To ask if you mind being called "Man"?

[ohnothisisme]

If you're a woman, do you mind being called "Mate" or "Man", "Dude" etc.? As in "Yeah man/dude, go for it".

There's a youngish guy in my office who frequently addresses the women (including me) like this, and I don't know why exactly but I really dislike it.

AIBU?

No it doesn't really interest me. I hear a lot about women being on the lower level as such, and worth less than men etc so why would you not want to upgrade to a term originally used for men but now acceptable to use for women? I mean do you want to stay at the bottom of the pit or would you like to be out and accepted? Not sure why men would want to lower themselves, in your view obviously.

I tend to say "Hello, everyone". I do use "guys" when it's a group of my children's friends but I try to remember not to! "Ladies and gentlemen" on occasion. Just "Good morning" sometimes.

I'm guessing the OP is not referring to formal settings where one would use proper terms such as 'ladies and gentlemen'.As she's asking about 'man', 'dude' one would assume she is referencing such informal environments where these terms are regularly used, e.g. Shops, car garages, delivery people etc.

Francis I prefer Guys to ladies and gentlemen at work! 'Folks' is another one that gets used at my work.

I think this thread shows that everyone has different views on what's ok and what's not. I think it's best not to get too worked up by these things! It's all really just personal taste, regional variation, etc

"inot. I think it's best not to get too worked up by these things! "

It is possible to be irritated by the "invisibleizing" of women without "getting worked up"

I don't mind the use of 'Chaps ' or ' Pep's' in an informal group setting . But
I cannot stand the term Mate it makes me cringe , I am either your friend or not but I am certainly nobodies 'Mate'

*Would you say that to a transwoman who wished to be called she?
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No, but I wouldn't call a woman 'he' either. However I would refer to a group of men and women (trans or not) as guys.

Depends who is calling me it - me and my brother always call each other 'man' as in 'alright man?' and I love that but not so sure about strangers calling me that.

Like being called 'mate' really miss it actually (no longer live in the UK)

Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I do however really hate terms such as 'love' ;chick' 'duck' (!) and so on. Any term of 'endearment; thats mainly used towards females.

I love being called man . My beloved dad was a Geordie and called me it .
My 19 year old musician son also calls me it and that's fine by me too .

I detest being called love, duck, darling and mate .

Doesn't bother me at all and I wouldn't bat an eyelid if I were.

Francis I personally won't stop using the term guys. I think the vast majority of people nowadays see this as a gender neutral term. TBH I think getting irritated by this sort of doesn't help feminism.

I am absolutely a feminist, but I believe there are so many other bugger issue we can put our energy into. If we want to drive real change we need to get people on board, not turn people off by niggling at something like this.

I don't care what anyone calls me as a term of endearment. People are getting so hung up on all this nonsense. It's just a word.

Have you seen flea bag where she gets mistaken for a man. Now that would offend me

I was in a charity shop once and the volunteer on the till called the customer "love".

The customer actually pulled her up on it and asked that she didn't call her love. I can't remember how she worded it exactly but I remember at the time thinking it was done in quite a rude way and wasn't really called for.

They were both women of roughly the same age (late 50s/early 60s) so not different genders or from from different generations.

I don't mind that, no that's it's often happened, what I dislike is being called "miss" when int he same circs a man would be called "sir".

Doesn't bother me. It's not as though it's an offensive term.

Way better than some 12_year old calling me 'love' or god help them, 'darlin''.

"I was in a charity shop once and the volunteer on the till called the customer "love".

The customer actually pulled her up on it and asked that she didn't call her love. I can't remember how she worded it exactly but I remember at the time thinking it was done in quite a rude way and wasn't really called for."

Pictures or it didn't happen.