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To be utterly disgusted and depressed that women think its ok to make small penis gags?

532 replies

deffonamechange · 22/04/2017 18:16

Just been reading a thread further down where yes some scumbag bloke had been horrible to someone. Lots of outrage and tell him he has a small dick, tell him he has a micro penis basically mock the size of his genitals.

Can you imagine if a woman upset a bloke and all his mates said tell her she has awful labia, tell her her fanny is horrible, tell her she doesnt look normal down there
Its horrific!!

Do you know how many lovely men with smaller penises get inundated with this? Do you know how many teenage boys worry themselves to death because of comments like these?

Its depressing/sexist/cruel and plain nasty. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

OP posts:
BertrandRussell · 23/04/2017 13:58

"So when somebody said "wtf's a handmaiden?" I should have said "well. I could tell you, but because there aren't any on this thread I can't"?

Maybe not use it ? It really doesn't add anything to the argument."

I didn't.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/04/2017 13:59

I'm not playing the feminist. I have opinions on subjects and I don't particularly need to call them feminist or not.

You are the one who calls herself a feminist yet are defending language which if used by a man would be criticised as sexist and also telling another woman what she thinks- the latter of course would be called out as unacceptable if done by a man.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/04/2017 14:03

Maybe not use it ? It really doesn't add anything to the argument."

I didn't

I never said you did .It was a general suggestion.

I don't particularly get enraged by "cis" but many posters do, so I avoid using it.

MercyMyJewels · 23/04/2017 14:06

Actually I'm not telling you what you think, but I can read. You only came on this thread because of the handmaiden comment, and rereading your posts, it is clear that this is your primary concern and not any point made by the OP or subsequent posters. Go reread your own posts.

BertrandRussell · 23/04/2017 14:11

I do hope, by the way, in passing, that anyone objecting so strongly to "handmaiden" is equally outraged by "feminazi".........

BertrandRussell · 23/04/2017 14:22

Actually, OverthinkingSpartacus, I do and have objected to "grow a pair"- partrly because it is often used to shame men into doing things which are against their better judgement, and partly because it suggests that women need to be more masculine to be assertive and take control. The same applies to "man up". Which I actually got banned from our Scout troop. [proud emoticon]

WomblingThree · 23/04/2017 14:43

Ok, I've spent the day doing other stuff, so the thread has moved on, but MerchantofVenice I just wanted to answer your post of 09.42 before I read through the rest of the thread.

I think you are coming at this as a long time poster with prior knowledge of people's views on a given subject. On the great scale of things, I'm relatively new. I've been here a few years, with a few names, but I tend to stick to the fluffy stuff as I don't really have much confidence in my debating abilities or intelligence. Therefore, I have no particular pre-conceptions about a specific poster, and I also feel that just because someone feels a certain way about one subject doesn't mean their views have to be vilified on every other subject.

I don't like being told that because I have slightly opposing views to yours on one topic, that none of my other views are worth reading. I'm feeling a slightly nasty undercurrent of very intelligent radfem women who think that everyone else is just too thick to be allowed an opinion.

You know that old saying "you get more flies with honey than vinegar"? Maybe if you accepted that I , and people like me, didn't have some weird hidden agenda, you could educate us without belittling us (that's generic you, not a personal insult).

WomblingThree · 23/04/2017 14:51

See MercyMyJewels your post of 11.18 is just proving my point. Why the hell should I fuck off? Who died and gave you the absolute power to tell me to fuck off, just because I am challenging your narrow and rigid mindset. We can't all be as clever and radical as you. How about you try and educate us or enlighten us, rather than taking the easy way out by shutting us down?

MercyMyJewels · 23/04/2017 14:55

I think you are looking to be annoyed. Try reading the thread

WomblingThree · 23/04/2017 15:07

Seriously Mercy? I've read the whole fucking thread several times, to make sure that my dodgy brain didn't miss a salient point. I don't understand why you think that being rude to everyone is a good way to bring people round to your point of view.

While I may not agree with everything that Bertrand and Merchant have said, I at least feel like I am learning from them, as they are presenting their views in a way that I can understand, and that gives me things to think about. You however just seem determined to destroy anyone who isn't as well read and well educated as you. You are actually upsetting me, which no other poster on this thread has done.

I am trying to learn here. If you just want to be a nasty bitch, then go and do it to someone a bit stronger than me.

WomblingThree · 23/04/2017 15:08

And whoever keeps saying "no one ever gagged on a small penis"'that depends if it's being forced down your throat without your consent, doesn't it.

MercyMyJewels · 23/04/2017 15:12

I have never directed a post at you wombling. I did not know your name until a few posts above. I think you are reading too much into my posts thinking they are directed at you. They weren't.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/04/2017 15:14

I do hope, by the way, in passing, that anyone objecting so strongly to "handmaiden" is equally outraged by "feminazi"........

Well Bertrand I have never on MN :-

Called anothet poster a feminazi;
or a handmaiden,
or a cunt,
or a cool wife;
or told them they were full of shit;
or to fuck off dear;
or to grow a pair.

I have seen objections to "grow a pair"

DixieNormas · 23/04/2017 15:17

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LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/04/2017 15:17

I have never directed a post at you wombling. I did not know your name until a few posts above. I think you are reading too much into my posts thinking they are directed at you. They weren't

Why don't you name and shame then instead of these half veiled insults ?

You only came on this thread because of the handmaiden comment, and rereading your posts, it is clear that this is your primary concern and not any point made by the OP or subsequent posters. Go reread your own posts

Yes , of course you are a mind reader.

itsmine · 23/04/2017 15:18

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WomblingThree · 23/04/2017 15:20

MercyMyJewels yes you did, you said I was looking to be annoyed. Am I actually talking a fucking foreign language here or something??

MercyMyJewels · 23/04/2017 15:20

I seriously don't understand either of those points Lass. What veiled insults? Name and shame who?

And as to your second point, again, I read your posts not your mind.

itsmine · 23/04/2017 15:21

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MercyMyJewels · 23/04/2017 15:23

OK I will rephrase Wombling. I think you are reading too much into my posts, thinking they concern your were directed at you. Which they don't and they weren't

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/04/2017 15:25

I've told people to fuck off, they tend to be PBP though

I think I have once ; to a very dubious poster who was proposing to breach a confidence her friend had given in relation to a rape and threatening her friend that she would report it to the police.

itsmine · 23/04/2017 15:26

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BertrandRussell · 23/04/2017 15:26

Frankly, Lass, I would be utterly flabbergasted if you had!

MercyMyJewels · 23/04/2017 15:28

Eh? couldn't care less about you Its. Interesting that you talk about unpleasantness though, given the tone of your posts. Off back to that intelligent debate then

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/04/2017 15:29

What veiled insults? Name and shame who?

How disingenuous. You posted there were lots of handmaidens on here. Why don't you name them if you are so sure your post was justified ?

Guess you missed my posts where I agreed with the OP ? But please carry on telling me what I think.