AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

Have you already had the "reveal the gender party" OP? Maybe your friends are catty because you didn't plan one yet?

I have no idea what choice parenting is

Friends do not have to be baby obsessed to be good friends through pregnancy. One of my friends in particular was incredible when mine turned into a nightmare. She still has no children of her own, but we remain incredibly close. Maybe your friends would be like that if you let them OP

JHMJHM bullshit it may be, but I'll be damned if I've put this much effort into another thread just for the goady shit op to get it deleted again. Plus, it's rather funny.

JHMJHM, can you stop talking like some neanderthal down the pub on a Saturday night? Thank you.

Choice parenting is giving the child options in what they want to wear, what they want to eat & what they want to do. For example, my sister in law does online food shopping, she won't take her sons to the shops because it's not something that they want to do.

And I thought it was quite normal to ask for baby suggestions? My family and work colleagues ask me all the time if I have any ideas on names.

JHMJHM The magic only really happens when you play along. It's like a tennis match. Let OP play a shot. Play one back. Sip wine. Laugh. Enjoy.

Oh, and no refried beans, either. They're supposed to be made with lard.

Sorry, vegans.

Refried beans are just as nice made with olive oil.

JHMJHM - this may come as a total surprise to you, but if you don't like the premise of a thread you don't have to participate.

Push off now and leave the adults to their fun.

Come on HQ, you should really be making a comment about now. Kitchens and yummy fajitas aside, it's troll hunting galore and more than a bit suspicious, no?

Well, it's not a parenting style I would go for. I can't be doing with my life revolving around DD. But if that's what you want op, fine, just maybe your friends aren't interested.

Please tell me you do not have a plan for labour. Because labour is the one thing you can't plan.

Choice parenting is giving the child options in what they want to wear, what they want to eat & what they want to do. For example, my sister in law does online food shopping, she won't take her sons to the shops because it's not something that they want to do

Ah so choice parenting just means bad parenting. One of these God-awful parents that won't use the word 'no'. Gotcha.

You sound very taken with your SIL.

OP, if I may suggest a name, one that went down extremely well on MN recently was Tyga-lilli.

Ooooh I don't want to go into shops either OP. Maybe I'll start practising choice adulting

Oh and my life does evolve around my DC but I'm aware my friends' lives don't have to!

Oh, speaking of which, do you have your birth plan written up yet?

Ah, glad you've explained "choice parenting". No wonder your friends are heading for the hills. Going on about how fantastically superior you are to them, and making a declaration that you'll be raising an insufferable brat sorry I mean choice parenting- you wonder why they're rolling their eyes?!

OP, don't listen to Crapucino. You don't need no steenkin' birth plan. What you want to do is to hire an astrologer to find out the most propitious moment for your baby's birth and then schedule a c-section for that time.

Baby names? Mine is Eithne. Although we don't use that, we use her middle name, so I'm happy putting that on mumsnet. Eithne is so much prettier than a celeb name.

If you can't pronounce that, you're not Irish

I don't care about other people's parenting methods when they have the child, let alone before they've even had a chance to try parenting! I feel so sorry for your friends. There is literally no way I can describe to you how much of a pain in the arse you must be.

Because labour is the one thing you can't plan.

Is that you, Jeremy?

Although I say that, I do know an Eithne who pronounces it how it's spelt. I have never been sure what to make of that

Gin you are on fire