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Original poster

To think this child shouldn't show off this way?

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 21:43

One of the children in my dd's school has taken a page out of a brochure and put it on the wrong of a clear plastic pencil case and has been showing everyone.

(She comes from a wealthy family so it's more than likely not a lie.)

Obviously I'm not saying this girl should say nothing. But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I think everyone is entitled to nice things, but I don't think you should rub said things in everyone's face. Other way around I wouldn't want my dd cutting out our holiday from a brochure and taking it into school to show off.

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ineedamoreadultieradult · 22/04/2017 22:07

If my friends are excited about something then I am excited and happy for them. Jealousy is a bad habit and 12 is old enough to learn not to be jealous.

FeedTheSharkAndItWIllBite · 22/04/2017 22:07

I have a picture of my imo gorgeous OH in my office (it's our wedding day). Is this also "not a nice thing"?

There's also a picture of our DD. I'm sure some people may be reminded of painful things because of it.

But that's life...

usernumbernine · 22/04/2017 22:07

Not an issue. I don't see the problem?

zzzzz · 22/04/2017 22:08

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stella23 · 22/04/2017 22:08

You sound quite jealous and Nasty, she's 12, showing pictures of where she's going on holiday, maybe there's more to it and she often brags but can't see it this time I

ijustwantfiveminutespeace · 22/04/2017 22:08

Totally lost! OP have you been drinking?

NotMyPenguin · 22/04/2017 22:08

YABU, she is just excited about going on holiday.

It's like saying that somebody who's just had a baby shouldn't post pictures of it in case it upsets somebody else who's having fertility problems.

There are probably lots of ways in which your life (and mine) is better than other people's lives. If you had a nice new car, would you avoid picking your daughter up from school in it in case it upset somebody who couldn't afford one?

MrsJayy · 22/04/2017 22:09

The girl is excited about her holiday i am not getting what you are so humphy about so what if she put a picture of a fancy hotel in her pencil case, there is always going to be somebody that has a better holiday than you or me

putdownyourphone · 22/04/2017 22:12

I actually can't believe you've come on here to slag off a 12 year old girl for showing off about her holiday at school Biscuit got nothing better to do on a Saturday night?!

TinselTwins · 22/04/2017 22:13

So what? maybe all her grandparents are dead or estranged and your kid has read a story about his nanna house out to the class?

Maybe her parents have to put her in after school club and she has to sit and watch your child getting picked up by a parent every day

Is it so hard for your kid to see that some people have different lives to yours? why?

As it happens my DD was looking at her atlas with me today and showed me some countries her friends had been to - brought the activity alive a bit (and we've never had a foreign holiday FWIW)

happypoobum · 22/04/2017 22:13

Um, OK.

Is there something else going on with you OP that is getting you down because this seems incredibly petty and a complete non issue.

Child puts photo of holiday destination in pencil case. Shock

Sorry, not seeing the issue.

Would you be upset if a child had a photo of their mums new car? Mulberry handbag?

Is it just that you haven't had a holiday for ages and are jealous?

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 22:13

You sound quite jealous and Nasty

How am I nasty? It's such a horrible word to use and there's just no need for it. To literally assassinate someone's character based on a post online.

She's actively going around to showing everyone in the class. The class is very mixed, and I know some children in there won't even get a day trip.

Yes there's being happy without being jealous (however I do believe jealousy is an emotion you can't control.)

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VladmirsPoutine · 22/04/2017 22:14

It's astonishing that you are so bothered by the (non) actions of a 12yo, so much so that you'll post about her (non) action on an internet forum on a Saturday night.
You might actually need a stiff drink and a grip!

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 22:15

I actually can't believe you've come on here to slag off a 12 year old girl for showing off about her holiday at school biscuit got nothing better to do on a Saturday night?!

Well we're both on mumsnet on a Saturday night so I think the comment "got nothing better to do on a Saturday night?!" Can be aimed right back at you darling,

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Sunnyjac · 22/04/2017 22:16

??? Get over yourself

Goodythreeshoes · 22/04/2017 22:16

But you are attacking this child's character OP.

Glossolalia · 22/04/2017 22:17

I think YABO

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 22:17

She's actively going around to showing everyone in the class. The class is very mixed, and I know some children in there won't even get a day trip.

Are you assuming that the children who are not going on holiday this year, couldn't possibly be pleased for their classmate?

Chippednailvarnishing · 22/04/2017 22:17

My DS went on holiday to somewhere exotic.
His favourite thing was Dunkin Donuts. Grin
God forbid he took his paper Dunkin Donuts bag in for show and tell.

MrsJayy · 22/04/2017 22:18

My cousin is just back from Thailand should i be Envy at her boasty facebook pictures ? i so am

Original poster
Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 22:18

Sorry I know some of you are majorly fishing here, but I ain't gonna bite Grin

Keep reeling though Wink

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 22:19

I think YABO

What's a YABO?

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TinselTwins · 22/04/2017 22:19

She's actively going around to showing everyone in the class. The class is very mixed, and I know some children in there won't even get a day trip

Some kids have hyper mobility…. so I guess other kids shouldn't get excited about sport

Some kids don't have siblings, so I guess nobody should "show off" their new brother or sister

happypoobum · 22/04/2017 22:19

But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I don't think there is a month goes by without someone at work showing me their new car/holiday/house/flat/coat/boots/sofa/giant fridgefreezer/horse online or a photo on their phone.

I suspect most of us have similar experiences.

I usually nod along and say "ooh, ahh lovely"

It's never occurred to me to be outraged Grin

stella23 · 22/04/2017 22:19

Hardly an assassination of your character, but I do think your post come across as quite un kind, you use the words 'rubbing people's face in it' and 'you wouldn't want your dd doing it' leading me to believe you disapprove of the behaviour, but why? What has she really done wrong?

Has she been horrible about others peoples Holiday destinations?

She's a child excited about her holiday, as I said if there is a history of bragging it's different but you haven't said that.

And yes you can't control being jealous but you can control how you react.