To tell off another child at soft play?

[Embarrassedatsoftplay]

I saw a 5/6 year old repeatedly slapping my DD who's 2 years in the 0-3 area of soft play. I ran over immediately saying 'hey!' As she kept slapping her. I picked up dd who had been pummelled to the floor by other child and had red on one cheek and scratch marks, turned around, couldn't see parent and said 'you don't hit another child like' that in a shocked/raised (not shouting voice). I realise my panic transferred into the voice and I feel awful I didn't deal with it in calm and collected way, and just pick her up and find member of staff to deal with parent (who was in corner with headphones on, on phone facing away from soft play). This is first time I've seen DD be hit like this and I can see scratch marks on neck and arm but face has returned to normal colour. I know you're not meant to tell other people's kids of and I'm shaking/feeling awful.

JustAKitten

You should use equipment properly inlife of you dont want to get hurt by being an idiot

Monkey There's no right way to do things though, inventiveness is a wonderful thing.

Surely anyone who saw a young unsupervised toddler at the foot of a slide about to be kicked by an older child would gently move them?

SURELY?

justa I am convinced you are a parent at my local playgroup! It was the body autonomy comment that did it.
Do you ask your ds his permission to change his nappy by any chance? And spend 20 minutes trying to coax him to come inside, instead of just picking him up and bringing him in, when the playgroup lady wants to close the doors?

Now I'm all for explorative gungho
play and explaining things that I need to do to/for my dc eg "mummy is now going to change your nappy". If I had to get my dd 'permission', she would happily spend all day in a shitty nappy.

P.s if you dont care about your kid getting hurt .. worrying but fine

But risking my kids getting hurt because your self entitled is being a "douche"

Ladies you are wasting your time. Precious snowflake must be allowed to do what he likes regardless of the rules clearly stated by every soft play establishment I have ever visited and accepted social norms. How this impacts your children is your problem not Kitten's. What you do in your own garden or when no other child is around is your business but allowing your child to climb up a slide in an environment where other children are and where the rules clearly state it is not allowed is entitled and selfish.

I do not know a single child who's parents have taken this parentimg approach, that plays nicely with others.

dont that's not me, I don't take my DS to playgroup. I don't ask his permission. I try and coax him but if he's not going to I'll just pick him up.

This has to be a wind up surely?

Monkey that's not about a way to play it's just how you should live if you're not a douche.

Then you are obviously getting it wrong because you are one.

JustaKitten

Why is Spread "an overreaching mother who swoops down like a hawk and intervenes in other people's business." ?

Isn't that exactly what you were being by telling several other people's children to stop taking it in turns sliding down the slide, following the considerate cooperative universally known code of taking it in turns and going down the slide, to make way for your lone toddler to climb up it?

OP, Yanbu. The world needs people like you who are willing to deal with the children (such as Kitten's slide-climbing DS) whose entitled parents have allowed their ability to follow social rules and basic manners go to shit.

CheepOrn you're using a false equivocation there.

I'm not lazy, I think it's important that children are allowed to sxploreZ

justakitten I cannot stand parents like you. Bloody tossers.

kitten I have a child with severe autism and learning difficulties whose play is anything but conventional. I don't let him climb up slides when others are on it ( and not at all in soft play) because it is dangerous.

I suspect justakitten is having a lovely time on this thread saying "no! No! I shan't" and stamping their foot.

I wouldn't feed it any more, myself.

Monkey There's no right way to do things though, inventiveness is a wonderful thing

Until it comes to having to let your one piss about on a slide for a couple of MINUTES whilst others waited their turn. Then them waiting is the right way to do it. I'm afraid many children would have concluded that you and yours were, in fact, the douches, and that waiting was no longer required (no rules, right?)

A few minutes is the equivalent of about 20 goes in a row!

5 if they're risk averse, yes. That doesn't mean I approve.

JustAKitten

Parents like you are just awful. Risking your child being hurt is disgusting and risking other children being hurt aswell!

You dont have a sacred vagina that popped out the most wonderful child in the world. Thinking about every kids safety is fair!

Stopping kids playing because your brat wants to climb up the slide and you wont teach them right from wrong is not fair.

Binky why am I in the wrong here and not those whose children can't tolerate waiting a minute for a younger child?

Monkey maybe your children are the intolerant brats who can't wait a minute for a younger child to enjoy something? Didn't think about that did you?

I ensure everyone gets a turn. I ensure everyone is treated fairly. But somehow I'm the dick. 👌🏻

If you don't understand by now people really are wasting their time explaining to you.

Yesterday i removed a small child from the road, onto the pavement, because their parent had decided that it was OK for them to wander around and 'explore' (and throw gravel at cars, aka 'playing'). It was a residential, but reasonably well-used road, with very poor visibility for drivers....did i do wrong?