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aibu- Im feeling really upset as one of the mum's just yelled at me...?

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roka1 · 02/05/2017 18:36

Outside my DS's school (where he's been attending for the last 4 years), parents always park on the double yellow lines at drop Off and pickup times. I'm no different. Yet today or of the blue, one mum who arrived after me but managed to find a parking bay, started giving it to me loudly, saying I was breaking the law by parking on the double yellows and was responsible for knocking children off the road and killing them. I let her go on, and held my tongue simply as I didn't think it appropriate to create a scene right outside the school in front of kids etc. She was letting it rip, in front of her son. I kept my cool ...But I've come home, thinking about this incident, and really quite upset.

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RainbowChasing · 03/05/2017 22:18

Why do some parents find it so difficult to follow the laws of the roads when it involves school pick ups? Such utter selfishness. The double yellow lines are there for a reason. Having children is not a 'Get out of jail free' card.

FrancisCrawford · 03/05/2017 22:52

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Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 23:10

Have you read my response properly? I'm agreeing with you that parking there is not right. All I was saying was it seemed to be becoming a bit like a personal attack. You seem very angry and I'm not sure it's helpful in anyway. I'm OT going to speak to people in a bashing way just to get my point across. I get you feel strongly about this, we're all parents and totally get why you(and I) feel like this. I'm just in favour of a less aggressive manner I guess.

Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 23:10

*not

Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 23:15

Just to add to the example we set- I'd prefer to teach my child dignity,self respect and respect for others aswell as road safety and I would not have spoken to anyone this way in a school with kids around it's just not needed. I'd rather show my kids how to handle that situation properly rather than show them and everyone else that I'd lost control by shouting like that. I just think it could have been handled differently and if you read back my responses that's what I've said.

BigGrannyPants · 03/05/2017 23:19

@Cuppatea85 OP asked if she was being unreasonable.... posters have said SIBU.. no advice asked for. It's personal because this is how children get killed. It's serious and should be treated as such. No one is sugar coating their responses because OP should feel terrible about what she has been doing and desist immediately. Last Friday a 7 year old was literally inches from being run down at our school ON THE PAVEMENT and the ignorant arsehole Parent was completely oblivious, even when she drove off she had no idea she had nearly run over this boys head. OP should've fully expected a roasting on this thread.

Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 23:27

That's awful to hear that happened And it's a really scary and yes, totally serious issue. I haven't objected to that and I haven't tried to diminish it. I too have children and would go to the end of the earth to ensure their safety. Im just not sure an adult making a scene in front of children at a school is appropriate at all and I would have an issue to my child being subjected to that(regardless of this particular situation). My feeling was just that the woman didn't need to shout and yell in school. My child would have been gutted and scared if I'd been yelled at in front of her,or anyone else for that matter. A pp mentioned police being involved, that's what happened at our school and it made a difference...a bit anyway. The school keep trying to improve on this but I wouldn't condone the shouting woman's behaviour either

Lynnm63 · 03/05/2017 23:40

Well I would park on double yellows but I have a blue badge and I'd be overjoyed if I could walk 5 mins anywhere but I'm assuming the op isn't disabled or she'd have said. I'd be really angry if someone shouted at me though.

WyfOfBathe · 03/05/2017 23:48

I would have an issue to my child being subjected to that
OP's DC were only subjected to that because she broke the law and endangered children's lives.

OP you say that parents always park on the double yellows.Some parents always park on double yellows, but I'm sure that most parents put other people's safety ahead of their own convenience.

Cuppatea85 · 04/05/2017 00:02

op and dc were only subjected to that because she broke the law... sorry I disagree. I don't blame other people for my behaviour. Once again,im not condoning the parking thing. Im also not condoning the woman shouted and I too would be upset.

LegalFlamingo · 04/05/2017 00:08

OP is clearly BU, parking on yellow lines is dangerous as they're there for a reason. Especially outside a school. But is it really necessary to call OP a twat and a tosser?! I think they'd get the message from a simple YABU without the abuse...Confused

Jux · 04/05/2017 00:18

That's the mentality of someone who'd jump off a cliff just because everyone else does. Grow up.

LurpakIstheOnlyButter · 04/05/2017 00:26

Park somewhere else. Walk. Talk to your DC on the way. Stop being an arsehole. Simple

Whileweareonthesubject · 04/05/2017 07:26

this , essentially, this order makes it a criminal offence to park around the schools where the order is in place. It's an automatic £100 fine and points on your licence. No reduction if you pay the fine on time. Maybe you'd prefer this?

Children around the country are injured and worse, every day because of inconsiderate parking. Why wouldn't you park further away and walk for a few minutes. Isn't a child's life worth that?

FrancisCrawford · 04/05/2017 07:41

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Cuppatea85 · 04/05/2017 08:19

Legal flamingo, thank you this is exactly my point. I just think it's bordering on abuse now. Thank you!

Cuppatea85 · 04/05/2017 08:20

Francis Crawford are you reading back your responses to mine? It's becoming embarrassing now. I think some people use this board just to let out frustration and anger

FrancisCrawford · 04/05/2017 08:32

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Cuppatea85 · 04/05/2017 08:44

Ok. You don't need to agree with me I'm not trying to make you. Just have a think about how you appear online and how your tone and words come across. Online aggression is a massive problem these days and actually takes a lot of lives too. Maybe you should think about that seen as youre so big on safety and abiding by the law

MMMMMaria · 04/05/2017 09:02

Completely unreasonable. No need to swear at the OP but also want to point out that 'teaching my child respect for others' also means teaching them to follow laws and not endanger lives with unlawful parking/driving. Shocking that so many drivers still park either dangerously or inconsiderately.

Lillithxxx · 04/05/2017 09:03

I'm with you FrancisCrawford. Inconsiderate parking around schools is a huge problem. If all that happens to a child (in a congested area outside a school - obstructed with illegally parked cars causing a hazard) is that their parent gets shouted at by someone who is as infuriated by their stupidity and selfishness as the rest of us, then they aren't doing too badly are they.
I'm hoping that the OP (who went to ground very early on) has seen the error of her ways but we will possibly not find out, will we OP?

Cuppatea85 · 04/05/2017 09:09

I agree with this MMMMMaria, was just pointing out that it could have been handled differently

craftycarls · 04/05/2017 10:09

She was probably shouting at you so all the other offenders could hear it too. You were just the unlucky one she chose.

Plug123 · 04/05/2017 10:14

I agree, DO NOT PARK, very dangerous and stupid. Children can get hurt. This happens at my child's school, should be lynched.

PortiaCastis · 04/05/2017 10:14

The school your kids go to needs a visit from the police OP. Once all you precious petals are nicked you might think twice about children's safety and breaking the law

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