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To think this child shouldn't show off this way?

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 21:43

One of the children in my dd's school has taken a page out of a brochure and put it on the wrong of a clear plastic pencil case and has been showing everyone.

(She comes from a wealthy family so it's more than likely not a lie.)

Obviously I'm not saying this girl should say nothing. But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I think everyone is entitled to nice things, but I don't think you should rub said things in everyone's face. Other way around I wouldn't want my dd cutting out our holiday from a brochure and taking it into school to show off.

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malibuandlemonade · 22/04/2017 22:51

YABVVVVVVVVU- she's a child. Let her be excited about her holiday Hmm

AmberNectarine · 22/04/2017 22:52

Probably doesn't

MrsJayy · 22/04/2017 22:54

I kinda want to know where she is going my guess is bora bora Grin

To think this child shouldn't show off this way?
Mulberry72 · 22/04/2017 22:55

There's definitely something in the gin/glue at the moment!

Biscuit
hoddtastic · 22/04/2017 22:58

nah, i don't get the hating on the op.
At 12 she's not a little kid going to disney, she's tacky and a bit embarrassing really- maybe she doesn't have a lot else going on in her life I mean, as if a bunch of kids are arsed about your holiday destination (unless it's with the Arsenal football team/Little Mix/ someone famous type)

tacky- she'll hopefully cringe herself inside out as an adult. Taking a brochure in is hilarious, nobody gives a fuck.

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 22:58

Is she going to Maui?

Pigface1 · 22/04/2017 23:00

Most 12 year olds don't have highly developed social consciences. And she's excited about her holiday.

When I was 12 I liked to wear skirt/trouser combos and light purple sparkly lipstick. My pencil case was a backstreet boys tin I got free with 'smash hits' magazine and I drew a massive heart round Nick Carter's face in Tippex.

Just making the point that 12 year olds don't generally have amazingly good judgment.

bloodymaria · 22/04/2017 23:02

Fourtwenty chill out man Flowers

GiantDuckRampage · 22/04/2017 23:03

I still remember my best friend in school going on her first foreign holiday to Hawaii, I saw all the pictures of place before and her snaps afterwards and she brought me back one of the lei necklaces made out of sweeties, I was really excited for her and still even now want to visit one day based off them pics! Kids get excited about holidays and experiences I don't think it's bad.

Emboo19 · 22/04/2017 23:05

Taking a brochure in is hilarious, nobody gives a fuck
The op does!
It's no different to any teens/pre teens bragging about latest phones, trainers. Yes some most of the other kids will think she's a spoilt bitch.
But again that's part of high school.

Haffiana · 22/04/2017 23:07

O Lordy. Another person who imagines that the whole world is as small-minded and mean-spirited as she is.

YAB utterly, totally U to take offence at the happiness of another, particularly when that other is a child. Shame on you.

WildKiwi · 22/04/2017 23:08

I think you're a bit oversensitive to be honest. Child appears to be excited and lucky. I don't understand why you seem to want to shame her or make her excitement a bad thing. It's normal to tell people about your holiday plans, so why should children be any different.

Do you also get upset if people on social media put up pictures of their holiday? I see friends holiday photos all the time and think wish I was there. I'm unlikely to get a holiday for a very long time and a bit jealous, but I'm still happy for them.

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:11

nah, i don't get the hating on the op.

Yeah it's a shame but that's the tone of this whole thread, and people fall over themselves just to try and twist the knife that bit more Confused

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:13

Fourtwenty chill out man

I'm chilled thanks Smile

Think some other on here need to chill though, practically foaming at the mouth.

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BoomBoomsCousin · 22/04/2017 23:14

I think you're right OP. Showing off about stuff that lots of kids will never experience isn't particularly thoughtful. We're well off nowadays and my kids (still in primary school) can be quite loud about some of the things we get to do, I explain to them that it isn't nice to go on about stuff that others might feel left out of and I wouldn't let them put a photo of where we're going on their pencil case so they could show off even more. The girl is only 12 so her excitement may well be higher than her sense of empathy! But her parents aren't 12 and should know better.

MyCatLikesToSitInBoxes · 22/04/2017 23:17

Love, try to unclench. A child has stuck a picture of her holiday destination on her pencil case. There is literally nothing to say about that.

Why not try to get a good night's rest and try not to obsess about the minutiae of your daughter's interactions with her classmates?

Catherinebee85 · 22/04/2017 23:19

She's a child excited about her holiday?

I'm not seeing a problem. I never got fancy holidays when I was little (still have never had one) we went camping every year, more than once but I'd still be just as excited and want to show people pictures and tell them about it when we got back.

User7654 · 22/04/2017 23:20

Just Confused

MammaTJ · 22/04/2017 23:20

Not at all foaming at the mouth here, just shocked at your jealousy.

I bet you have a better holiday than me and my family this year, but I could not care less. I do my best, you do your best, girl you are so jealous of has parents who do their best. That is all anyone can ask or expect.

LonginesPrime · 22/04/2017 23:20

Yes, I think I'd think it quite crass if an adult did this, but kids don't know any better and she's probably just excited.

I'm sure she's not doing it to put other people down. Whilst kids from less financially-privileged backgrounds might be acutely aware of their parents' relative lack of money from a very early age out of necessity, it can take kids from better-off families years longer to twig that not everyone is as lucky as they are, in my experience.

user789653241 · 22/04/2017 23:22

At my ds' school, a lot of kids do sharing of their holiday. Nobody is jealous, they are excited to hear about all those exciting places.

Emboo19 · 22/04/2017 23:23

Not most people z but a lot of teens will. I'm not long out of high school and it won't be others being particularly mean or anything. But if she's making a big deal out of it and going on about it (which I think that's what op was implying, she may not be) then I bet there's a lot of bitiching behind her back, mostly from her so called friends.
It's high school, a bunch of teens/pre teens raging hormones and a big chunk of selfishness! It's part and parcel of growing up and learning to navigate social interactions.

Nothing wrong with any of it, within reason! Sad that a mother feels the need to bitch about her though!

ExplodedCloud · 22/04/2017 23:24

She'll have FB next year. Or maybe already has that, Snapchat, whatever.
Then it'll be far more than a bit of paper in a pencil case. There'll be plenty of fuel for your fire then.

Lalunya85 · 22/04/2017 23:25

When I was growing up my family couldn't afford fancy holidays, it was always local, always on the cheap - and I bloody loved them! With all the rainy weather and adventure that came with them.
My friends mostly had fancier holidays with flights, hotels, swimming pools. Never occurred to me to envy them, and I think that was partly thanks to my parents never comparing or showing any signs of jealousy towards my much wealthier friends.

Try to show your daughter that fancier holidays doesn't mean more fun.

Live by example. I know it's easier said than done!

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