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friend's husband is a misogynist cunt

158 replies

Leafcushionswhy · 21/04/2017 18:29

Bumped into friend and her H yesterday. I've had babies at the same time as her so we're close and we see them frequently and live close so we bump into them a lot.

Got the following email from her H this morning:

Nice to see you yesterday. I just wanted to say congratulations on losing your baby weight. You look great - i was impressed. I have told (friend) she needs to exercise more post (DC1) and (DC2) as you know she naturally puts on weight at the best of times but she used the pregnancies to eat whatever she liked. Typical her.

What a patronising shithead. This is everything wrong with men. Do women go around saying "congrats on trying really hard with your small dick. I know it's naturally small but you've had the sense to know you can mitigate some of that by pumping a bit harder." I am boiling with all sorts of replies. What would you say?

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Mummyoflittledragon · 21/04/2017 18:51

What obsidian said. I wouldn't want to confront her dh. Rather shame him, which is exactly what this mAil does.

charlyn · 21/04/2017 18:51

Wow im shocked, what an absolute turd he is.
How did he have your email address?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 21/04/2017 18:51

What a cunt.

I would just reply with that or to make it very clear write "you are a rude cunt"

SailAwayWithMeHoney · 21/04/2017 18:51

fuck off you unbelievable cockwomble

Yes. This.

TheCaptainsCat · 21/04/2017 18:52

Whaaaaat, who does things like that!?

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 21/04/2017 18:52

Why is he texting you?

throughgrittedteeth · 21/04/2017 18:53

I think Angrybird's second response is perfect if you don't want to cause any problems but what an utter prick. If he had said that in person I don't think I could keep quiet. Is he always like this?

nogrip · 21/04/2017 18:53

No no no of course he's a cunt and needs to be told

Whereismumhiding2 · 21/04/2017 18:54

OP, your post tells such a full and gnnn story for him and his darling wife. I think he married out of his personality league. I hope she never notices!

coconuttella · 21/04/2017 18:55

Unbelievable.... I'm presuming he was hitting on you but, seriously, if he expected to score with you after that he's not only a shit but utterly deranged!

ChicRock · 21/04/2017 18:55

I find it odd that he clearly feels there enough of an intimacy between the two of you that he can send you this email.

Are you in regular email contact with him?

PoorYorick · 21/04/2017 18:57

Hi Dickhead,

Thanks very much for your unsolicited comments about my appearance. As you know, like every woman I value myself based on your penis. It wouldn't be worth getting out of bed unless I knew I could get you at least to half mast, so thanks very much, it means a lot to me.

I know what you mean about my friend, your wife. She really is lazy, isn't she? I know how quickly you shed the baby weight after you grew and birthed two people and then went straight into the sleep deprived insanity of headfucking that is early motherhood, especially the second time when you already had a small child to look after. If Friend weren't so lazy, she could just shed the 12 stone of useless lump dragging her down every day, and she'd definitely be happier for it. I know that, good that you do too.

Anyway, lovely to hear from you and of course your penis. I know how little time you've both got left in the day after doing your share of parenting your kids, maintaining your house and, of course, giving random women a reason to live by awarding them your official jizz receptacle accreditation.

Leaf x

Autumnchill · 21/04/2017 18:58

I would be mortified if I found my husband had sent that to someone. Please don't reply, delete. What a git!

DearMrDilkington · 21/04/2017 18:58

What a vile excuse of a man. Your poor friendSad.

NotInMyBackYard1 · 21/04/2017 18:58

wow! As if you give a shit about his opinion of your body anyway??

GinIsIn · 21/04/2017 18:59

I hope you emailed back to suggest she could lose 12 stone straight away by getting rid of her cunty husband?!

GinIsIn · 21/04/2017 18:59

XP with Yorick but it's a fair point!!

Original poster
Leafcushionswhy · 21/04/2017 18:59

We're all in contact over emails (me, my H, her and her H) all the time because we meet up as couples and with our DCs. Normally it's a group email. This email, of course, was just to me.

I can't forward it to her. That would kill her. I could tell her in person tho, but then she'd want to see the email, which would defeat the purpose.

I think shaming him is the way to go. I like the " I think your email has been hacked"

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GrumpyOldBag · 21/04/2017 19:00

Simply don't reply.

The most misogynistic letter I had after having a baby was

"Congratulations on having a son."

From a man who divorced his wife after she had 3 beautiful daughters. Lucky for wife no 2 she produced the desired son & heir.

Original poster
Leafcushionswhy · 21/04/2017 19:01

LOL yorrick!

Can I send that?!

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Tinkerbec · 21/04/2017 19:03

I find it odd that he clearly feels there enough of an intimacy between the two of you that he can send you this email.

Are you in regular email contact with him?

This.

I agree with others that find it strange.

I don't often , well at all ,email my friends husbands. However if you are all mutual friends then that makes sense.

PoorYorick · 21/04/2017 19:03

Don't pretend he's been hacked. Send him what I wrote, and add that if he doesn't pack it in right now, you will tell everyone via Facebook. (You don't have to share the exact contents, as that will be devastating for your friend, but you can certainly paraphrase in such a way that shows what a thundering anus he is without stating anything personal about her. We can help you with that on here if you need it.)

Tinkerbec · 21/04/2017 19:03

Sorry cross post

PoorYorick · 21/04/2017 19:04

Yes you absolutely can!

pandarific · 21/04/2017 19:05

I think you need to copy and paste your small dick comment and send it back to him.

Twat.