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To think this child shouldn't show off this way?

340 replies

Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 21:43

One of the children in my dd's school has taken a page out of a brochure and put it on the wrong of a clear plastic pencil case and has been showing everyone.

(She comes from a wealthy family so it's more than likely not a lie.)

Obviously I'm not saying this girl should say nothing. But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I think everyone is entitled to nice things, but I don't think you should rub said things in everyone's face. Other way around I wouldn't want my dd cutting out our holiday from a brochure and taking it into school to show off.

OP posts:
CountryCaterpillar · 23/04/2017 11:04

Youarenot. Sounds like a lovely place to work!

PeanutButterBunny · 23/04/2017 11:07

I'm cringing for you, OP. It's probably too late for you to change your jealous self, but do your dd a favour and teach her to be happy for other people.

DonaldStott · 23/04/2017 11:09

What a bizarre thread! Followed by even more bizarre responses by the OP.

Can't get my head round it.

Fancy being jealous of a 12 yo taking a brochure pic in of her holidays. Bizarre.

GivenupontheGarden · 23/04/2017 11:10

It's not even a picture of her holiday, it's a page torn out of a holiday brochure and initially OP said she stuck in on the front of her pencil case, now it's, 'she's shoving it in everyone's faces' (paraphrased) Hmm.
OP what a sad life you live. You really should be ashamed of yourself. Jealousy is such a ugly emotion, it's also one extremely difficult to hide!

Original poster
Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 11:29

I get the feeling this thread didn't quite go the way the OP expected...wink
No which is why op is now throwing her toys out the pram.

I didn't EXPECT it to go any which way. I asked WIBU leaving it open to go any way.

I do however believe the first few posts set the tone of a thread and there isn't much point in the OP saying much after that. Not just this thread but in general.

I haven't thrown toys out of the pram Confused ... you can't just make things up to please your agenda. I genuinely believe that if a load of people of ripping in to you then it's best not to bite back. People on here crave a reaction and want the OP to go nuclear.

I've taken a few nibbles but not bitten and unfortunately for many of you that crave that ... well it's not going to happen because your words don't hurt me Wink

OP posts:
GinIsIn · 23/04/2017 11:35

The first posts set the tone of the thread because there is only one answer to your OP and that's YABU. You aren't going to find anyone to agree a little girl shouldn't be allowed to be excited to go on holiday!

You mention your family have been on holiday and have 2 more in the pipeline. Is your DD allowed to be excited and discuss it at school? I presume that's fine, in the same way it's ok for you to announce your holidays on here according to you, just not for this other girl to do it.

Original poster
Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 11:35

Anyway ive been out for a lovely breakfast and will enjoy the rest of my Sunday now.

I suppose I'm just fortunate enough that I've never had money issues and could book a holiday at any time to anywhere. I guess that's why I can't get over the crassness of shoving nice things in the face of those less fortunate but yes yes aibu .... now fight over the crunbs of that my little ... I want to say vultures but pidgeos is definitely more fitting. Kisses xx

OP posts:
Waffles80 · 23/04/2017 11:37

I'm going to print this thread out to put in my clear pencil case as a reminder of how weird people can be.

GinIsIn · 23/04/2017 11:38

Interesting too that you chose to start another thread disparaging people's weddings yesterday. My my, aren't we bitter!

How lovely for you that you've never had money issues and can holiday whenever you want. Doesn't announcing it on here count as rubbing it in the faces of the less fortunate then...?

MrsKCastle · 23/04/2017 11:38

I teach 6 and 7 year olds. Last week they were all really keen to share their holiday news, so I gave them some 'show and tell' time. We heard about all sorts of things from holidays abroad, theme parks, festivals to play dates and McDonald's and visits at Nana's house. I can honestly say that all the children were genuinely interested and excited to hear each other's news.

Children, even young children, can understand that everyone has different life experiences. I don't think I they need to be protected from the fact that others have more money, I think they need to be taught to value what they do have. I'm sure 12 year olds are fully capable of relating to their candidate's excitement and are able to be pleased for her. Yeah,it might be a bit annoying if she keeps going on about it but it doesn't sound like showing off. It sounds like an excited child. Provided she's not saying things like 'You couldn't afford this holiday' then I don't see why it's even worth a second thought.

MrsKCastle · 23/04/2017 11:40

Aaarrgh, classmate's excitement, not candidate's. Bloody autocorrect.

Untilthelastpetalfalls · 23/04/2017 11:53

Interesting too that you chose to start another thread disparaging people's weddings yesterday. My my, aren't we bitter!

Proper shit form to bring up different posts.

Also I don't agree with the OP but the amount of people literally saying the exact thing for pages, why? I don't get it Confused

JustAnotherSilentOldNumber · 23/04/2017 11:57

he amount of people literally saying the exact thing for pages, why? I don't get it

It's the bandwagon congaline.

GinIsIn · 23/04/2017 12:04

untilthastpetalfalls If a poster has never posted before apart from 2 GF threads on the same day, it is not proper shit form to point out that they may well have tendencies to goady fuckery. If the OP had posted anything in any way remotely personal or in a sensitive topic then that would indeed be poor form. As both the OP's threads are currently in active threads and make no reference to personal matters, it is perfectly reasonable to point them out.

RhiWrites · 23/04/2017 12:07

Hah, I think OP's been smoking the good stuff. 420 is a cannabis reference. Grin

MycatsaPirate · 23/04/2017 12:13

So you are loaded and can afford to take your DD abroad 3 times a year or more. Your DD is so blase about your wealth that she doesn't really give a shit anymore and just accepts it as a normal fact of life.

Meanwhile another child who also has parents wealthy enough to take her away is so excited about her holiday she's telling her friends.

Basically you are annoyed that this other girl is excited about her holiday. She's 12. My DD is excited about our holiday. We are going camping five miles from home. Some of her friends go abroad several times a year, ski-ing, exotic locations etc and DD just accepts that this is how life is but she's still interested in hearing about their trips and where they are going.

This is a really odd thing to post about.

MrsJayy · 23/04/2017 12:17

Further reading of thread just got weirder and weirder op it is fine poor people can cope with other people having nice holidays you don't need to worry about the fragile maybe stop acting so worthy and you wont be so upset about 12 year olds and their fancy holidays.

Haffiana · 23/04/2017 12:21

OP stop digging. Your last post is actually worse than your first. FAR worse.

Bluntness100 · 23/04/2017 12:26

I suppose I'm just fortunate enough that I've never had money issues and could book a holiday at any time to anywhere

I really hope that's true and you've not now resorted to lying and prefending to be very rich as well as being jealous Of little girls.

Proper shit form to bring up different posts

I totally disagree I think it's fine. I do think however it's proper shit form to unilaterally decide the rules of s forum and tell people how to post over and above the forum guidelines since you raised the subject of what shit form is.

MiltopMighty · 23/04/2017 12:28

RhiWrites I knew that sounded familiar!

💨 💨

boolifooli · 23/04/2017 12:29

I can see your point op. It would be viewed as poor behaviour in an adult. I wouldn't like my dc to be showy like that.

Untilthelastpetalfalls · 23/04/2017 12:33

Because it's not relevant to this post, it's like you've run out of things to moan about on here so decided to bring up something else. Shit form.

pinkhorse · 23/04/2017 12:36

I've been showing friends and family where I'm going on holiday next month and I've been excitedly looking at where they're going. That's normal.

You have a very strange thinking on this OP.

HorridHenryrule · 23/04/2017 12:37

This whole thread is ridiculous doesn't the op have nothing better to do with her time. The op is a coward she can't be honest with how she really feels. Some threads don't start well but once the op in that thread articulates their feelings then posters understand. Good luck to you and your dd.

DirtyChaiLatte · 23/04/2017 12:40

You think that you have enough money and class to go on whatever holiday you want without rubbing your good fortune in other people's faces.

You are a fully grown adult. I think you should excuse the enthusiasm and/or crassness of a growing adolescent and not be so judgemental.

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