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To be utterly disgusted and depressed that women think its ok to make small penis gags?

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deffonamechange · 22/04/2017 18:16

Just been reading a thread further down where yes some scumbag bloke had been horrible to someone. Lots of outrage and tell him he has a small dick, tell him he has a micro penis basically mock the size of his genitals.

Can you imagine if a woman upset a bloke and all his mates said tell her she has awful labia, tell her her fanny is horrible, tell her she doesnt look normal down there
Its horrific!!

Do you know how many lovely men with smaller penises get inundated with this? Do you know how many teenage boys worry themselves to death because of comments like these?

Its depressing/sexist/cruel and plain nasty. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

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PoorYorick · 22/04/2017 19:06

I wonder what the motivation is for women to use the insult.

Again, I'm not saying it's right, but it's because there isn't actually much else in our society to express contempt for a man. There are many, many more words to insult women than men, even neutral terms like "courtesan" and "mistress" which should just be feminine equivalents for "courtier" and "master" have been reduced and sexualised.

Men aren't judged on their appearance or sex lives, which is why the go-to insults of women for being fat, ugly, undesirable, promiscuous and so on just....aren't insulting to men, or not considered important.

BertrandRussell · 22/04/2017 19:07

User- if the OP had come on here to talk about her son, then of course she would have got loads of sympathy. But she made a general point. I missed the post when she said she was talking about her son. But even without the personal element most posters agree that body shaming is wrong. Just that it is a much, much bigger problem for women that men.

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 19:07

Give it a rest and start standing up for women

Like insulting women by calling them 'Handmaidens'?

Hypocritical much?

MercyMyJewels · 22/04/2017 19:07

It's- you spoiling for a fight my luv? - Oh forgot.. Grin

Please everyone don't ignore me!

Saldebain · 22/04/2017 19:08

Slightly off topic but on FB recently there were lots of adverts for the "quiff" company. Basically a company which made stick on quiffs/wigs for young men who'd gone bald early.

So many women posting with "omg that's so gross" "imagine waking up next to that". "Talk about false advertising"

Like we haven't been walking around with make up, push up bras, spanxs, fake nails, hair extensions and fake tits for years! And I'm in deepest darkest Essex where those things are the norm. Major double standards

claraschu · 22/04/2017 19:08

Agree it's an incredibly stupid, not-funny, pathetic thing to say.

Can we agree that it is ok to make fun of Tr*mp's tiny hands though? (Considering that he REALLY asked for it.)

MercyMyJewels · 22/04/2017 19:08

Not hypocritical at all. Honest

BertrandRussell · 22/04/2017 19:09

"ok shall we just ignore mercys 'handmaiden' bollocks?"

Or we could make the whole thread about it? Your choice, really.

itsmine · 22/04/2017 19:10

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BertrandRussell · 22/04/2017 19:11

So do people think that body shaming is as much of a problem for men as it is for women? Do men in public life routinely get sexual insults and rape threats?

Pinkheart5915 · 22/04/2017 19:11

Surely only a very immature person does "gags" about a small penis. Body shaming when done to a man or women is wrong.

Anyhow it takes more than a huge penis to make a man a good lover.

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 19:12

Not hypocritical at all. Honest

So how is you insulting some of the women on this thread, standing up for women who have been insulted by men?

Is it somehow ok for you to do that because you are (I assume) a woman?

BertrandRussell · 22/04/2017 19:13

"Stand up for women!! call men what you like they've started it!! Its all so predictable"

I honestly don't think anyone has said that. But apparently the man in the thread which prompted this one was a "scumbag". Are you standing up for him? Disclaimer:I haven't read that thread.

MercyMyJewels · 22/04/2017 19:13

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SoupDragon · 22/04/2017 19:14

If a similar thread is started about a female issue like this, posters are jumped on if they dare to mention how men also suffer with a similar issue.

Funny how that doesn't apply here. More double standards.

Whether or not women suffer specific insults is completely irrelevant to this. It is not ok to mock men about the size of their genitals.

Wedrine4me · 22/04/2017 19:14

If said bloke is a scumbag I couldn't care less if he gets accused of having a small winkle. It might be a bit immature but horrific?

This is what people aren't comprehending. It is not going to upset the scumbag at all if it isn't true.The scumbag probably isn't going to care. to him it's just an insult. It's the poor blokes and boys who do have small ones that have to hear it all the time, who will care. It won't matter to them that they are not the ones being called micro penis.Every single time they hear or read it, it will chip away at their self esteem. That is what people are failing to understand.

The same as a small tit comment isn't going to upset a woman with big boobs. It will just go over her head. But it will upset all the small chested women who have to overhear this all the time- even if the comment isn't directed at her.

Neither is acceptable and people who say these comments flippantly about either sex ought to be ashamed of themselves.

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 19:15

So do people think that body shaming is as much of a problem for men as it is for women? Do men in public life routinely get sexual insults and rape threats?

Nope

But that's of no comfort to any boy/man/teenager who is upset that he's been body shamed.

And the justification and hypocrisy from some grown women here, is stomach churning.

Body shaming needs to stop because it's never ok, no matter who has it worse - which I agree is the female population.

itsmine · 22/04/2017 19:16

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MercyMyJewels · 22/04/2017 19:16

I know. Because it's very very bad. Nasty mean girls

worridmum · 22/04/2017 19:16

We had this in work, someone made comment about a male member staff having a small penis because he bought a new car (in his presence btw ) the retorted to the offender by making a comment about her wrinkles because she just had a facelift

She wanted to make an offical complant about it but we told her basically if it came to a greviance she would be treated exacitly the same as him (both would recivre offical warning) as it should be

HallowedMimic · 22/04/2017 19:17

But no one is saying that tit for tat is right.

Just that it is ridiculous to get so worked up and precious about the size of a man's penis in particular.

The OP is fretting about her son, but there is a whole history of misogyny and denigration of women preceeding the one insult that apparently hits home with men.

You can't look at it in isolation.

usernumbernine · 22/04/2017 19:18

I have a friend who is short. Not really short, restricted growth short, but short. He's about 5ft5 or so. He gets so-called "jokes" all the time. He can't be cross about anything or he gets "small man big temper" slung at him. He also gets asked how big his feet are, because that somehow equates to dick size.

Some men definitely do get it a lot, certainly as much as I have ever got any insults.

SoupDragon · 22/04/2017 19:20

You can't look at it in isolation.

Yes you can.

It is not acceptable, full stop.

MercyMyJewels · 22/04/2017 19:23

It's - Why don't you tell me why it's so important to defend the "outrageous" charge that a man might have a small penis and not the many body shaming charges directly aimed at women daily. ALL of all of it comes from the male perspective. So if you want to change it, start looking at the porn industry and associated trickle down which perpetuates the the Big Dong Theory.

And stop putting it at the feet of women

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 22/04/2017 19:24

Fair few handmaidens on this thread

Yes I know others have mentioned it but as we are apparently all in agreement that body shaming and double standards are wrong I fail to see the need to call posters handmaidens.

And as the thread was about this particular insult dragging all the "what about the womenz" stuff is irrelevant. 2 wrongs really do not make a right.