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To think this child shouldn't show off this way?

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 21:43

One of the children in my dd's school has taken a page out of a brochure and put it on the wrong of a clear plastic pencil case and has been showing everyone.

(She comes from a wealthy family so it's more than likely not a lie.)

Obviously I'm not saying this girl should say nothing. But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I think everyone is entitled to nice things, but I don't think you should rub said things in everyone's face. Other way around I wouldn't want my dd cutting out our holiday from a brochure and taking it into school to show off.

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Trifleorbust · 23/04/2017 06:26

She's a 12 year old who is excited about her holiday.

You are a grown woman.

I cannot work out why this has even registered on the radar of your awareness, let alone why you have posted about it.

GinIsIn · 23/04/2017 06:34

It seems very odd and mean spirited that you feel the need to discuss this at all. She's a child and she's excited. Not all children can have all the same skills and opportunities. The world would be a very dull place if we told them they are only allowed to discuss things everyone else can do.

What I also note is that you castigate this girl for telling the class she's going on holiday because it's boastful yet will happily tell potentially millions of MNers

My dd isn't jealous, we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two.

There are lots of people on Mumsnet who can't afford to take their DC on three holidays. You didn't think it was in poor taste when you did it though, did you....? Grin

JustAnotherSilentOldNumber · 23/04/2017 06:40

we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two.

ironic....

MongerTruffle · 23/04/2017 06:47

I personally find it odd to show everyone in your class where you're going

It's called social media.

squishee · 23/04/2017 06:51

Well that's 5 minutes of my life that I'll never get back.

WateryTart · 23/04/2017 06:59

Why on earth start a thread to piss on an excited kid's chips?

Deeply unpleasant.

SoupDragon · 23/04/2017 07:27

I find it amusing that the OP is bitching about an excited child and saying that what she's doing "isn't a nice thing to do" and yet sees nothing wrong with bitching about an excited child on social media having made the effort to namechange first...

StandardNameHere · 23/04/2017 07:59

10 pages of PP have covered it but I think it's lovely that a 12 year old is so excited about a holiday.
Can't win sometimes, children are accused of being ungrateful and not appreciating anything then when they show excitement they are told they are showing off 🤔

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 23/04/2017 08:12

I personally find it odd to show everyone in your class where you're going (not a show and tell) ... obviously that is just me and I am being unreasonable about it.

I have to say OP, you're the one coming across as a little odd. I presume day to day conversation doesn't happen much in your world?

AwaywiththePixies27 · 23/04/2017 08:19

Just to point out, she physically went and showed everyone in her class and then put it in the front of the pencil case.

So she showed all her classmates where she was going on holiday? What's the problem exactly?

My dd isn't jealous, we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two. She just commented to me that she thought it was odd to do that.

Well, my DCs are 11& 8 and we've never been on any sort of holiday as I cant bloody afford it. If you're going on a further two holidays after your very recent Easter one, why do you or your DD care? Confused

Whileweareonthesubject · 23/04/2017 08:42

I was out with friends a couple of nights ago. At one point the subject of holidays came up. Myself and one other friend have no holiday plans for this year for financial or other reasons. Everybody else was saying where they were going - the Caribbean, NZ, Bangkok and so on. One friend has three 'biggish'holidays booked. I was genuinely happy for all of them. Especially the three holiday friend because she has had a truly shitty couple of years and at times has faced the very real possibility that she would never go on holiday again. I am over the moon that she and her family have come through it all and that they can have some carefree time together.
I've also seen loads of pics on facebook, or other social media, from friends holidays. I love it.
I can't imagine being so bothered about a kid who is excited about their holiday, that I'd start a thread about it. Afaiac, THAT is what is odd, not a 12 year old child's excitement.

corythatwas · 23/04/2017 08:43

It is a normal part of a parents' job to teach their offspring to be happy for others. We do this out of kindness, because it will give them a happier life if they can enjoy the good fortune of others as well as their own.

After all, these snippets of information do slip out so very easily...

"we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two."

ddssdd · 23/04/2017 09:06

So, presumably, it's the fact that the holiday is expensive, rather than showing off about a holiday, per se. (I'm pretty sure it wasn't my previous holiday to Skeg). And, clearly a holiday that you could not afford, hence, this thread.

OP, in the kindest way, this problem lies with your dc/you.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 23/04/2017 09:13

I think YABO

What's a YABO?

I am very amused that you feel able to comment on anyone's spelling and grammar after reading your original post!

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Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 09:16
Grin
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Biker47 · 23/04/2017 09:41

Trying to shelter kids from the fact that; their peers will have more (or indeed, less) than them in various different aspects of their life, is relatively unworkable, and I believe would do more harm than good in the long run, and has the potential to create people who grow up to be envious jealous adults more than anything.

fuckwitery · 23/04/2017 09:44

Biscuit here have my first biscuit op.

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Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 09:58

we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two.

ironic....

How is that ironic? I got told IWB. Therefore it's ok for me to post that.

Anyone offended is a jealous monster and should just be very happy for me Wink

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Original poster
Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 09:59

here have my first biscuit op.

Nah keep it for someone who gives a crap Grin

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MadMags · 23/04/2017 10:01

Why did you start the gibberish thread? If you don't care, I mean.

Where you just a bit pissed? You can tell us...

MadMags · 23/04/2017 10:01

Also, are you still drunk? Confused

corythatwas · 23/04/2017 10:01

Fourtwenty, we are happy for you. We are absolutely fine with you going on three holidays and hope you enjoy them. That is the whole point: people do tend to end up mentioning these things sooner or later and for others to be bitter and envious about it would be churlish.

ChocolateDoll · 23/04/2017 10:08

What about the poor kids that can't even afford the pencil case?

Didn't think about them, did you?

Bluntness100 · 23/04/2017 10:13

Human nature never fails to surprise me. To start a thread about a twelve year old girl showing off about her holiday, how bitter and jealous would you have to be.Shock.

SparklyMagpie · 23/04/2017 10:23

Give it a rest OP