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AIBU?

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aibu- Im feeling really upset as one of the mum's just yelled at me...?

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roka1 · 02/05/2017 18:36

Outside my DS's school (where he's been attending for the last 4 years), parents always park on the double yellow lines at drop Off and pickup times. I'm no different. Yet today or of the blue, one mum who arrived after me but managed to find a parking bay, started giving it to me loudly, saying I was breaking the law by parking on the double yellows and was responsible for knocking children off the road and killing them. I let her go on, and held my tongue simply as I didn't think it appropriate to create a scene right outside the school in front of kids etc. She was letting it rip, in front of her son. I kept my cool ...But I've come home, thinking about this incident, and really quite upset.

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notanevilstepmother · 02/05/2017 18:56

I used to wonder why the children at a particular school thought they didn't have to do as they were told, and why they didn't understand why people got annoyed with them for breaking rules. Then I saw the parents parking, double yellow lines, zigzag yellow lines, blocking the gates etc.

Not only is parking on yellow lines near a school dangerous, lazy and selfish, but you are also setting a terrible example to your children. Why would they do as they are told when they see you break the rules every morning?

SnickersWasAHorse · 02/05/2017 18:57

So you did something illegal and dangerous and got called out on it.
Yes she shouldn't have shouted at you but parking dangerously is the bigger crime.

Arkhamasylum · 02/05/2017 19:02

Yes. The double yellow lines aren't a co-incidence. They've been put there deliberately to make it safer for the children when they leave school. Obviously, this only works if parents obey the law and park elsewhere.

I can understand that you felt upset when she shouted at you, but if it's stopped you doing it again, then she did the right thing.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/05/2017 19:02

She shouted at you and you're upset? Good.

strawberrygate · 02/05/2017 19:04

I'd love an insight into the minds of these selfish / lazy / entitled tossers. So, tell me OP why exactly do you park on double yellows outside a school?

AvoidingCallenetics · 02/05/2017 19:08

Be interesting to see where she parks next time she can't find a bay though!

You were wrong to park there, but if she is going to yell in the street, her own driving and parking had better be perfect in future.

BadTasteFlump · 02/05/2017 19:09

No sympathy from me. There are double yellow lines outside schools for a reason - to keep a section of the road clear of parked cars so children can cross safely. Why does that not matter to you?

If you are too lazy to park further away and walk your child into school, you will have to drop him/her further away and let them do the last bit alone. Or maybe you don't want to do that because all the selfish people who park on yellow lines make it too dangerous...?

user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 19:10

The MN massive is all about busybodies policing other peoples behaviors and "confronting" people over parking etc is often applauded on here, so good luck with this OP.

HighwayDragon1 · 02/05/2017 19:10

Don't park on double yellows then. Douche.

GerdaLovesLili · 02/05/2017 19:11

What a wonderful example to your child you are: demonstrating that it's OK to break the law when it suits you.

SnickersWasAHorse · 02/05/2017 19:13

The MN massive is all about busybodies policing other peoples behaviors and "confronting" people over parking etc is often applauded on here, so good luck with this OP.

I don't think that asking people to not park dangerously outside a school is being a busy body.

Bangsheadontable · 02/05/2017 19:13

Good for her.

Imagine how much worse you'll feel when a child gets knocked over.

Increasinglymiddleaged · 02/05/2017 19:14

I think yabu, park further away and walk it isn't that hard. People 'always do it' at my dds' school also and it really annoys me.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 02/05/2017 19:15

No you shouldn't have been parked there. We know that and you know that. However its wrong of her to single you out. When others are doing the same thing

user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 19:15

I don't think that asking people to not park dangerously outside a school is being a busy body

I don;t think shouting at people in the street is "asking". Do you?

Hulababy · 02/05/2017 19:16

Maybe she shouldn't have shouted loudly at you BUT unless she was aggressive or swearing it isn't that big an issue in light of the fact that YOU were parked illegally and in a dangerous position.

No one should park on double yellow lines, especially next to a school. they are there for a reason, and yes - children have been seriously injured due to parents parking illegally and inconsiderately on double yellow lines outside schools. Maybe she knows of a child who has been injured in such circumstances.

I am surprised the headteacher want been informed of all these parents parking on double yellows all the time and isn't taking more action tbh. Hopefully the parent also reported the cars and their reg numbers to school so that they can take more action.

Of the two actions that occurred, it is YOUR actions which are of most concern, illegal and dangerous. Her's might have embarrassed you. Yours could have led to a serious accident occurring.

Not her issue unless she's a traffic warden.

I disagree. If her child goes to the school then the OP's dangerous paling may be putting her child at risk. Therefore it is her business. It should be of interest to anyone who has a child in that school.

unofficial rules

Double yellow lines are not unofficial rules made up by the school!
Rule 238: Double yellow lines indicate a prohibition of waiting at any time even if there are no upright signs.

Creampastry · 02/05/2017 19:18

Stop parking on yellow lines.... simple!

Pettywoman · 02/05/2017 19:18

Like this thread would ever go well for you OP? What were you thinking?

I was a fishwife today when for the fifty gazillionth time someone went across the red light of a crossing when me and my kids were crossing with a green man. I shouted so loudly and the cheekster had the temerity to complain my kids had run out, they were not running but struggling with their bikes. He had a very strong reply from me. #goteamfishwife

Hulababy · 02/05/2017 19:18

You were wrong to park there, but if she is going to yell in the street, her own driving and parking had better be perfect in future.

Not perfect; just legal.

Lochan · 02/05/2017 19:19

You are upset because she thinks badly of you. But every parent who parks safely and walks the extra distance thinks just as badly of you (and the others parking dangerously) they just don't say so.

Perhaps her child had a near miss.

Learn from this and park better in future.

Muminho · 02/05/2017 19:21

It's not nice to be shouted at but she was right and it's hugely frustrating when parents park on double yellows. Maybe it doesn't seem so bad when your children are little and you accompany them and can negotiate the dangerous parking, but it becomes a real barrier to letting older children walk to school by themselves as it can make it impossible for them to cross roads near schools safely.

elephantscansing · 02/05/2017 19:21

YABU. I would judge anyone who parked on the yellow lines outside a school. Get there earlier or walk from your car to the school. You're breaking the law.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 02/05/2017 19:22

Parking outside schools is a real minefield, and all,schools,have their,unofficial,rules,and regulations.

Well yes plus there is the law, which the OP broke.

ifeelcraptonight · 02/05/2017 19:23

No matter how many times you ask, the answer will be the same ...

Littledidsheknow · 02/05/2017 19:25

held my tongue simply as I didn't think it appropriate to create a scene right outside the school in front of kids etc.

But dangerous parking is perfectly fine and appropriate though, eh?

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