work
That's normal

And there is a significant age gap, so maybe why they are being immature, not talking to you

However, it doesn't sound enough reason to abandon a job that is otherwise so convenient - next door to MIL etc
Any job could feel tough after you've got used to being at home.

Why not talk to your manager, say why you are unhappy and see what they suggest.

category12 · 07/05/2017 21:24

You've only done a week, keep trying a bit longer.

user1493022461 · 07/05/2017 21:27

She's not being bullied, fgs. I imagine they aren't being very friendly because she thinks she's too good to clean the loos and can't stick the job for a week. Her attitude will be obvious to everyone.

CashelGirl · 07/05/2017 21:29

I would not let a bunch of little madams push me out of a job that fitted it so well with my life and had the potential to be something lovely. Ask for a meeting with your line manager to review what is included in your job description, and see how you can move up from "skivvy" status. Tomorrow, get up a bit early, do whatever it is that makes you feel superconfident - make-up, hair, ironed uniform, polished shoes and go in with your head high. Don't put yourself below them or they will kick you. Find the loudest, gobbiest one of the bunch and challenge her rudeness. There is no need for it, school days are well behind you. They may be young and pretty, but you have experience and sense on your side.

wannabeahermit · 07/05/2017 21:30

Phone in sick and inform them you are also handing notice in. Get someone to drop it over in writing for you. Phone in sick each day of notice. You should try and flag the others behaviour up to the highest management level you can as it will just happen to next person

TinselTwins · 07/05/2017 21:32

Are you qualified? maybe the "young ones" aren't cleaning the bogs because they're the ones with the level2 and 3s in childcare and as such have additional duties such as development reports and planning.

Of course you won't be paid for a month if you worked a week?

Speak to your boss.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 07/05/2017 21:35

God
Tough it
Out ! I have
Worked with so many bitches like this - it's a job to earn money and build up your CV and pay for your future pension . Woman up !

JaneEyre70 · 07/05/2017 21:37

My DD worked in a very similar environment. On her 1st day no one even showed her the loo, staffroom or kitchen and in every different room she was completely ignored. Turned out the person she replaced had been sacked but was the Queen Bee so they took it all out on my sweet quiet gentle DD. On the 2nd week there after I'd persuaded her to carry on, one of them made a very loud personal remark about her height and weight (she's had an eating disorder in the past so is still very slim but thankfully healthy) and she came home in floods of tears. I phoned the Manager to say that if my DD wasn't paid I would be reporting them to the local press and ACAS, and she wasn't stepping foot near the place again. I also emailed their head office (it was a chain) and created a right stink about workplace bullying. She was paid without any hassle.......

Funnily enough they went backrupt a few months later. Don't go back OP, life is too short. You will find a better job but they will always be bitchy arseholes .

TinselTwins · 07/05/2017 21:38

Yup. I have a really bitchy workplace. I also have a pension and annual leave and an okay salary!

I'm not saying anyone should suck up actual bullying, however there's a difference between bullying and not getting on with your bitchy colleagues.

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