Can I safely assume she's a lesbian now? Or shall I give up my dream and leave well alone

[nowimqueer]

Absolutely beautiful woman joined our team four months ago. I was friendly but she made me so nervous I kept my distance a little bit so I didn't blush and make an idiot of myself. She was clearly not lesbian. She's incredibly feminine
-and has acrylic nails-.

However she made an effort to be friendly and I decided to just make a new friend in work. She added me on Facebook last night and OMG!!!

On 'interested in' it says Women. She's been to every gay pride march since 2007
-not that I checked her Facebook that far back-

She volunteers at a LGBT charity for HIV positive gay men.

She doesn't seem to have had any girlfriends but she has said previously she's never had a relationship as she's never met the one and is fussy!

She's shared a poster that says 'when people say I don't look gay. Sorry I forgot to shower in rainbows and sprinkles this morning'.

So can I now assume she's lesbian? Or could she just be very involved in gay rights?

And how far out of your league does someone need to be before you don't even bother trying.

For reference, she looks like Megan Fox. I look like Melissa Ferrick!

The nails thing seems odd, I'm sure some of my lesbian friends have had them. I didn't know this was a giveaway in sexuality!
She is fussy. She has nails (?) so maybe she doesn't have sex either. I'm a bit baffled to be honest. Just be fb friends and see where it goes. Fb can be quite a good filter. She may have qualities on fb that you haven't seen at work.

'erm, straight people with long nails have sex without too many problems.'

If you're with a man who likes a finger up the bum it's best to keep your fingernails short.

I might send that tip into Woman's Weekly...

I totally get the nails thing. Female porn stars always have these gross, long nails. When I was young and single I used to watch porn sometimes and just think "ouch, that must chafe like hell" when some bored woman with long red nails was pretending to masturbate. (My goodness, porn is so bloody awful in so many ways...)

Mitzy all the best tips are on MN

Oh please do Mitzy!

Sounds pretty Lesbian to me OP. Good luck!

if my dh asked me to put a finger up his arse I would assume he was hallucinating!

mitzy no people's friend magazine

Well if you are set on not asking her out until she moves buildings, could you at least try to cultivate a friendship with her in the short term and report back every last romantic detail

If you're with a man who likes a finger up the bum it's best to keep your fingernails short.

Is that for the sake of his comfort or your hygiene?

So ASK HER OUT!! If she's not a lesbian, then she'll just tell you. But nothing wrong with suggesting going for a coffee or a drink.

@HerOtherHalf that comment made me laugh and I'm supposed to be working on a presentation. Now DH knows I'm not doing anything remotely industrious.

I've read some lesbians using gloves with cotton balled up in the fingertips to prevent ouchies

Whilst feminine is (imo!) definitely not an argument why somebody isn't a lesbian the long nails kind of are...

Because... Ouch :(
I had short nails (and actually still do) when I had a girlfriend... I ended up marrying a man (I'm bi) and I think I could technically have long nails nowadays... But I prefer them short for practical reasons, tbh...

Is that for the sake of his comfort or your hygiene?

Both, but mainly to avoid inflicting injury to the male party.

Nothing stopping you from asking her out for a coffee "just as friends". And that way later on if she moves buildings it won't seem weird with you wanting to keep in touch and then ask her out.

Melissa ferrick looks nice! I'd prefer her over Megan fox if I was going by looks!

I don't think you should rush to ask her out. I'd see what the lie of the land is first.

I realise this cautious approach does not make for the most exciting thread though

I would probably trample Megan Fox to get to Melissa Ferrick, personally speaking

She sounds like a big ol' lez to me, despite nails! (The nails would throw me too)

"'On 'interested in' it says Women."
"'when people say I don't look gay. Sorry I forgot to shower in rainbows and sprinkles this morning'."

I would suggest that these are incredibly subtle hints that she's gay.

"There won't be any outcome for months. I'm not planning to ask her on a date anytime soon."

Yep, that'll definitely work. Like the old saying goes: Faint heart always won fair lady.

I think both mf are hot

I'm rather astonished so many people don't realise having long nails put up your vag (or bum) might not be pleasant!

When I had a girlfriend my nails were short, but it was because I had a girlfriend. Whenever I don't have one (like now because my dp is a man) they are long.

Surely if she doesn't have a girlfriend then her nails need not be short?

Fruitcocktail

Yes!

I mean, I'm sure some people manage with long nails (somebody said cotton pads and gloves over it, for example)?
but if somebody likey to use their finger on somebody's vag (or in a bum, I suppose) pointy or just long nails are a rather bad idea...

Just ask her out. You have nothing to lose. It's not like she's going to be offended.