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To think it's weird when women take their DHs clothes shopping with them?

210 replies

Madmotherintheattic · 07/05/2017 20:10

I mean when the blokes sit on those chairs outside the changing rooms and give them opinions on every outfit they come out in. I don't mean special occasion outfits but everyday stuff. And then accompany them round the shop feeling material and picking out styles? I see it a lot in M&S. Is it weird or is it me? I don't know whether to feel happy for them that their husbands are so involved or think I should just mind my own business, but instead, I find myself thinking I'd rather stab myself in the eye with a pencil than take DH to watch me try on skirts in M&S and comment on patterns and shapes.

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corythatwas · 07/05/2017 20:13

Wouldn't it depend on the husband? If he is interested and can give an intelligent viewpoint, is it any different from taking a female friend?

I know my dd would rather stab herself in the eye than take me, because I am totally useless with clothes; in the days when she wasn't allowed to go to town on her own, she used to take her little brother.

Moanyoldcow · 07/05/2017 20:15

My DH is really good at having an eye for what suits me but I only take him if I have to get something for a special occasion.

He's very patient and will help me look properly. I'd sooner take him than some friends.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 07/05/2017 20:15

When dh and I go shopping, it is rarely just clothes shopping, so if one of us is buying clothes, the other one will end up being here for that part of the browsing and trying on process.

SovietKitsch · 07/05/2017 20:15

Very unreasonable. I don't even bother going clothes shopping myself, I just send DH to do it. He's got a way better eye than me and I'm lazy

KanyesVest · 07/05/2017 20:16

I can only go shopping by myself. I only brought my mum and bridesmaid to see my wedding dress after I ordered it. Can't understand making two people miserable dragging round shopping help.

oddthing · 07/05/2017 20:16

i always think this is a bit weird too. in John lewis the other day a woman was out modelling every dress she tried on. I suppose if they're happy etc. but i wear what I like not what DH likes! Grin

men do get in the way too, perhaps there should be more areas where they can just sit and watch skysports

IJustLostTheGame · 07/05/2017 20:16

I drag my DH.
He pays. I always forget the joint account PIN.
Although it's usually vintage shops I drag him into and he's unusually excited and engaged by those. If its run of the mill high street he sits slumped and staring into space. because he knows I'm going to hate everything and he's going to bear the brunt of it

monkeysox · 07/05/2017 20:16

I prefer to go on my own. My dh likes me with him when he's clothes shopping to give opinions Hmm

Liara · 07/05/2017 20:16

I absolutely hate clothes shopping, I get overwhelmed and can't find anything I like. If I have to do it I want someone with me to help me and more often than not the only person available is dh.

He hates it too, but it's less awful if we do it together. I help him too.

m0therofdragons · 07/05/2017 20:18

Dh follows, carrying bags and giving honest opinions on dresses etc. I love shopping and he likes seeing my enjoyment and usually include lunch. It's about once a year. Overall though I like spending time with dh, is that weird? Confused

Stiddleficks · 07/05/2017 20:18

I hate clothes shopping for myself, usually dh is with me as we'll be shopping for other things too. He will pick out things he thinks I'd like and bring them to the changing room for me, he usually knows better than me what will suit me and I'm happy to let him wander round looking so I don't have too!

AnyFucker · 07/05/2017 20:18

My husband would rather poke his eyes out with a shitty stick than go clothes shopping for himself no matter anyone else.

gamerchick · 07/05/2017 20:21

It's necessary for me as I hate clothes shopping. The husband drags me kicking and screaming hanging onto door frames and shit.

I've mellowed as time has gone on but I won't go unless he makes me.

Can't stand it.

kimann · 07/05/2017 20:23

We usually shop together - he'll give me some opinions and I'll give him mine - overall a win-win. We both get stuff and we usually also shop for the kids clothes, and I want him to be involved in picking stuff out for them as well - I hate that my mum thinks that just because I'm the mum that it's MY role to buy clothes for the kids. Grin

HomityBabbityPie · 07/05/2017 20:23

What I find bizarre is when you see people (usually men) sitting around with kids looking like they want to die while their other halves clothes shop. I mean what is the point? If I want to go clothes shopping I leave ds at home with DH and it takes me half the time. And vice versa.

Bumbumtaloo · 07/05/2017 20:24

I hate clothes shopping for me with a passion! I very rarely to to shops, I normally do it online.

If I do go to a shop dh comes with me, mainly because he's now my carer but he does have a very good eye for what suits me. He actually helped me pick my wedding dress Grin (that was before he was my carer).

BlahTheFBlah · 07/05/2017 20:24

A whole load of reasons here why DH goes with me...

  1. I'm spending time with my husband.

  2. We're not just shopping for me, we go in shops for him & DC too.

  3. He looks after young DC whilst I try clothes on.

  4. I have anxiety and struggle to go alone to shopping centres.

Is that weird?

BloodWorries · 07/05/2017 20:27

DP comes with me, depending on my mobility that day I'm either walking with an aid of some sort or in my chair. Either way I need some help and I'd rather it was DP than anyone else whilst I'm feeling shitty and vulnerable.
That said some days it's not totally obvious I have issues (other than a single stick) but one turn, sneeze or cough in the wrong way...

limitedperiodonly · 07/05/2017 20:27

What's the harm?

WeSailTonightForSingapore · 07/05/2017 20:28

For every DH and partner actually helping with choosing, commenting etc, there is a whole bunch of DHs and partners just hanging about in the aisles, scrolling on their phones and getting in everyone else's way. Those are the ones I don't get.

I guess some happened to be out with their partners on other errands, and then happened to go into a clothes shop. But I know several couples who go everywhere together with their partners. If one goes clothes shopping, the other goes too just because they never do anything alone.

AnyFucker · 07/05/2017 20:29

I don't think the op was anything about people who require actual physical support

BarbaraofSeville · 07/05/2017 20:30

YANBU. I hate shopping and only ever go alone. I've had to go twice recently and the ordeal was made so much worse by a load of men, clearly there against their will, trailing behind their female partners and getting in everyone's way. The ones playing with their phones were the worst because they had zero awareness of their surroundings.

MaQueen · 07/05/2017 20:30

Oh gawd, yes, yes.

I took my DDs clothes shopping yesterday (still recovering) and there were so many poor, hapless blokes trailing round after their busily shopping partners, with a blank look of doom in their eyes. Why on Earth do their partners drag them through such misery???

I would rather stick pins in my eyes than clothes shop with DH, and he would be horrified at the very thought, too.

ChippyMinton · 07/05/2017 20:31

Not weird, but each to their own .

I shop alone though.

Happyfeet1972 · 07/05/2017 20:31

I agree OP. Apart from rare occasions when we re shopping for something else together and one of us sees some clothing to try on, I'm very much in the category of 'you sort your clothes out and I'll sort mine'.

We both hate shopping though. I do as much online as I can. If we're together because we both need stuff we split up to save time and so were able to go for a nice lunch sooner (reward for boring shopping,).