friend's husband is a misogynist cunt

[Leafcushionswhy]

Bumped into friend and her H yesterday. I've had babies at the same time as her so we're close and we see them frequently and live close so we bump into them a lot.

Got the following email from her H this morning:

Nice to see you yesterday. I just wanted to say congratulations on losing your baby weight. You look great - i was impressed. I have told (friend) she needs to exercise more post (DC1) and (DC2) as you know she naturally puts on weight at the best of times but she used the pregnancies to eat whatever she liked. Typical her.

What a patronising shithead. This is everything wrong with men. Do women go around saying "congrats on trying really hard with your small dick. I know it's naturally small but you've had the sense to know you can mitigate some of that by pumping a bit harder." I am boiling with all sorts of replies. What would you say?

I like Obsidian's reply. I know it's not confronting him head-on, but atm all 4 of them are friends and meet up a lot, and you don't want him making life more difficult for your friend by being awkward about continuing to meet-up.

Obsidian's reply stops him coming on to you (if that's what he thinks he's doing), but also gives him a get-out so he doesn't need to feel embarrassed next time he sees you.

Clearly, saving his face is not your priority, but it will make his wife's life easier.

YORICK ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🍾👯

That is appalling. Poor wife.

I'd forward the email to her. See what she thinks of it. What a twat.

Repulsive man.

I would email him back but copy your husband in. You operate as a team and have each other's backs. Like he should.

His poor wife.

I quite like the response about how you think he might have been hacked.

Not another one! Doesn't the shithead realise that it's the sperm that determines the sex of the baby? How do these morons even get anyone pregnant when they know so little about reproduction?

I, for one, absolutely approve of his actions, seeing as it brings us one step closer to an utopia where human males have evolved to father 75% female offspring and we are finally able to estabish matriarchy due to outnumbering men.

Of course he doesn't know. Else he wouldn't have done it.

OP, wanting to spare your friend's feelings is nice ... but I think she'd profit more from knowing what utter cock she's married to, and that she can get rid of a lot of weight ... by divorcing him.

Yuk what a c word!! My neighbour told me once that her DH had said this about me as a way of bullying her. She told me years later after she had kicked the twat out. It wasn't even true, we were both the same size, he just like to make her feel bad. Print it off and give it to his wife.

Why do you have to dignify him with a response?

I see the usual sisterhood want the wife to feel like a piece of shit by being copied into emails etc - she wont thank you for it and you will isolate her, because she wont leave him just because you think she should.

Get some dignity and ignore it.

Leaf This might make you feel better. My friend has neighbours who are married and she's in her early sixties, he's about 70. He helps her occasionally on odd jobs in her house and she pays him. He texted her and said the next payment should be a sex payment! World's gawn mad I tells ye!

I agree with Still. Please do not tell her.

I think you should tell him that his wife would be heart broken and mortified over him saying that to you. What a horrible man. Men often slate their wives when they are flirting with other women - very sad little man.

Utter fuckwad. I couldn't be friends with him anymore.

Definitely send Yoricks response. I think I'd want to know if my dh was sending these sorts of emails to my friends.

My friend is in her mid forties. She is very attractive.

I think mother of daemons has it right but I think I would pass it over to your DH to deal with. I wouldn't copy in the wife as I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings as badly as this must.
I'm with the posters thinking he fancies you.

That man's no count. But he is a dick - and possibly is coming onto OP. Blimey, so much is wrong with all that. I think I'd want to phone him and put him right.

I would want to know if my H did this

No "sisterhood" about it

Thanks very much for your unsolicited comments about my appearance. As you know, like every woman I value myself based on your penis. It wouldn't be worth getting out of bed unless I knew I could get you at least to half mast, so thanks very much, it means a lot to me.

This is perfect.

I'd assume he's counting on you passing it on to his wife of course. So a polite email telling him you're going to do no such thing would be my way of dealing with him.

Absolutely tell her! She deserves to know how her husband speaks about her behind her back!

100% tell the wife, it will hurt but I'd want to know if my H did this.

In person, with the email ready to show her. Preferably with your reply already sent telling him what an absolute prick he is, so she knows you've already put him in his place.

I would send:

"I'm going to assume you're joking. Not that it's funny. At all."