To be utterly disgusted and depressed that women think its ok to make small penis gags?

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Just been reading a thread further down where yes some scumbag bloke had been horrible to someone. Lots of outrage and tell him he has a small dick, tell him he has a micro penis basically mock the size of his genitals.

Can you imagine if a woman upset a bloke and all his mates said tell her she has awful labia, tell her her fanny is horrible, tell her she doesnt look normal down there
Its horrific!!

Do you know how many lovely men with smaller penises get inundated with this? Do you know how many teenage boys worry themselves to death because of comments like these?

Its depressing/sexist/cruel and plain nasty. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

My first post to Lass disappeared - it was that I used DFOD intentionally

I'm sure you did. That was rather my point. Usually a person calling a woman "dear" is liable to be called "misogynistic" (recent thread on FWR about an article in the Huffington Post makes that point).

I expect of course your use was ironic or similar because as a declared feminist you could not possibly be misogynstic no matter how patronising.

Bertrand you raise an interesting point about perception.

My perception of this thread is that those who were saying "body shaming is always wrong" were being shouted down by those saying "yes it's wrong but women get it worse".

Your perception is

But my perception is that the only people being "shouted down" were the people saying things like "Yes, body shaming is wrong, but it is really an issue which affects women so much more than men. And I wish people were putting as much energy in the practically universal body shaming of women as they are into this specific situation which affects men"

Perhaps we shall all just have to agree to disagree? Because this thread, to me, is about a mother who is upset that her son's physical condition is used as an insult. And we all agree that is wrong.

My opinion is that this is not the thread to debate the wider societal issues, when it's a personal thread that has the potential to cause so much hurt and upset to the mother of a son with a physical condition that is used to body shame. It's really too personal for that. We are, after all, supposed to make parents lives better and be supportive on here.

Perhaps you should start a more general thread?

Because I think you might know what I mean when I mention posters who basically couldn't give a shit about defending women, but get ever so excited if there's a chance to defend men

If the "never defends women" comment is meant to include you Worra (or me for that matter) then it is utter crap.

Nope I couldn't be misogynist Lass

I expect you will think otherwise as that suits you better. Crack on

User- I think that the OP should probably start another thread making it clear that she is talking specifically about her son, not generally about body shaming. Because her OP did not m nation this at all.

I'm so sorry, Worra Could you link some instances where you've been all 'guns blazing' for the women?

But, actually, you've slightly misread my point. I'm very much not saying "don't listen to them" - because, as Bertrand has patiently pointed out, we all seem to agree about the actual behaviour ( i.e. It's wrong to body shame). It's a separate point, that it's a bit depressing to see who has turned out to defend men. And it's highly relevant to this thread because it happened on this thread!

Nope I couldn't be misogynist Lass

None as blind...but do crack on.

Worra

You do seem to get excited though! I know you occasionally defend women (in a poor attempt at balance maybe) but that willful blind spot I talked about last night is just so clear to see.

It does come across as gleeful and you do seem to be tripping over yourself sometimes. I've seen you make some ridiculous statements on here.

I'm so sorry, Worra Could you link some instances where you've been all 'guns blazing' for the women?

Bingo! It's normally Bertrand who does this ^^

Then I'd go off, find links, come back, post them only to read "Yes but"

So no. I've been here 6 years without name changing.

Feel free to do your own link hunting.

Arealhumanbeing I've never even seen you posting before you came on last night to have a little pop at me.

I can only assume I've upset you in some way, under one of your name changes perhaps?

Either way, you haven't added anything to the broader discussion, so there's little point engaging with you as it seems to be 'personal' for you?

bertrand she clarified but if you'd rather carry on, well that's up to you. I think it's in bad taste though. But that's my personal opinion.

Well, I can remember various toxic views you've posted Worra I may even have done a little research... I was just giving you a clear invitation to prove me wrong, but if you don't fancy it, it's no skin off my nose', is it?!

This thread has become about the (single) use of 'handmaidens', rather than the frequency of men being called microdicks compared to women being body judged and shamed. That's misogyny in play. Not the joking use of 'dear'.

"I think it's in bad taste though."

Honestly? If she was looking for personal support it's too late for her to get it on this thread. Unless she is reassured by the fact that everyone-bar none- has said that body shaming of or by either gender is wrong. Which is what her original post was asking for.

I'll be sure to look out for you and Lass the next time some sexist bullshit comes up on AIBU. Now, I wonder which side you'll be loudly defending! Looking forward to it

Worra

Never name changed but not been on here very long.

And yes we established last night that your attitude worries/upsets me. It's not personal as I don't know anything else about you. You just stand out on these threads as very obviously anti feminist.

I once saw you tell a male poster you hoped he had smacked a woman on the nose for being rude.

So that was nice.

I honestly don't know how I allowed myself to be drawn back into a thread that I consider 'dead in the water'

That'll teach me!

Areal all I know about doing an AS on your name is that you appeared on a thread to have a personal pop at Anyfucker

I do think you should probably take a step back when you find yourself getting personal with internet randoms.

Anyway this thread isn't about you or your feelings towards other regular posters, and as I do feel it's dead in the water there's no point in addressing any more personal nonsense towards me.

Itsmine- I'm sorry. I thought your rather insulting posts to me meant it was open season. But apparently you can dish it out but you can't take it

I agree OP. I think you're probably talking about the thread where a boyfriend had texted the OP to say she was rubbish in bed. I think that's why the responses were pretty cruel, though you're right - title for tat doesn't solve anything.

Oh, it was sometime early this morning. Can't be arsed to look for it. It don't report stuff lik that. It just amused me that you were suddenly so thin skinned!