To elicit not to have children due to fair to medium chance of an early death

[ThatsJustHowIFeel]

Unfortunately our family line has two diseases in it which both claim people young. To my knowledge no one has survived beyond the age of 75.

I am 36 nearly 37

Of course I am 'over' the loss of my parents. But the loneliness, the difference and disconnect from my peers - are hard.

I always thought I'd like to be a mother but AIBU to consider this is perhaps selfish given I probably wouldn't live beyond their 30s?

Rufus

With a mum who adores them like you do, and moreover, someone who speaks compassionate sense - well I'm not surprised they are awesome. :)

You're right about a lot hackmum. I suppose a start is a proper health MOT.

knackered, thank you too. I do think in some ways I would be a loving if rather anxious mother, but it's hard to tell really! :)

Thank you very much thats

very moving how you right about the discombobulation of being a young adult with no parents

Agree with knackered

Just a thought, to put a different spin on things. both my parents are still alive, but my experience of college and graduation is similar to yours in that I was homeless and had no one who would come.
My point is, having parents doesn't mean life will be easy, you can't account for all outcomes. That isn't me being flippant or dismissive of you situation, but pointing out that it basically boils down to wether having children is worth the 'risk' to you. and only you can decide that.