To think there's nothing wrong with leaving your wife and kids

[Fuzzybuzzybeebee]

As long as you support your children and continue to be an active part of their lives.

I'm not talking about men or women who have affairs and leave their partners after cheating on them.

What I mean is a man or woman, who has fallen out of love with their partner or spouse and leaves them. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I actually think it's more cruel to stay with someone you don't love anymore.

My cousin's husband has left her and they have a 1 year and 3 year old. Everyone is saying he's the devil incarnate. I just don't feel that way. He obviously stopped loving her, so had to leave her.

He is still a good Dad to his children and supports both of them and she has said this.

I left my Sons Dad when my son was a toddler. I tried very very hard to stay together but I didn't love him and couldn't stay. I don't think that makes me evil.

You should try and make a relationship work. You should try everything. But when you truly stop loving someone, the right thing to do is leave. And that doesn't make you a bad person as long as you support your children.

AIBU?

Accept, not except

For my exh who left when the dcs were both under 5 because he wasn't getting enough attention found someone else to shag it has been a result. He sees them a couple of times a week and is therefore a "great dad" His career has gone from strength to strength because he has no childcare worries, he's far better off financially and has a new partner who the dcs have had to accept living with irrespective of if they like her.

He has never done a load of washing, gone to an open evening, dentists appt, hair appt, mopped up their tears, looked after them when they're sick etc. But still, he is considered a good dad doing his bit.

I have faced judgy comments about being a single mum From men I have met, from another mum at the school. I have no social life, a part time crappy job and money worries.

So really I appreciate the thread because its refreshing to see not everyone considers it okay. It really doesn't feel like that for the left person, normally the woman.

It's a bit different but I left my long term girlfriend as soon as I found out I was pregnant.

Zombieeeee

There’s nothing wrong with leaving a partner, there’s a lot wrong with leaving your kids.