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Sacrifice for 4 years maximum

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 21:57

for the life you want?

Do it?

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Splinters6 · 14/04/2017 23:13

Goldfishjane · 14/04/2017 23:16

Oh is it Silicon Valley? Just thinking with that combo.

I think tech in particular will have shifting "where's the best place to work" over the next few years. I guess a lot of this is about how you are fixed in terms of taking the risk.

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 23:18

Goldfishjane

That's the dream. That's where I am hoping to end up.

But of course, there's no guarantee that we'd end up in SV. I'd be happy elsewhere in the US. But definitely, the field I want to get into has more opportunities in the USA than where we are.

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 23:19

I think tech in particular will have shifting "where's the best place to work" over the next few years.

True. It could even be China, what with Baidu, etc doing amazing things in AI.

But my work opportunity is in the US. However it's a job I am not passionate about but I'd have to work in if I want this.

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 23:30

What happens at the end of four years, when the sacrifice is over? What's the payoff?

At the end of four years, I'd be free to pursue the job I want. However, of course, four years have passed by then.

My husband can work in his field from day 1. At least, starting when he finds a job.

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HashiAsLarry · 14/04/2017 23:31

With the updates, definitely go for it. Golden opportunities are golden opportunities. I'm assuming your DHs role would be a good earner, in which cae could maybe enable your to persue more of your dream?

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 23:35

I'm assuming your DHs role would be a good earner, in which cae could maybe enable your to persue more of your dream?

Yes, hopefully. Just I'd be tied to a job for four years.

It's kinda annoying to discover what you really want to do at the ripe age of 38. However, some people don't even find their passion all their lives so I guess I should be thankful.

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Beebeeeight · 14/04/2017 23:38

Why didn't your op just say

'I've been offered a job in California-should I take it?'

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 23:41

*Why didn't your op just say

'I've been offered a job in California-should I take it?'*

Because when I posted, that was exactly what I was thinking of - "is a four-year sacrifice worth it for a life you want?"

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HashiAsLarry · 14/04/2017 23:50

I think I missed something, sorry.
So its your career that would be trapped. Is it really though? I'm thinking football terms. Would there be scope for buyout?

Would 4 years closer the the centre of your love where you could research or dip your toes in benefit you more than staying at home?
I still think, as long as DH was on board, I'd take the opportunity.

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So2007 · 14/04/2017 23:59

Would 4 years closer the the centre of your love where you could research or dip your toes in benefit you more than staying at home?

Yes. So four years, and then I can pursue my passion. If I stay home, less opportunities. Way less.

But of course, this is if things pan out as I dream them to.

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Goldfishjane · 15/04/2017 00:05

How do you get into the US though?

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So2007 · 15/04/2017 00:18

How do you get into the US though?

I have an immigrant petition many years ago that has become current.

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gettinfedduppathis · 15/04/2017 01:06

This is like getting blood out of a stone

HerBluebiro · 15/04/2017 06:55

*Ok so far I'm not seeing the sacrifice. It all looks like a win.

Well, there's still the risk of not making it where we are going.*

HerBluebiro · 15/04/2017 07:00

Posted too soon Ok so far I'm not seeing the sacrifice. It all looks like a win.

Well, there's still the risk of not making it where we are going.

Life is a risk. But what you are talking about is taking a risk not a sacrifice. Not taking the opportunity is the sacrifice.

I'm unsure why you would be tied into a Meh job for 4 years. Couldn't you change once over there? But even if you are tied, my sister is a doctor. She has done loads of jobs she hated because that is what is demanded of her to get what she wants ultimately.

Again that's life. So few of us have a job that we love. Most of the time it is good enough and puts food on the table. Even passions can wane when you are doing it every day

Fruitboxjury · 15/04/2017 07:26

If you can come back to where you are now should things not work out in four years time, is there anything you could have achieved / done in that time that you will miss out on by going abroad?

I agree this is a very frustrating thread. Op if you're moving please take the feedback from here on how you've presented your case / situation and try to use it positively. It's very abstract, you could have got to the point in a fraction of the time.

CDAlady · 15/04/2017 07:38

OP I think you mean risk rather than sacrifice. That's what's been confusing people.

Go for it and good luck!

JanetBrown2015 · 15/04/2017 08:03

Ah sio this is really a thread bout submissive trailing spouses who follow big men's careers!

When will we have a thread about a woman offered a great job in California and her husband has to sacrifice all for 4 years to follow her dreams!

My husband moved hundreds of miles for my job. Why can't more men do that?

foxyloxy78 · 15/04/2017 08:13

Yes do it. California is amazing and it will so be worth it after four years. You'll both make it. Good luck.

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So2007 · 15/04/2017 09:07

When will we have a thread about a woman offered a great job in California and her husband has to sacrifice all for 4 years to follow her dreams!

Well actually if you read the thread, it's me who got offered the job. And we are both following our dreams.

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So2007 · 15/04/2017 09:09

My husband moved hundreds of miles for my job. Why can't more men do that?

Yeah he's doing this, too. The difference is, this will lead us both closer to our dreams.

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So2007 · 15/04/2017 09:10

It's very abstract, you could have got to the point in a fraction of the time.

Actually I did not really intend to discuss my situation. I just wanted to know, from different perspectives and different contexts, if a sacrifice of four years is worth it to follow a dream.

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So2007 · 15/04/2017 09:13

Sorry for the confusion everyone!

it will so be worth it after four years. You'll both make it. Good luck.

Thank you

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So2007 · 15/04/2017 09:14

OP I think you mean risk rather than sacrifice. That's what's been confusing people.

The sacrifice part is the "meh" job when I knew in my heart what I want to do.

Go for it and good luck!

Thank you!

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