To think it's weird when women take their DHs clothes shopping with them?

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I mean when the blokes sit on those chairs outside the changing rooms and give them opinions on every outfit they come out in. I don't mean special occasion outfits but everyday stuff. And then accompany them round the shop feeling material and picking out styles? I see it a lot in M&S. Is it weird or is it me? I don't know whether to feel happy for them that their husbands are so involved or think I should just mind my own business, but instead, I find myself thinking I'd rather stab myself in the eye with a pencil than take DH to watch me try on skirts in M&S and comment on patterns and shapes.

notangelinajolie: I sound jealous? Do I? Really? OMG that's so funny. Kind of the opposite. I feel sorry for the menfolk - maybe I only notice the ones on their phones, in the way, looking bored, and harassed, and quite often, embarrassed and a bit shifty (outside the underwear-y fitting rooms). I feel mystified by the women. And I think thank fuck my husband wouldn't ever want to come shopping for clothes with me because I'd hate it if he did (I love shopping with DDs but shopping with DH, even in Ikea, maybe esp. in Ikea isa special kind of hell....) Doesn't mean I am jealous. Happily married for 20 years and together 25. Love him to bits. Not in shops.

Not that I've bought clothes in quite a while but my DH will come with me and pick things out for me/suggest things as he seems to know what looks better on me than I do. When trying clothes on I'll come out and show him if I'm not sure but if it's definitely no good I won't. I value his opinion

Otherwise, well, what's the point of being together.

I am not with my husband so that I can drag him shopping with me in the guise of "quality time"

I am never sure what to think when people say their DH is their 'best friend'.

I have a best friend and I have a DH.

And the 'jealous' thing?

I love going to IKEA with DH and DS and treat it as a fun day out. I also don't mind going clothes shopping with him. It's tricky going into changing rooms with a pushchair in the week so we go together at the weekend as we haven't seen eachother much mon-fri.

(We save our bickering for the supermarket where I wander around going 'ooooh that looks nice' and he wants to stick religiously to the list and then get out ASAP)

I read that title as women taking a bag of their husbands' clothes around the shops with them- thought it was really fucking weird.

I my case, taking my actual husband would be even less useful as I have never come across a less enthusiastic shopper in my life. Some men don't seem to mind though.

I hate going shopping with other people. Shopping seems like a solo activity to me. Maybe that's down to being dragged around M&S, bored out of my wits, 10,000 times too many as a child.

"Shopping isn't fun!"

That's your opinion, @Astro55 - it isn't a fact that applies universally.

If you don't enjoy shopping or believe it's a family activity, don't do it - but accept that your opinion isn't the only one, and isn't the only right one, and other people might enjoy shopping with their partner/family.

It's not about the time - it's the shopping - why not foto the park or picnic - have a day out swimming or other fun activities

The shopping is kind of essential sometimes though, things need trying on, especially shoes. There's 6 in our family so we tend to do a big clothes shop for everyone every couple of months, usually combining it with lunch out and a park/museum/bowling/cinema visit afterwards. It's not one or the other.

It's not about the time - it's the shopping - why not foto the park or picnic - have a day out swimming or other fun activities

The shopping is kind of essential sometimes though, things need trying on, especially shoes. There's 6 in our family so we tend to do a big clothes shop for everyone every couple of months, usually combining it with lunch out and a park/museum/bowling/cinema visit afterwards. It's not one or the other.

Why do my posts keep doubling?

I think shoppings fun! Always did as a child too.
I'm going today with my grandma and looking forward to it, we'll browse the shops, have some lunch, maybe a walk round the park as it's near by.
Plus she usually treats me and dd

I am a get in, get out kind of shopper. No fun for anyone else. I shop solo.

I do know of someone whose husband takes her shopping every weekend because she doesn't drive and doesn't like to use public transport. He carries her bags for her and is slowly dying inside. I think she is very selfish. He works very long, hard hours. She doesn't work and they have no children. He absolutely hates it. He's a lovely man and he loves her, but I feel she would give him a break sometimes. (None of my business - just my opinion.)

That's your choice Frilly. My family enjoyed shopping together, we liked spending time together, no matter what the circumstances were (with a few obvious exceptions). I would hate a day at the races, that's my idea of hell. Doesn't mean you are wrong, or I am wrong we are simply different.

It's ridiculous that posters simply cannot accept that what some people enjoy is not never what others do, and vice versa. Hate shopping, do it online. Just don't sneer at those who enjoy it, and have families that agree. Life isn't about quality time, there's a hell of a lot of mundane shite that needs to be done too, and frankly if you can enjoy the mundane stuff with your partner, you're fortunate in my book.

Life isn't about quality time, there's a hell of a lot of mundane shite that needs to be done too, and frankly if you can enjoy the mundane stuff with your partner, you're fortunate in my book.

I am very unwell at the moment and at home recovering from surgery. Life is often filled with the mundane because at the moment I can't do much else.The niffler thankyou for helping me value what I have.

DP quite likes shopping and he often picks out clothes that I wouldn't normally choose, but that look fab when they're on. Naturally I do the same for him - shopping is much more efficient when we're together!

What BlahtheFBlah said plus I hate shopping and wouldn't ever buy any clothes for me if he didn't make encourage me when buying for the DC and him occasionally, I have clothes older than my grown up cousin lurking in my wardrobe

DH always comes shopping with me and he's really good about it as we only go every couple of months, but we literally do the same thing each time: I start the day optimistic that I can find a few bits that I need, spend a few minutes in one shop then realise I'm in a style wasteland and have absolutely no idea what suits me or how I want to dress now I'm a SAHM and can't rely on pencil skirts 5 days a week. We go in a few shops that I used to shop in and I start to feel old. We go in a few shops my mum likes and I feel frumpy. We go for lunch. I say I want to buy fewer, higher quality items, but my idea of reasonable pricing means I can't bring myself to shop anywhere except H&M. I buy one item from H&M, get in the car to go home and cry because I'm fat/old/don't want to dress like a member of TLC or at the other end of the spectrum my nan. Vow to shop online. Don't find anything online and a few months later hit the shops again and repeat. My DH is a saint.

No I don't - we usually shop for both of us anyway

I find it weird when a guy can't even buy his own clothes

I read the thread title as "it's weird when women take their husband's clothes shopping with them" like, in a carrier bag. Now that would be definitively weird - not even worth a discussion.

I live in the arse end of nowhere so anywhere with actual decent shops usually means a day trip out. On which case we hit a proper shopping centre to do all the different trips we need in one go (clothes for me and DH, shoes for the kids, spend vouchers etc) so it's probably my DH and kids you see in the aisles and by the changing rooms!

My dh often comes with me. Im not very confident and think everything makes me look even more awful than usual, he is very good picking something out and will tell me if things suit me or not. My 5 year old daughter is also fantastic at picking stuff out. My husband knows if went on own i would probably buy nothing and then get something for kids instead. To be honest if shopping its usually as a family anyway.

As the OP I just want to say I've had some real belly laughs here... God I love mumsnet.

For the people who sounded a bit miffy, sorry, never meant to insult any of you whose husband is your BFF, knows what suits you better than you do, pays for your stuff, watch the kids etc etc. I just wondered whether I was the only one who thought it was weird. Now I know we're all over the map on our shopping/DP habits.

Now, I'm off to pack a bag of my husband's clothes so I can take them shopping with me in lieu of him.

I wouldn't dream of taking DH or anyone else clothes shopping. I don't even take myself clothes shopping. I buy it all online.

In fairness to you, OP, DH would find it odd if I asked him to come clothes shopping with me. I also dislike seeing bored DH/DPs loitering outside the changing room.

YANBU. I cannot shop with anyone, even my friends. As soon as I am done I just want to move on. I am prone to walking into shops and "knowing" I won't see anything for me and walk right back out. I was in town early bank holiday monday out of necessity and was gob smacked at the confused looking men plodding behind their DWs , blocking the aisles and saying "its nice" accompanied by vacuous expression every time they were asked what they thought of a garment - usually to be responded to with " nah, its not really me" type of thing. But "men creches" make me want to rip my own arm off and beat myself unconscious with the bloody stump.