To think it's weird when women take their DHs clothes shopping with them?

[Madmotherintheattic]

I mean when the blokes sit on those chairs outside the changing rooms and give them opinions on every outfit they come out in. I don't mean special occasion outfits but everyday stuff. And then accompany them round the shop feeling material and picking out styles? I see it a lot in M&S. Is it weird or is it me? I don't know whether to feel happy for them that their husbands are so involved or think I should just mind my own business, but instead, I find myself thinking I'd rather stab myself in the eye with a pencil than take DH to watch me try on skirts in M&S and comment on patterns and shapes.

Shopping with another person is only OK for me if one person has mobility restrictions, such as needing someone for a lift or to carry things. Or with children.

I can't get my head around my arse to get a back view - he can.
Just grim.
Do you really have so little self respect that you can't buy an item of clothing that you feel comfortable in without him being there? Even if it makes your arse look enormous, what's it got to do with him?
If he buys a pair of trousers, are you there checking out that the crotch/arse fits perfectly?

Most changing rooms have mirrors where you can see the back view anyway.

That made me laugh (although you could just take a small mirror with you to see the back?)

It would be a very large mirror

We don't go shopping for clothes that often as I tend to buy online. If we go to a city or larger town we go out for the day and combine a visit to the shops with lunch our, a beach visit, cinema trip or visit to a park. It is also quite rare that we would go out just to buy for me.

DH doesn't often come shopping with me because he hates shops of any sort (except sweet shops, because he's actually just a 5 year old in 39 year old's clothing). He'd rather eat his own head than look at me trying stuff on and knows full well that if I've bought something that I love it enough not to want or need his opinion. He's very good and sometimes offers to come shopping but what he means is that he'll take the DCs for an ice cream while I look at shoes.

Most changing rooms have mirrors where you can see the back view anyway

Yes but I still end up doing that "on my tiptoes and twisty " movement that doesn't really work. He can also see how much my belly wobbles as move.

I do it rarely. But when I have done it, dh has exceptional choice and everything he has liked, has been .... the dress that everyone told me was the most flattering thing they had ever seen me in.

I can't understand why it would bother you.

I love the comments from larger women on MN. We know our husbands love us.

Just grim.
Do you really have so little self respect that you can't buy an item of clothing that you feel comfortable in without him being there? Even if it makes your arse look enormous, what's it got to do with him?
If he buys a pair of trousers, are you there checking out that the crotch/arse fits perfectly?

I was joking - a bit. He has a good eye for clothes and is good company. To be fair I have an enormous arse and so putting on a new frock is not going to change that.

My self esteem is fine despite strangers telling me that I am grim.

If my husband buys clothes when we are out he will also ask my opinion.

Apology accepted AF.

YY to the submissive dog metaphor frilly, that's exactly what it looks like.

I always want to know how often they shop and what the dynamics of the relationship is. Does the man try to resist but has to do what he is told or did he go willingly, forgetting how awful it was last time?

I can understand why some women might want to go shopping with friends or alone and am not attacking that choice. We are all different. I am not sure why the attacks are coming the other way.

trying to get my 15yo dd to try on sports bras the other week in John Lewis trafford centre, they have their own lingerie changing rooms, just for the undies dept. there was this guy HOVERING outside, she had to ask him to move, to get to the changing rooms, i sat on a sofa outside in case she wanted me to help- not likely but may have needed another size or something, and she wouldn't have asked the shop assistant who was assigned to dressing room duty for help - he kept peering round the corner surreptitiously and eventually his bloody wife came out IN A BRA AND KNICKERS TO SHOW HIM, he appraised it with a few hmm and ha's and she went back in to try the next one. meanwhile my dd and another lady are hearing him saying "yeah, dead sexy that one babe" and giggling with his missus. I'm not accusing him of anything weird but what the hell!?! Peering round the corner like he was going to get a peep of something?! Bizarre.

Exactly, @Oblomov - I don't understand why it bothers anyone else either - or why @Frillyhorseyknickers feels the need to catagorise me and my dh as the worst sort of woman and man respectively, because we do something differently to her.

It's worse than those people who drag their poor bastard dogs around country fairs.

I have done that too!

I hate clothes shopping because it always makes me feel shit about my body. I can never find anything I like that looks good on me. So I wait until everything I have wears out. Then I take DH for support and also so I can't back out of this shopping.

I'm going to have to do this again soon and am really dreading it. I guess you could say I do drag DH along but it's more for anxiety reasons than anything else.

Tbf Op, I think my mum would rather stab herself in the eyes than shop in M&S and I think the only thing I've ever had from there is school uniform. She does go shopping with my dad though and they even hold hands sick not envy.

It takes all types I guess!

Can't stand the whole family doing a weekly shop though....was a family in Aldi this morning, with a trolley and double buggy, baby in the buggy but dad carrying a toddler, taking up the whole aisle. The dad was actually wearing a t-shirt that said 'daddy' on the back I so wanted the mum to have a matching 'mummy' one, but alas she let me down.
Sorry for any mummy/daddy t-shirt wearers...that's my bitchy comment for the week!

Bonkers thread.

The judgments towards people who do thing differently is bizarre.

My husband enjoys it if he is also shopping with me. I know, it's shocking. Submissive dog that he is!

It bothers us because they hang around bored, stand in front of the clothes we are trying to look at, block the aisles and get in our way when we are trying to browse. They often aren't even engaging with their DWs anyway, they're often on their phones.

Frillyhorseyknickers: just my type of judgemental woman, ha ha. Buy you a coffee if I see you in M&S (alone) before we each go back to solo shopping/navigating men on the sofa of shame/bored chair/just generally being in the way.

I think Tw1nset was being tongue in cheek with her comments. They made me laugh.

I find it hard to understand the men that look pained and bored about being there but It would be quite nice to have a Gok Wan-ish husband who gushed over clothes, threw compliments and rushed off to collect clothes to suggest I try on, making it fun and saying Fabulous darling Definitely Not my dh

People like the OP are the weird ones. It's just an activity that some people do and then they go and do something else.

I'm useless at shopping - I don't have a clue what suits me. DH enjoys shopping and has a good eye for what suits people. About 2 or 3 times a year I go to one shop - at a quiet time - and try on huge amount of clothes in a short time. I pop out to show DH and he lets me know which ones suit me. Then I buy a couple of outfits and that's my shopping done with. DH enjoys helping me and then we go for coffee.

I can't see anything wrong with taking your partner, if he wants to go. XH used to enjoy clothes shopping, he was really quite useful, and I valued his opinion. Still do tbh. And yes, we took the DDs with us, we didn't have anyone to look after them. Didn't hurt them, it's good for people to learn patience at an early age.

Exactly limited. You shop, then you go for lunch.

DH enjoys shopping and has a good eye for what suits people. Kris Jenner circa. 1997.