To judge my step sister

[celeryeater]

For smoking in her pregnancy? She is 12 weeks pregnant and at a family do yesterday was still blatantly lighting up in front of everyone! I was I admit I've never smoked so can't understand how bad the addiction is but surely you would try and switch at least some of your smokes to a vaporiser? I know vaping is not exactly healthy but has to be better than smoking. Surely the moment you find out you're pregnant you do everything you possibly can to give that child the best chance?

Poor baby! Personally, I think smoking in pregnancy is totally selfish and awful!

A child should be the priority as soon as it's conceived and someone who can't be bothered to give up smoking for just 9 months in their whole lifetime probably is cut out to be the best parent in the world.

That's odd as the nhs also states 200mg of caffeine

The NHS says a lot of things, some of them on very dodgy evidence.

You get that most of the pregnancy guidelines are aimed at the level at the very stupidest? So they tell you not to eat liver because if you eat your own bodyweight everyday there is a slim chance of problems? They don't trust you to know how to eat a sensible amount of things so they just tell you to avoid.
They also tell you to avoid certain things due to listeria risk, for example, but not the things that are actually more likely to cause listeria. Also it took them 20 years to get on board with the reality that lion stamped eggs are perfectly safe in pregnancy, even raw!

The NHS are not the gods of all health rules!

I'm guessing that other countries are also wrong too then....

"surely you would try and switch at least some of your smokes to a vaporiser?"

Please, please don't do this. E-cigs are worse for the baby than normal cigarettes. It's the nicotine that harms the child, E-cigs are a smoke free nicotine delivery system. On average people consume higher levels of nicotine when they switch to E-cigs.

Well, I'm doing my best to stay under 200 mg of caffeine (and usually manage to do so. I'm not perfect, I had some slips. But it happens very rarely...). I'd hope the OP's DSS is also trying to smoke as little as possible. But I'm also aware that I've never been a smoker and therefore have no idea how difficult it is to stop...

But whatever we think/say. We can't make her stop anyway. Neither can the OP... And it is her body. (I mean, I think that way. I understand that this is a sensitive subject).

I understand that the OP cares and that's lovely and understandable. But judging her (I think people are very good to know when somebody is jugding them) will probably lead to nothing positive.