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aibu- Im feeling really upset as one of the mum's just yelled at me...?

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roka1 · 02/05/2017 18:36

Outside my DS's school (where he's been attending for the last 4 years), parents always park on the double yellow lines at drop Off and pickup times. I'm no different. Yet today or of the blue, one mum who arrived after me but managed to find a parking bay, started giving it to me loudly, saying I was breaking the law by parking on the double yellows and was responsible for knocking children off the road and killing them. I let her go on, and held my tongue simply as I didn't think it appropriate to create a scene right outside the school in front of kids etc. She was letting it rip, in front of her son. I kept my cool ...But I've come home, thinking about this incident, and really quite upset.

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Spectre8 · 03/05/2017 19:25

I think fines are not workign any more, it should be points on first two offences and then a ban. This is the only want to teach them they aren't adults they are children who look like adults. If a child behaved wrongly then you as a parent would teach them right from wrong, even confiscating things to ensure they do not repeat it. So yup its time those adult children are taught a lesson. Take away their ability to use their car by banning them.

People should not be allowed to drive if they refuse to adhere to the highway code.

user1489675144 · 03/05/2017 19:32

Shouting isn't nice but you are in the wrong - DON'T PARK ON DOUBLE YELLOW LINES OUTSIDE A SCHOOL. Just park a little further away and walk - you may not realise it was lazy parking on double yellows can lead to accidents with children coming out from behind parked cars. Be better than the school run parents who care less about safety of children and more about how close they can get to the school gates.

NotYoda · 03/05/2017 19:34

///////\ DON'T PARK ON DOUBLE YELLOW LINES ///////\

////////\ YOU PLONKER /////////

NotYoda · 03/05/2017 19:35

//////\ IT'S MUMS (PLURAL) NOT MUM'S //////\

trelawney59 · 03/05/2017 19:42

Guess you'd be more upset if your irresponsible and illegal parking seriously injured or killed a child - yours or somebody else's.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 03/05/2017 19:54

Gosh of course you are being unreasonable. You're probably upset because you know fishwife had a valid point!

For what irs worth. Those zigzag lines and double yellow lines aren't just there for decoration and for emergency services. They are there for your Children's safety.
For example, there has been quite a few occasions where classes from DCs school had been very late coming back from their swimming lessons and the coach had to park miles down the hill after trying and failing to be able to park outside the school where he should have been able to park safely because too many parents keep treating it as their own personal car park.

SaltySalt · 03/05/2017 19:57

Well that went well op Grin

Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 19:58

I'm not sure you needed another row, which is all you've seemed to get on here :-/ poor you. Let it go over your head and maybe not park there anymore. He woman probably had a bad day and took it out on you. She propbably (if she's decent at all) went home and felt really embarrassed about making a scene in a school which in my opinion isn't any better than what she was giving you a row for! Some people are rude. Maybe you parked in the wrong place,it's not the end of the world and they way she went about giving her opinion was in appropriate. Chin up x

Lovemusic33 · 03/05/2017 19:58

We have a huge problem with parking outside our school, if I see people parking where they shouldn't I often comment. I'm sorry but there's no excuse, just because someone else parked there doesn't mean it's ok for you too (if someone jumped off a cliff would you do it too?). The lines are there for a reason so if you don't want to be given abuse don't park there.

howrudeforme · 03/05/2017 20:04

School parking thread.

Blimey. We lived opposite ds school for years. It wasn't double yellow but was by 8am fully parked with people using tube. So our parking was blocking or parking in drives. I had a bench outside our place so we had double whammy of cars inside and blocking drive (and this lot would be arguing with each other), plus people on our property, chatting loudly sitting on our bench. Until one day dh came out in his pjs and screamed at the them for waking him up. School was useless .

38cody · 03/05/2017 20:26

I always stop on the double yellows and the kids jump out - everyone does it at my school.
She is a disgrace to scream in public in front of your children and I bet hers were mortified!

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 03/05/2017 20:27

I always stop on the double yellows and the kids jump out - everyone does it at my school.

Still illegal

HTH

Littledidsheknow · 03/05/2017 20:29

You are in a tiny, miniscule, vanishing, twattish minority 38CodyCody

Deidre21 · 03/05/2017 20:34

As many have said just because others do it .... also his would you feel if you cause someone to be hurt while you are parked there or if your son got hurt because someone parked there? People should stop being so uncaring when they know this is wrong.

Carriecakes80 · 03/05/2017 21:00

38Cody, thank God people like you are in the minority, sadly your kids will probably grow up to be ignorant of the law too, they are THERE for a REASON! My father is a paramedic, and I can tell you countless bloody stories of children and parents, hurt/killed by people like you, who think "Ahh well, everyone else does it, It'll be fine, done it a thousand times!'

I wonder how you would feel if it were one of your kids hit by a car because some ignorant arse-head had parked 'just for a sec to let the kids jump out!'

Bloody idiots, thank God the majority seem to realise that for two seconds laziness and stupidity, it can mean the loss of a life.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 03/05/2017 21:01

Your kids jump out? Really? So you leave them unattended then or do you manage to get them outside school specifically on time every morning? How old are your children too? If I just let my kids jump out I think the staff would be questioning why he's been left on his own! Hmm

toobreathless · 03/05/2017 21:02

Parents were parking on the pavement/cycle track at our school with some parents even reversing on it to turn around while children walked along it and opening car doors into people walking along.

The thing that appears to have been the best deterrent was to let the children walk along with umbrellas, especially our ancient one which is child sized with a metal top and spikes. A bit of wild swinging of the umbrellas right next to the cars and the drivers started parking elsewhere!

Cheesecakefan · 03/05/2017 21:10

YAB so U. Putting children's lives at risk is so much worse than shouting. So what if other people do it? It's still dangerous and selfish.

Why don't you leave more time, park further away and walk?

Ferrisday · 03/05/2017 21:15

Why do people not understand that the reason you cannot stop outside a school, double yelllows or zigzags, is to keep the children safe ??

Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 21:24

I'm genuinely shocked at so many people becoming quite angry/abusive on this thread. Clearly op said she was upset. Maybe she made the wrong choice by parking where she did. Does this justify this bashing continual bashing? People keep repeating the same stuff now. It's becoming very personal.

Norfolkgirl1 · 03/05/2017 21:39

Woudn't it be lovely if the OP was to return and make a comment along these lines -
Thank you all for your invaluable comments. Thank you for pointing out that I was being totally unreasonable. I'm ashamed to admit I really hadn't considered it from anyone else's point of view, but will defintiely be turning over a new leaf and encouraging others to do the same.

Spectre8 · 03/05/2017 21:52

Cuppatea85 not shocked by OP's statement: ' parents always park on the double yellow lines at drop Off and pickup times. I'm no different.'

OP has declared that she is no different to the parents that always park on the double yellow lines therefore she always parks on double yellows. This isn't a first offence its an offence everyday she takes her kids to school. You know if its a one-off I could be a bit sympathic but not when its all the time.

scootinFun · 03/05/2017 22:00

Norfolk Girl that would be lovely - but sadly unlikely.

FrancisCrawford · 03/05/2017 22:01

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Cuppatea85 · 03/05/2017 22:11

Spectre8 - yes I agree it wasn't the right thing to do. It's an issue at my DDs school too and the police have been involved but I just think a lot of the comments are becoming personal now.
Francis Crawford- Im pretty sure there's a lot worse advice out there lol. I just think that op may have got the point now and that it's becoming a bit of a bashing rather than debate or giving advice. I wonder would you have done what this lady did in the school grounds and made a scene like this in front of other children including your own? What an example to our children eh! If anyone can agree with that then I think they need to look at their own fallibilities? No ones perfect on this board so let's not bring someone further down by bashing. She's got the point?