AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

Mercury
Do you think nobody has thought to tell op that in 8 pages of advice?
Op has posted post after post which are all about how wonderful she is and how much better than her friends she is. You are wasting your breath.

How on earth has this thread not been deleted and the pretty obvious it's fake with the baby she wet John Lewis gift list remark

Yes, good luck when pfb decides they don't want to go to school/eat veg/get a job/pay bills or whatever because it's all choice innit.
At what point do you and your SIL plan on teaching your kids that sometimes in life you have to do shit you don't want to? It's called being a grown up, and will be s he'll of a shock to them if they've had the world revolve around them their entire lives.
I'm hoping for your sake this isn't real!

Mercury5000, you see the rest of us as 'bitches' (nice childish name calling by the way), but fail to see how utterly smug and self absorbed the OP's posts have been? I mean fair enough if you see her side, perhaps you also believe the world should stop for a pregnant woman, so she can feel super duper special. Most sensible people do not though.

Chavelita - interpretive dance? Of course!! And my little snowflake is nearly as gifted as the OP's unborn. He doesn't just interpretive dance, he's clearly practicing ballet and will grace the stage at Covent Garden by the time he's 3....

I, however, am a philistine so I still don't understand what he's choosing....

Mercury - people like you always baffle me. You want to tell people they aren't nice by calling them 'a bunch of bitches'? Doesn't exactly make you Shirley Temple, love....

As for the looks, it's been a lot of eye rolling and disinterested looks when I've been discussing my pregnancy.

And you still don't get the hint to shut the fuck up?

Now, Wizard, you're being unfair. The OP can't deprive a HR department of her levels of self-awareness.

Hope the baby shower invitation and gift list includes a poem.

How about a haiku?

OP, I love you.
And your baby. Please save some
fajitas for me.

Mercury - people like you always baffle me

I am baffled by two things: (1) posters who lack a sense of humour and (2) posters whose sole contribution to a thread is to shit all over it.

Am I the only one who is reading it as
FAJ-EE-TA Friday?

Not sure why it just sounds like it should be in my head.

WinkyisbackontheButterBeer, I keep reading it as FAJ-eeta, and have a continuous urge to ask if the op and her friends steam their fajs....

EdmundCleverClogs
It makes me so happy to know that someone else is on the same crass and childish level as me. Thank you.

I'm also three quarters Irish and an Aries redhead (might explain why I provoke such a strong reaction!).

Erm. No. It really doesn't

TBH people will generally think you're a muppet if you go on about particular parenting styles - whether they are uninterested in kids or they are experienced parents already. There is no need to prescribe a 'style', it's arbitrary. Just be a parent and make your own decisions as situations come up.

WinkyisbackontheButterBeer, you can always rely on me to lower the bar .

I'm assuming the choice parenting kids are quite young. Mine is 7. I'm all for choosing their own clothes, but if I gave her a choice about what we did like that I'd never get anything done

just read this entire thing from start to finish and I've laughed so hard I've gone and fkn woke the baby up!! I wonder if she just wants the choice to go back to sleep or stay awake... I hope she doesn't pick the latter, that'll make for one damn overtired baby this afternoon!

also I think Gaelic, Wild, Gin and Smeaton totally win here!**

I'm actually quite upset - OP asked her friends for name suggestions but has completely ignored my suggestion of Magnet Ikea Wren....

The closest thing to choice Eithne* might get about going to the supermarket is probably "would you like to go with me to the supermarket or alternatively I can drop you at Móraí's and you can go to the garden centre with her instead." playing up the Irish here as we seem to have ambushed the thread

*not her used name. Most people don't even know it's her "official" name, I'm safe. Although I'm not telling you all how I pronounce it, I'll tell you where I'm from!

Am I supposed to have a parenting style??

Congratulations on being the first person ever in the history of the world to get pregnant. You sound really lovely.

I still think there are enough pages left on this thread to discuss labour stories. I'd start, but I'd put you all off your lunch. No, really, you won't have recovered by 12