AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

Stillsmiling, some people would pronounce it Ethna, in Dublin it would tend to be Etna.

In Donegal it would be Ain-ya (to rhyme with main).

Wild and Gaelic, which would you go with?

Extended family Sparkly. Have you any idea how difficult it is to get into the forces in this country? That IS what you're referring to? There was a ban on recruitment until fairly recently, apparently. Like the Gardai, and now there's a shortage.

True enough Wild. I did forget about the ban though as about 1/3 of my extended family are in the forces. My dad too. I was too short when I was young/fit enough to apply. [Grin] I'm too old now.

I'd go with Eth- neh.

Jealous? Your friends aren't jealous you're boring the bloody pants off them. IF this is genuine that is - surely no-one could be so self absorbed.

If nothing else this threads been entertaining

JHMJHM you are totally missing the point here.

Do they still have the height restriction? The Gardai don't, although in the old days, getting accepted there was almost miraculous!

Never too old, Sparkly😁

What a twat.

Not anymore afaik. Oooo maybe ops baby will be the youngest/shortest ever to enter The Irish Forces.

Ah I've gone down a different road now. Besides I don't think the kids would forgive me for leaving them to dhs cooking for 6 months. Hmmm wonder if I could swing an invite to fajita fridays for them. I'd have to send them meat in hand however.

GaelicSiog Thu 20-Apr-17 21:45:16
Oh, thank goodness wild. My sister who teaches is Rosie, I was getting worried grin no, really.

We have a nurse, two teachers, one in the gardi. Lots of the kids dance, I have a very stereotypical Irish profession. We are basically a walking ginger stereotype at this point.

I interrupt this amazingness to ask if GaelicSiog is a Leprechaun? or is that too stereotypically irish?

Gaelic and wild i have ya both beat, there was 14 of us reared in a 3 bedroom house, not one irish name between the whole lot of us though.

Wow, Dead! How were the bedrooms organised?

I can't stop talking about it
Yes you can. You just don't want to. Which is your choice - but it's your friends' choice if they want to sit there bored to tears by it. Don't make this about them behaving badly. You are, by not reading the room (whether because you're too self-absorbed to understand the effect you're having, or you know exactly how boring you are and you just don't care).

Babies have been being born for literally thousands of years. You are not the first person to get pregnant, and you will not be the last. Hell, you're not even the first or the last today to manage it.

I agree with a PP. Either your friends aren't interested in being pregnant, in which case you're being revoltingly boring, or they can't/haven't managed it yet, in which case you're being so horrendously cruel and rubbing it in their faces, I'm surprised you have any friends left at all.

OP here's an idea.

Next time you're meeting your chums take a box of party poppers with you. Share them out among the chums and ask them to let one off if they want to change the subject.

All the other people at the venue will think it's your birthday and may sing Happy Birthday To You so even if your friends find you tedious and self centered you will STILL be the centre of attention!

I had a friend like this. Made another friend's MC all about HER being pregnant at the same time. Then in the next breath issued invites to her own, self-organised baby shower.

I didn't go.

example, my sister in law does online food shopping, she won't take her sons to the shops because it's not something that they want to do.
Sounds like "I'm so desperate for you to love me you can do whatever you like and my world will revolve around you".

I can't wait to pick these children up at school.
And equally can't wait for the inevitable phone calls and long meetings where said parents tell me that I need to give their precious darling more choice.

Usually I don't get involved in good vs bad parenting but indulging kids, letting them be in charge etc is just bad parenting. Have fun when they're 15 and don't want to do their homework for their gcses because they want to go out

Well, I'm still laughing quite hard inwardly at 'Of course I have self-awareness! I work in HR!'

Ooh choice parenting sounds FUN. My son is 8 weeks old. "MiniMaxwell, would you like to shit all over the blue sleepsuit next, or the green one?" OP how do I tell which one he's choosing?

He does newborn lying down interpretive dance to tell you what his choice is, Fenella?

Lots of nasty comments here. The phrase bunch of bitches sprang to mind. OP I think you will end up seeing the old friends less and making lots of new friends at baby groups. I don t think you should suggest they plan you a baby shower. Just talk less about your pregnancy with them and try and stay calm xx

Mercury5000 - you took the words right out of my mouth!