I have 50 minutes exactly to get this guy to ask me on a date

[Hopelessromantic1988]

What do I do?

He's been here a week in supply work. Instantly thought he fancied me as he always chose to sit by me. He would wear headphones when on his own but when I sat down immediately took them off and sat next to me. But he never ever spoke to me.

We both spent every lunch hour sat in silence, blushing the entire time and awkwardly avoiding eye contact. I'm the most extrovert person you can find but I can't even speak to him. He makes me too nervous.

I'm not completely sure he fancies me but I think he does.

He leaves work in 50 mins. I don't work in his department so not really appropriate for me to say goodbye as I've not even spoken to him.

What the hell do I do? . I promise I'm not 13!!!

Yikes.

Really shouldn't have let all that time go on without ever speaking to him. That's just unfriendly.

Then you could have just asked basic questions about work. A simple chat.

Then "well, hey, if you want to get a coffee or something..."

Casual. Friendly.

What's he gonna say? "Sorry, got some stuff to catch up on." Or "yes."

If nothing else, learn from this and try and, I dunno, toughen up a little. Life's too short for regrets.

...then bloody well run back and tell him your number.... run. ... ruuuuuunnnn... faster...omg. ....he could've been the one. ......

Oh no!

OP I think you need to work on that. As everyone has (repeatedly) said, what IS the worst that can happen?

Can you get his email address somehow (I realise this might not be legal) and send him a message saying you're painfully shy but you'd love to have a drink sometime?

...then bloody well run back and tell him your number.... run. ... ruuuuuunnnn... faster...omg. ....he could've been the one. ......

We don't know each other's email or phone number. We didnt even work together. Just in the same building.

How do you know he doesn't have Facebook? Have you done the full internet stalk?

This happened to me before, although I was 17 and so shy, had never had a boyfriend, couldn't even look at this Adonis of a man, let alone speak to him even though my friends were talking to his friends, so I added him on MySpace and we were together for two years after (turned out to be a horrendous human being but I thought he was the hottest man I'd ever seen).

Facebook isn't the only form of social media - what about stuff like linkd in, twitter, even sound cloud?!

Say 'a few of us are going for a drink on Friday evening, you're welcome to come?' Arrange the rest afterwards

Someone will have his number. Do you have a pal in HR?

Email him quickly or maybe you will be lucky and he has Faceboom - Add him and go from there. But if he doesn't you'll be gutted so quickly check he does.

See you in the TTC Forums in a few years time OP

Was that the only day you'll work with him?

Noooooo this can't end like this, sob.

Oh no.... Was hoping for a happy update. Fingers crossed he gets in touch

Fucking hell OP - do you feel like a dick now? and does that feel better or worse than potential embarrassment from rejection?

(I would have probably done the same though - but I'm a dick too)

Plus a man who isn't on FB gets bonus points doesn't he?

This thread has made me so sad Why didn't you speak to him? Fear of rejection is one thing but you won't have to see him again (unless you track him down) and why would it be so terrible to ask him out and him say no anyway? He could be gay/engaged/married...or he could be just as shy as you and be kicking himself that he didn't ask. And now you, he, us, me - none of us will ever know

How do you know he doesn't have Facebook? It's not as though you've had a conversation with him about it...

He told someone else it's funny he works in a media role as he has no social media accounts.

I've just read this whole thread to get let down 😂😩

Can't believe you didn't speak to him, the worst he could have said was no. You don't get anywhere being shy.

Blah your rubbish op.....You got us all excited 😟

It doesn't always work asking someone out.

It's not always worth it.

no OP, it doesn't always work asking smeone out. It's not always worth it, but you only need it to work once with the right person !!

Do an internet stalk, he might have been lying about the lack of social media due to not wanting it to be checked by work. What have you to lose?

Doesn't always work

I agree.

"Not always worth it"

In this case what would have been the downside?

What are these terrible awful things that can happen when someone says "no, thanks" ?

Nooooooooooo!!!!!

I bet if you Google his name you could find him and his email xx

It's always worth it - you either get accepted, so a potential new romance, or you get rejected, which means that you get to move on and look for someone else who likes you back!

OP are you quite young? Confidence is very attractive, both when dating and also when applying for jobs, so it is worth putting yourself out there a bit more to gain confidence - you can and should push yourself a bot more - you will get so much more out of life!

FWIW I have been rejected loads (gay, often chatted up straight women in gay clubs - how was I to know!) and I'm still standing! It's really not that bad!

What was your motive for posting on here, OP? To get us all to feel the same level of frustration that you do?