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AIBU to not let my husband come on our day out tomorrow

142 replies

LazyDaisy29 · 14/04/2017 03:48

Hi all

My husband went to work tonight, he works in a bar in the evenings.
We have arranged a day out tomorrow with our 2 boys we have got a baby sitter for the baby so we can give them some time (baby is 4 months old)

He has gone to work tonight and come home drunk, we are meant to be getting up at 7 to sort everyone's stuff and drop baby off and get going

I have told him he's not coming, I think he will ruin it by being tired and hungover, and I'm angry cause he said he wasn't drinking and I had a gut feeling all night but he kept avoiding the question

If he was avoiding the question he must of known that I'd get angry. I don't care normally at all he can do what he wants but tomorrow is kind of a big deal

I feel my 2 boys have been left a little bit what with the new baby

I don't know what to do in the morning

OP posts:
AddictedtoSnickers · 14/04/2017 09:13

Take spare clothes for him OP and sick bags...! Hope you have a brill day. Who lets themselves be hungover when they know they will be spinning about and going on rides all day?? What a bellend!

ForTheLoveOfGrace · 14/04/2017 09:14

Seems you have three options -

  1. make him come tell him to grin & bare it for your boys sake

  2. go without him & leave him with the 4 month old to deal with a hangover!

  3. postpone for another day & stay at home telling him to take the boys out.

No matter what don't leave him at home sleeping that's achieving nothing & letting him get away with it

DameDeDoubtance · 14/04/2017 09:17

He has deliberately done this so that he can stay at home, how lovely. Make him come, otherwise what message does that send to the boys?

MrsJayy · 14/04/2017 09:19

Yeah I think he did it on purpose so the Op would go off on one and he didn't have to go,

Creatureofthenight · 14/04/2017 09:19

As far as I can see he hasn't suggested he's not coming?
So, get on with it as normal. His choice to do it with a hangover.
If he moans about hangover, shut it down, but otherwise just carry on with your hopefully fun day!

VimFuego101 · 14/04/2017 09:22

I'd make him come and make him suffer. I do not expect or give any sympathy for hangovers.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 14/04/2017 09:27

I wouldn't allow him the privilege of staying at home.
Get him on all the big rides OP ! 😄

HolditFinger · 14/04/2017 09:28

Does he often sabotage nice events or is this a genuine one-off? If he's being snappy before you're already out the door I'd tell him to piss off and go without him. Why should you put up with that when it's his own fault?

I'd also get dinner for you and DC on the way home and let him sort himself out.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 14/04/2017 09:35

I'm the Queen of Hangovers thanks, definitely think he should suck it the fuck up & stop being a mardy twat. He got pissed knowing full well what the day out entailed-as an adult you don't then sulk through the hangover & spoil your childrens day.
OP I'd be super enthusiastic & kill the twat with kindness.

MorrisZapp · 14/04/2017 09:39

'Oh no! My family have gone without me to have fun at the day out place, leaving me here with nothing but a sofa, the television and whatever I fancy eating! I certainly will change my ways because I don't want this to happen ever again'

Said literally no man ever.

alreadytaken · 14/04/2017 09:45

agree with post above.

HappyFlappy · 14/04/2017 10:01

Morris [grin}

HappyFlappy · 14/04/2017 10:02

Sorry!

Morris

Grin

And another Grin for my stupid fat fingers on the keyboard.

NavyandWhite · 14/04/2017 10:06

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0hCrepe · 14/04/2017 10:43

Sympathy op. Mine would've just grunted from underneath the duvet to let me know he wouldn't be able to make it. If he's showing willing that's ok. Stupid sod though getting pissed the day before a theme park!

Original poster
LazyDaisy29 · 14/04/2017 11:08

He asked if he could sleep on the way I said only if I can too Grin
all is ok
Except he stinks x

OP posts:
pictish · 14/04/2017 11:15

See I'd let him sleep on the way...probably do him some good in the long run, therefore making the day more pleasant all round.
So long as he's playing nice, be kind.

Creatureofthenight · 14/04/2017 11:17

Get him on the log flume or some sort of wet ride, that'll freshen him up!

Olddear · 14/04/2017 11:17

Bright and breezy all the way! Don't notice he's hungover...and get the guy on the waltzers to give his a really, really good extra birly spin! Wink

pictish · 14/04/2017 11:22

P.s I am pathetic with a hangover and glad my dh is a sweetie about it, bringing me chocolate Yazoo, painkillers and there-thereing me in general. I wouldn't engage in a tankful before a pre-planned kiddy day out for all the tea in China but seeing as he did, all he can do is uphold his end of the bargain with good grace...which it seems he is.

TheCakes · 14/04/2017 11:25

I regularly take my boys out solo. DH is a moody sod who doesn't get on with DS1, so we have more fun when he's not there.
Written down, that's pretty shit, isn't it?

TheCakes · 14/04/2017 11:26

Can your DH have a word with mine?

A1Sharon · 14/04/2017 11:40

if he does start being an arse during the day, pull him aside and read him the riot act.
He is not to be rude, snipey, a PITA. He sticks a smile on and gets on with it.
Have a fun day.

rainbowstardrops · 14/04/2017 11:46

Selfish arse!
I'm glad you didn't let him wallow at home OP. Chessington with a hangover Grin

Instasista · 14/04/2017 11:48

He's a grown man- how can you either make him or not let him come? My DH would just do whatever he wanted.

I've had to struggle on many family days out with hangovers Smile it's no big deal. Bit of fresh air and he'll be right as rain