Colleague cancelled on a volunteering event - WWYD

[MsJamieFraser]

I am supposed to be volunteering at an event today (crowd control and afterwards to the VIP bash) my colleague sent a text message dusting the night to say that he is now not coming.

I am bloody furious with this as it leaves me in a tricky position, I said I would attend as he really wanted to go however did not want to go alone, I was supposed to be attending a christening today which I cancelled due to the event.

It also leaves me in a tricky situation with my friends company (they wrote to me asking if I had any colleagues wanting to help out) as they could not attend as they had another plans, that could not be rescheduled.

I don't want to attend this event by myself, as public transport is limited and roads are closed (due to the event) it will also take me an hour to get there, I just don't fancy attending this event alone and also doing it by myself.

I had a funny feeling he was going to do this as I over heard him saying he was going to cancel on Friday to another colleague however when I asked him he said he was talking about something else

I only agreed as he begged me to attend with him.

However I feel bloody bad on the event organisers and that's what's stopping me from cancelling even tho I really don't want to attend.

My dh and friends can't come with me as they are all at the christening.

WWYD

Go to the christening with your DH

It all seems a bit weird a senior manager or MD running a company of 1000's putting themselves in a tricky situation and sacking off a christening to appease one employee and then posting about it all over mumsnet. What's the company, I'll be sure to avoid it like the plague if this how management behave

Whenever someone difficult and nit-picky like this ^^ says they won't be back to my company, I usually maintain my composure - but do a little jiggly happy dance inside.

@errorofjudgement, did you need to make such a long condescending post just to announce you are an MD?

Where did I say I'm an MD?

Now who's nitpicking? Some of your earliest comments were about leading a large organisation and, given that you quite reasonably were keeping it vague, it's not surprising that some people might have thought you were saying that you were an MD.

I'm glad you had a good time at the event.

I remember . I'm glad you got through what must have a horrendous time in your life. I didn't post at the time but I was thinking of you and your family.

MsJamieFraser - I don't know what posts some people on this thread are reading, but honestly your posts and communication are perfectly clear! I would not have known you struggled with it at all.

and nipped an armed policemans arse

FFS that is sexual assault and makes you sound terrible

You think it would be funny if a man came on here and was boasting about nipping a woman arse.

I'm late to the thread (ffs I'm late for everything so nothing new there ) but fwiw I wouldn't have particularly wanted to go on my own especially since you only went in the first place because of someone else. Glad you had a good time (I do love a man in uniform )
As for what you have been through it must have been horrendous and your ds's are lucky to have you

Really kokusai?

I'm sure the armed policeman was more than capable of looking after himself 🙄

I'm sure the armed policeman was more than capable of looking after himself

So? Would it be OK for a man to pinch the arse of a woman provided she was capable of looking after herself?

Plenty of armed police officers are women these days, is it okay for men to go round pinching their bottoms Jupiter?

I ignored the bit about nipping the police officer's bum because takes the discussion in another direction but, yes, it is an assault and would immediately be condemned here if it were a man assaulting a woman.

How has it been at work? Arse handed over?

There is no bloody inconsistencies! People asked me questions and I answered, some people have even stated I have said things that I have not

Ah yes, the joy of MN! As BBCEssex said, it's like a parallel universe on here at times! Seriously, I love this place but I frequently wonder WTF is wrong with so many posters. It seems that they are incapable of reading OP's posts and on top of that add extra pieces of info they've made up. Oh, and don't forget the nit-picking, irrelevent questions designed to trip the OP up. Maybe they've had too much gin

No it's not okay to go round arse pinching but as I said I'm sure the police officer is more than capable of standing up for himself and doesnt need a bunch of mns jumping to his defence, so stop going off on tangents and stick to the subject of the thread 🙄

Some of you arseholes should be ashamed of yourself.

Some were just determined to make OP feel like shit. Making digs out of the way she types and acting surprised that she is in a management role is truly shit. Nasty stuff that makes me wonder what is so wrong with your life that you have to bring someone down to make yourselves feel better. On a simple thread about volunteering as well.

Yeah, sometimes this place disgusts me as well.

Lets not assume just yet that she randomly pinched his arse without permission.

Until she tells us she just went up to a cop and pinched his arse lets not use it as another stick to beat her with.

I'm getting sucked in to the tangent, but really, how would that work U2? A random woman walking up to a man while he is at work and politely asking if she can pinch his bottom and him agreeing readily to the request is a pretty unusual scenario. How many times has an unknown person approached you while you were working and asked to pinch your bottom?

*U2HasTheEdge Tue 09-May-17 18:32:40
Some of you arseholes should be ashamed of yourself.

Some were just determined to make OP feel like shit. Making digs out of the way she types and acting surprised that she is in a management role is truly shit. Nasty stuff that makes me wonder what is so wrong with your life that you have to bring someone down to make yourselves feel better. On a simple thread about volunteering as well.

Yeah, sometimes this place disgusts me as well.*

^^ This 100%

Absolutely cringing at some on here.

Glad you enjoyed the day OP - I suggest you hide thread now before anymore idiots pile on

I don't know you op, but i've been on many threads with you!
I cannot believe some of the posts on here! Disgusting.
Hope the day went well!

I wasn't going to come back however this will be my last post on this perplexing thread, in which i will need to name change after, which is sad, as I quite like this username.

pickle, you were supportive I've felt I had to justify my writing abilities on here again, in which I have had to do many a times, not only for myself, but for those like me also, so I felt again I had to justify myself, not to you personally however, just in general. So I apologise if my post was not clearer

Not one person on here needs to make me feel inadequate, I already feel know I am inferior, I have a learning disability, I cannot change that, and nor do i want to, its me, I am not flawless, I am not perfect, I am human, with many imperfections.

The sooner people on here accept that not everyone can have exceptional writing abilities, the better this place will be, I am no Jane Austin or Muriel Spark, however as long as I am coherent, I will continue to communicate to the best of my ability! I cannot be someone I am not, I am not perfect.

I find it rather ignorant and narrow minded that people have such high expectations of those who struggle with writing skills.

Now for my colleague.... I would love to update.... however he's been on the sick... so unfortunately cannot update. I could say more on this however as with things on this thread I would be called unprofessional... so best to keep closed lipped.

As for me pinching the police officers bum, I cannot believe people take things so literally on here, but nothing surprises me now.

Said police officer had powder all over his back and legs (from the event) I got to clean him down with wipes (the joys of being a Mum and carrying a bag with everything but the kitchen sink in) across his vest, legs and arse... it was a lovely arse aswell!

This thread has somewhat been surreal, so to summarise, because I did not want to attend the event alone, I was called unprofessional, thick, a liar and now a sexual assaulter... By word what a character assassination I have endured, all because I simply did not want to attend an event alone.

Can I thank those who helped and gave constructive advice, rather than be unpleasant and antagonistic , MN need more posters like you all

As Stephen Hawkins once said, intelligence is the ability to adapt change

Ooh pls name change and spill the beans about colleagueon an unrelated thread
Would he be expecting to be in trouble? Is he avoiding?

Blimey what a train wreck of a thread. I was waiting to read some apologies from some of the, umm, 'nit-picky' posters but they all seem to have gone quiet.

OP, im sorry to hear about what your family have been through.

You shouldn't change your user name because of this thread, there's plenty of people who probably should, but you're not one of them