friend's husband is a misogynist cunt

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Bumped into friend and her H yesterday. I've had babies at the same time as her so we're close and we see them frequently and live close so we bump into them a lot.

Got the following email from her H this morning:

Nice to see you yesterday. I just wanted to say congratulations on losing your baby weight. You look great - i was impressed. I have told (friend) she needs to exercise more post (DC1) and (DC2) as you know she naturally puts on weight at the best of times but she used the pregnancies to eat whatever she liked. Typical her.

What a patronising shithead. This is everything wrong with men. Do women go around saying "congrats on trying really hard with your small dick. I know it's naturally small but you've had the sense to know you can mitigate some of that by pumping a bit harder." I am boiling with all sorts of replies. What would you say?

Ah, dammit. You think, limited?

On what planet does he think you wouldn't tell her?

I wouldn't waste your time on "clever" hyperbolic emails. Just deal with it like a grown up.

Good spot, I reckon.

PLEASE send Daemon's email:

"Dear dickhead

Your email was really inappropriate. I didn't lose weight for you and I don't appreciate you commenting on my body. Your wife is my friend and what you wrote about her was really disrespectful. Her body has given you 2 beautiful children. I'd be horrified if my husband spoke about me like that. I hope she never sees that email because she'd be very upset, as am I.

Regards etc"

I would keep the Dickhead part . The others' were funny, but this one really isn't subject to any misinterpretation, is absolutely clear on boundaries.

I enjoyed Yorick's response but I'd send motherofdaemons'. I'm not sure I'd tell his wife, I might try to set up a chance for her to talk about his unreasonable expectations and general arseholery.

Why, oh why, am I never presented with this situations? I'd know exactly how to respond without asking for suggestions. These things always fall into the lap of the uncertain internet forum user.

I'd keep it short and sweet- and clear; very, very clear. So I would use Mumbods response. "You're a bit of a nasty cunt, aren't you? My beautiful friend deserves so much better. Never email me again."
Says it all really and shuts the door on future flirting. I would worry about uncomfortable get together's either - how much more uncomfortable would they be with him hitting on you with his wife there....

You'd hope so Limited, but htg the things people come out with I'm not totally sure...

Unbelievable email to receive what a weirdo eh

You have to reply, or else years from now it will look like you agreed with the sentiment and were flattered.
Your friend will come to realise what he's like.
Absolutely reply. Copy friend and DH. There's no misunderstandings then.

I am Annie. But just in case I'm wrong I've asked MNHQ to have a look at it and the other one OP sweated over

Screen shot or it didn't happen 🤔

Me also.

which other one limited?

Men dont GAF about 'baby weight'

Some of these are great and I agree he's coming onto you.

I'd either simply respond copying my husband in and say your wife and my friend x looks so gorgeous and leave it there.

Or I'd respond and say please don't send me this type of email again. X is my friend and I think she looks wonderful, And still copy my husband in,

Either way, copying your husband shows your not willing to keep his advances a secret. And he is a sleazy grubby mysogynistic pig. To pit you against his wife like that, to also hit on a friends wife and to deride his wife behind her back is beyond appalling. Absolute scumbag.

What a prick. I felt self conscious that I hadn't lost enough baby weight 6 months after giving birth, so I downloaded an exercise programme and got to work. Within days I had pelvic organ prolapse, which I am still having problems 4 years later, and probably will now for the rest of my life.

It turns out that 6 months postpartum your body isn't quite 'back to normal' and can't always tolerate a lot of heavy lifting, squats and a million jumping jacks without your f*cking cervix and bladder falling down to your knees.

I'd answer "I expect I had a lot more support, emotional and practical, which enabled me to lose the weight'. Put it straight back on him.

I would just reply

"You are a one massive cunt and I'd suggest having a good old look again at what you wrote so you understand why."

No mention of him, his small or otherwise dick, whether he's coming on to you or not (btw I don't see this as a come-on to you, just a fucking nasty put down of his wife), or anything that prolongs the conversation. Just something short and sharp.

What a bellend. I have no response as yet and I'm clearly just placemarking because I desperately want to see your reply

He has form for mentioning weight a lot. He comments on how women have gained or lost, in front of his wife too. In front of everyone, really. I already knew he was a weight nazi but just didn't expect him to send me an email about it or patronise me about my own weight.

He also has a thing about how his DW does what she wants without thinking of others or her own health, like she is some sort of stubborn bull. In this instance he believes that she eats too much. And thinking back I have seen him display this attitude towards her in front of other people.

Regardless, he is a tosser.

And for those saying this never happens to them. I imagine that you "present" with quite firm boundaries. I am quite socially quiet which he may have mistaken for being meek or somehow powerless.

I am going to compose a reply with DH tomorrow.