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Dh won't drive to the shop

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:07

To get stuff for a roast dinner. He said we can all walk down (takes about an hour there and back) and make it a nice dog walk with the kids. I don't drive or I'd have gone myself, and the buses are rubbish today.

But about five minutes ago he had a brainwave about making cheese scones. And now he's going to drive to the shop to get the buttermilk (and the roast stuff).

His logic (?) is that making the scones is a family activity so it negates the need to make the trip to the shop a family activity.

I've told him he's being weird. I mean, I'm happy not to have to leave the house and everything, but I just don't get the so called logic.

It's not me, is it? I'm laughing at him and he's looking at me like I'm mad.

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Flyinggeese · 01/05/2017 11:10

It sounds like he just wants to have a family activity of some kind or another. Quite sweet!

EastMidsMummy · 01/05/2017 11:11

Learn to drive.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 01/05/2017 11:13

He wants to spend time as a family. Not really a strange thing on a b/holiday

MakeUpMyRoom · 01/05/2017 11:14

buy a bike

AntigoneJones · 01/05/2017 11:14

does sound slightly annoying but then u have a DH who makes cheese scones and wants to do 'family stuff' - make the most of it. Get him to whip up a loaf of bread and an apple pie while he is at it.
he does sound lovely (bit jealous)

lastqueenofscotland · 01/05/2017 11:14

I think he sounds nice... and agree I'd learn to drive.

stella23 · 01/05/2017 11:17

Maybe he's fed up of being the driver all those 'only takes 5 mins' certainly all add up

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:18

He is very sweet. I adore him.

He just has funny rules and logic for stuff. He was trying to explain it to me and I was laughing at him.

I can drive btw, but I don't have a licence at the moment (medical reasons).

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WorraLiberty · 01/05/2017 11:19

Not everyone is suited to driving.

But if I was the OP, I would have looked up the bus timetable and planned the journey.

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:20

He was being all earnest about it. 'We'll drive down to get some buttermilk and stuff'. 'Oh, ok, but I thought you wanted a family walk' 'yes but we don't have to now as we can do family baking'

Confused
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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:20

Worra it's Sunday service today and we live in a village. So it would take a good couple of hours on the bus.

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SocksRock · 01/05/2017 11:21

My DH would totally apply the same logic. I can't pretend to understand it, but hey ho...

Mine is downstairs making pasta dough so he can make ravioli with the children for tea tonight so it's not just yours that cooks!

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:24

It's like the time I washed two of his five work t shirts. It ruined his system of washing them all at the weekend, so he didn't do the others at the weekend and ran out by Wednesday.

We like the joke about the software engineer who goes to the shop. His wife said get two milks and if they have eggs get six. So he gets six milks. That's dh all over.

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citychick · 01/05/2017 11:25

is there a specific reason that you don't drive?
can you not cycle?

my DH is not a confident driver but i put him on my insurance anyway so he could improve his skills despite pranging the car on several occasions

Forwardsforwards · 01/05/2017 11:25

your dh sounds lovely. nothing wrong with the logic. sounds like he maybe just changed his mind?

I avoid going out on BH's because I am separated and it still hurts to see families out and about (childish I know)

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:26

I love driving! And I'm good at it. But I had my licence revoked last year (MH stuff).

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:27

I didn't mind the idea of all walking down by the way. It just amuses me the way his mind works.

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harderandharder2breathe · 01/05/2017 11:28

I get the logic, he wanted a family activity. Baking is replacing the family walk.

Although won't the dog still need walking anyway?

Trills · 01/05/2017 11:30

She's already said there are medical reasons for not driving.

I quite like his logic. It makes sense to me.

Let's make the walk a family activity.
I have now thought of another family activity we can do - making scones.
If we do the walk there won't be time for the scone-making as well - so which do I prefer?
I prefer scone-making as a family to walking as a family, so let's do that.

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:30

I'll take the dog out later, she's a chihuahua and only needs a fifteen minute plod. She's a lazy moo (currently asleep on my lap). She'll happily do a longer walk but it's not necessary.

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:32

It makes sense when you put it like that, Trills. It just didn't make sense the way he was explaining it.

He's a funny sausage.

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SaltySalt · 01/05/2017 11:32

learn to drive

Every bleeding thread when someone doesn't (or can't in this case) drive posters jump in with that comment. Every. Fucking. Time.

SaltySalt · 01/05/2017 11:33

He sounds funny op anyone who can bake scones gets my vote Grin

Armadillostoes · 01/05/2017 11:34

EastMids-That was a horrible post! I can't drive for health reasons either and it is so upsetting when people just casually assume I can't be bothered. It's frustrating enough as it is, without comments like that! The OP and other non-drivers don't need that kind of thoughtless remark.

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GreenHairDontCare · 01/05/2017 11:35

He is a good one.

Although he's now asking me to look up a recipe. And how to work the food processor. But god loves a trier.

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