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friend's husband is a misogynist cunt

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Leafcushionswhy · 21/04/2017 18:29

Bumped into friend and her H yesterday. I've had babies at the same time as her so we're close and we see them frequently and live close so we bump into them a lot.

Got the following email from her H this morning:

Nice to see you yesterday. I just wanted to say congratulations on losing your baby weight. You look great - i was impressed. I have told (friend) she needs to exercise more post (DC1) and (DC2) as you know she naturally puts on weight at the best of times but she used the pregnancies to eat whatever she liked. Typical her.

What a patronising shithead. This is everything wrong with men. Do women go around saying "congrats on trying really hard with your small dick. I know it's naturally small but you've had the sense to know you can mitigate some of that by pumping a bit harder." I am boiling with all sorts of replies. What would you say?

OP posts:
PoorYorick · 21/04/2017 19:05

From a man who divorced his wife after she had 3 beautiful daughters.

Not another one! Doesn't the shithead realise that it's the sperm that determines the sex of the baby? How do these morons even get anyone pregnant when they know so little about reproduction??

Trixiebelle16 · 21/04/2017 19:06

Pooryorick I feel like I want to employ you to respond to everyone who annoys me!

motherofdaemons · 21/04/2017 19:06

You should definitely reply. Silence makes you complicit. We need to call this behaviour out. It's not OK.

Dear dickhead

Your email was really inappropriate. I didn't lose weight for you and I don't appreciate you commenting on my body. Your wife is my friend and what you wrote about her was really disrespectful. Her body has given you 2 beautiful children. I'd be horrified if my husband spoke about me like that. I hope she never sees that email because she'd be very upset, as am I.

Regards etc

pandarific · 21/04/2017 19:07

Oh god yes send yoricks!

itsbetterthanabox · 21/04/2017 19:07

Reply
'Please do not comment on my body. That is intrusive and makes me uncomfortable. Also please do not compare me to or insult my friend. Her body is just as it should be and is none of your concern. She's had two children- your children. Love her as she is and keep quiet.'

Strokethefurrywall · 21/04/2017 19:07

Yes ABSOLUTELY send him Yorick's email.

Beautifully written, well done! [round of applause]

JaneEyre70 · 21/04/2017 19:08

He's coming on to you. I'd ignore and avoid him like the plague!

MrsTwix · 21/04/2017 19:09

I think just for entertainment value if it was me I'd forward the email to my DH and ask him to tell the bloke what a dick he is being.

PoorYorick · 21/04/2017 19:10

Trixiebelle, my rates are very reasonable!

TheExuberant1 · 21/04/2017 19:10

What an arsehole. Doesn't he have a job or something? Why has he got time to send you emails during the day which degrade his wife? Sad man.

Mysterycat23 · 21/04/2017 19:10

Please don't ignore! No doubt he's done or said similar inappropriate things to other innocent women, and will carry on.

Reply as above and cc his wife in, she needs to know.

springflowers11 · 21/04/2017 19:10

Are yiu sure it is not some kind of joke between the 2 of them .It sounds like the MM 'text to all' prank

Foxysoxy01 · 21/04/2017 19:11

Why on earth you would you not send yorrick's email?!?!

That is the most perfect answer to his email.

What a vile man.

Poor you but especially poor wife! you really do need to gently let her know with a vague idea of the content of the email. Sad

venusinscorpio · 21/04/2017 19:12

Yorick's email is perfection.

FartnissEverbeans · 21/04/2017 19:13

What an absolute fucker

DearMrDilkington · 21/04/2017 19:14

From a man who divorced his wife after she had 3 beautiful daughters.

No fucking way?!Shock

childmaintenanceserviceinquiry · 21/04/2017 19:15

i would reply saying whatever you want to (because truthfully it will make no difference to his views) but I would copy in your husband.

I agree with others - saying and doing nothing means twats like that contineu with their behaviour. Copying in your DH means that, if twunt tells his wife you came on to him if any of this comes out, you have a witness to his behaviour.

hottotrotsky · 21/04/2017 19:15

Are you just showing off op? Why's he even emailing you?

Elendon · 21/04/2017 19:16

He wants into your panties (nice little dainty ones, seeing how you have lost all that weight).

His cock is probably seldom hard because he watches too much porn.

He thinks he's god's gift to women.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 21/04/2017 19:17

He went to the trouble of composing that thinking you'd be agreeable to what he wrote, what the fuck is he thinking.

Certainly send something to let numb nuts know he's a complete cunt.

Goingtobeawesome · 21/04/2017 19:18

Jokes are meant to be funny.

Have you told your dh?

Flowerydems · 21/04/2017 19:18

Please say you've send yorricks response, it's amazing

happypoobum · 21/04/2017 19:18

Agree with PP he is coming on to you.

I would tell your DH and then limit contact.

Elendon · 21/04/2017 19:19

The email reply should read as follows.

Hi small dick,

Er...that's it.

Fuck off.

Ceto · 21/04/2017 19:19

This is one occasion when ignoring him is not the way to go - he's going to assume you agree with him and that you even feel complimented. I think Trixiebelle's reply is the way to go, but supplemented by an opening paragraph saying that you find his assumption that you want his comments on your body grossly offensive, intrusive and patronising.

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