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To never accept an invite from this couple again?

153 replies

smileygrapefruit · 04/05/2017 23:04

Dh and I are friends with another couple but not terribly close mainly just due to busy lives, we mainly see each other for our young children's birthdays and the occasional party/wedding however over the last few months we have been invited over for drinks at theirs nearly every week. We have accepted and attended 3 times since February. I'm pregnant so not drinking therefore when the drinking started getting out of hand I made our excuses to leave boring pregnant lady

Anyway, Dh went out with the husband tonight (let's call him Dave). There was a group of 5 men and apparently Dave was already pretty pissed when dh arrived. The conversation then took a strange turn when Dave told the group that him and his wife have started swinging! He goes in to town to pick up people (couples or single men or women) and takes them home to his wife. Ok, fine, whatever floats your boat. BUT, then it got really weird with him propositioning dh and the other guys, "ahhh, go on, it's just a bit of fun. You can fuck my wife and I can fuck yours" etc etc. Dh has just come home a bit shellshocked saying that's literally all Dave spoke about for 2 hours and he had to be quite firm in the end saying you are not having sex with my wife!

Honestly, we're meant to be going to theirs in a fortnight and I don't know if I can!!! Apparently they have already lost one set of friends because of this. If you're going to do it, fine, but surely you keep friendships separate? I feel so awkward about seeing them!

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Dogivemeabreak · 04/05/2017 23:06

Why even bother going?

GeillisTheWitch · 04/05/2017 23:06

Is this them? Grin

To never accept an invite from this couple again?
zzzzz · 04/05/2017 23:07

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GeillisTheWitch · 04/05/2017 23:08

Seriously though, it is beyond creepy of Dave to push the issue especially as you're pregnant. I wouldn't go within a mile of their house.

RosaRosaRose · 04/05/2017 23:08
Hmm
Teardropexplodes · 04/05/2017 23:10

I don't fancy Dave's hangover tomorrow...

Idoidoidoidoido · 04/05/2017 23:12

Do they have pampas grass in their front garden? or wind chimes Grin

They sound like creepy lowlifes. Get some new friends.

Kidakidder · 04/05/2017 23:12

"Lynn these are sex people!"

SiouxieQ · 04/05/2017 23:12

Fuck them off right now, they've been grooming you this whole time 🤢

RainbowJack · 04/05/2017 23:13

Take some potted pampas grass as a dinner gift.

smileygrapefruit · 04/05/2017 23:14

It wasn't just dh he was proposing it to, it was all the men who were out so I don't think he was thinking oh yeah I'd love to have sex with pregnant smiley. And yeah, he is going to regret it in the morning and I'm sure his wife will be mortified he's told everyone about their new hobby!

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MrsJamesMathews · 04/05/2017 23:15

Ew, eurgh, YUCK!!!!

These people aren't friends - they're sleazy pervs!!! Run for the hills!!

(I mean because they've been trying to come on to their clearly uninterested friends, not because they swing)

smileygrapefruit · 04/05/2017 23:16

Haha no, no pampas grass! In fact I am totally surprised, they don't look/seem the type if there's such a thing?

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dinosaursandtea · 04/05/2017 23:19

Agree with PP - they've definitely been grooming you. Ew.

smileygrapefruit · 04/05/2017 23:19

They haven't been grooming us the whole time though, we've been friends for years and mostly events have involved our young dc. According to Dave they've only been doing this a few months and that would tally with the increase in drinks invites. Arrghhh.

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Notmyrealname85 · 04/05/2017 23:20

Does seem a lot like grooming... Maybe the friendship was just that a while ago, but sounds like they're trying to get you used to the idea of swapping. Fine if it's your thing but don't push it on others!

nancy75 · 04/05/2017 23:21

Make sure you keep a firm grip on your car keys, whatever you do don't throw them in a bowl Grin

WinkyisbackontheButterBeer · 04/05/2017 23:21

I was once in a nightclub and has a very strange gentleman try to pick me up to take me home as "a little treat" for his wife. 🤢 That will teach me not to go to dives like flares.

YANBU. I wouldn't go. It's going to be awkward all round if you do.

NoMudNoLotus · 04/05/2017 23:24

YADNBU !
Run for the hills !

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 04/05/2017 23:31

I thought Pampass Grass was out now (although there's loads on my 70s estate - can't move for ex-swingers) and hanging wicker hearts was now indicative of swinging?

RainbowJack · 04/05/2017 23:32

hanging wicker hearts was now indicative of swinging?

Shagpile seems more appropriate Grin

brownear · 04/05/2017 23:38

yANBU

Obsidian77 · 04/05/2017 23:41

I dare you to go...purely for research purposes Grin
If they get fruity you can tell them you have to run any decisions by MN!

8misskitty8 · 04/05/2017 23:42

I'd be making my excuses and not going op.
The more frequent meet ups with you sound like they are thinking about making you their new 'partners'
Unless that floats your boat, run for the hills !

paxillin · 04/05/2017 23:43

As long as they don't open the door wearing a pleather thong when you go for a drink... How DO swingers find out if new couple friends are in it only for drinks and chats? Dave's approach is actually a good one, be pissed (or pretend to be) so you can propose such shenanigans rather than spend 8 months carefully probing and hinting.

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